YES OH MY GOSH ITS SO ANNOYING.
like, i loveee affection, dont get me wrong, but it gets to a point where u just want him to leave u alone.
my recent ex was like this and YES it's one reason he's an ex.
"hey baby, text me when u get on the bus, then again when ur on the train, and when ur at uni. also let me know when you're on break so i can call you:)))"
UHMMMM... exsqueeze me? im not a baby, ill be ok i promise father.
at a restaurant [open buffet] he'd get me my plate, all good right? BUT every time id want to reach for something...
"dw baby let me do that for you. more? ... here have more hahaha. wait wait i'll get u ur cutlery"
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the one i hated most. the amount of times he said "i love you". when you say something so much it really begins to lose its meaning and it reached a stage where it was irritating me.
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i can all explain this. while it is gentlemanly, I'm quite independent overall. i also like my relationships unpredictable and flirty, with affection like that used sparingly. id love to know a man is thinking of me and loving me, but sometimes a girl really just needs her space. so i didn't vote in the poll because my vote is "not too much care, and not too little".
what can i say? I'm a libra, i balance.
There was this guy and he cared about me so much, (phone calls, texts, caring questions, thinking about me all the time, complimenting me etc.) it made me feel inadequate. Actually, very inadequate, as if I couldn't take care/care for myself. If you think about a girl all the time, you should probably keep it to yourself. Not that girls don't think about some guys all the time, but it's guilt-trippy to hear that when you don't feel the same way. Girls love to be cared for. If you put your hand in her shoulder (as long as she doesn't dislike physical touch) then that is a sweet thing. Pick up on the things they do when you do things like this. If you have a thing with a girl, of course she is going to like it if you tell her you care, etc, and play with her hair or get her a flower or whatever, but just don't overwhelm her.
Show SOME care, like I don't want him to suffocate me to deaths with his caring abilities. He needs to understand that I do need my space.
Some girls will say not too much care because they're used to it and get bored of it, and then there are girls who will want a hella amount of attention because they've never seem to have gotten any. You have to analyze your girl and see what she wants. I've been with girls who ended up even cheating on me cause I gave them too much attention but my current girlfriend just loves it when I give her attention.
Then there's the side from the dude, there are guys who naturally don't give their girls as much attention as they want but then there are those guys who can't help but give attebtion because of the overwhelming amount of love that they have for their girl.
So I guess the bottom line is that it's all about compatability and finding the right kind of person that you want. I know this was a question for the girls but a lot of their opinions seemed very self centered, oblivious, ignorant and outright unappreciative. So I hope this helped.
Rule no. 57
Treat the girl with only 73% care. No more no less. Otherwise you'll either be considered a selfish or slave.
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We girls are like cats. Show us too much affection especially when we don't want it and need our space because yours "caring" starts to seem like an unhealthy obsession then we'll scratch, his, and bite. However, if you don't show us enough especially when we want and need it then we either try to grab your attention, and for some look else where for the love and attention need which we know you wouldn't like. There's such a thing as too much off a good thing and too little of a good thing. There should be a balance to make it just right. o3o
It's so hard to find balance. When you start a new relationship, work out different levels. People will show you how much they need by how much they give. If you aren't getting enough attention, you should be able to talk with your partner gently about meeting your needs, and vice-versa. Compromise and dedication can make or break it. Look into the "five love languages", because every style of relationship is different and if you don't know what to look for you might not see the little ways that they care for you.
Some of the girls like being cared by boyfriends and some, don't. But u should treat ur girlfriend between those 2 situations. You can care her when she's sick or she tells u she's in a bad mood and need a man or she wants to eat something or maybe she needs something. U should show her ur love, kindness and warmth to her at those times by behaving very serious about her and give her what she wants. But things concerning with jealousy like: giving her frequent phone calls, getting angry because of her guy friends, etc don't mean caring her. It's a kind of controlling and bullying. So u shouldn't. But u can worry her not to eat this or that because of her health or maybe the similar things so that she realize that u really love her.
Too much care is definitely bad because we need to see that your being happy too and you have some life away from us, the same as you would want for us but nether of us can have space apart if your always on us all the time. It would be worse for me because i'm bad at expressing my feelings so if a guy is always asking me if i'm ok id get really frustrated and annoyed getting distant.
Honestly, I want him to care a little, but not too much. I feel like I would be suffocated if he kept on calling, texting, and what not. A nice good morning, good night and in the between ones would be nice.
I also hope he wouldn't be none caring at all. Sadly I had a crush on someone who was like that and found out quickly that I did not want to be with him at all.
SHOW CARE, if he's not then ahem ahem something is wrong (?) I wouldn't find it annoying, I would find it kinda cute actually. But yes, there is a limit for everything, you don't have to show so much care in everything you do I mean c'mon, live your own life too, think about yourself too haha. If my guy was only carrying for me I would do the same back to him by 10x :p
It all depends. You want to show a girl you care but not over do it to the point where it gets annoying. If you feel that you are starting to irritate her then back off a little bit and if she starts to act funny around you then go back to how you were. But if you back off and she acts different in a good way then just stay there and see where it needs to go.
I think this probably depends on the personality of the recipient and how much they like whoever is "caring." But generally showing care is better than no care at all in any situation. Though I can say there may be a point where it becomes too much. I had a boyfriend who would tell me he loved me every 2 min. I appreciated that he said it, but after a while it got rather irritating and made the sentiment less special because of it's constant repetition.
lol I didn't understand how to vote in the poll because it did not make sense to me but I voted anyway so that I could see the results.
I love to be cared for and caring about my personal space is also a way a guy can show me that he cares
Trust me this is universal for both men and women we both love affection but we also need our space as well. And allowed the ability to do things for ourselves love and affection is great just know when to do it and when not to do it. Same goes you gals to know when to be affectionate to a guy and when to leave us be for a bit lol.
Personally I would prefer less care. Not "no care". I'm a really independant person and I prefer to be treated like a friend. I dont call my friends every day, I dont see them every day, I dont text them 24/7. I would prefer a guy to treat me as a friend in terms of clingy-ness.
Omg, I had a guy constantly call me after work asking if I took my meds with food or milk, if I cleaned my ears, etc.
He was a dad too, so I don't know if it was dad instinct. But either way I don't want a man who treats me like his 12-year-old daughter. -__-
Show some care. Not too little but not too much. Too much calling can be annoying especially if I don't feel the same way. Or if he likes me or is crazy about me but I have no feelings for him. Not all about him. There's a lot with that and being too much.
If i am really attracted to a guy, he can be as caring and straight forward as he wants and ill think its really sweet and hot that he cares about me or would want to protect me. I obviously wouldn't appreciate it as much if i wasn't attracted to the guy. But generally it is always nice to show that you care
What time I told a girl that she was beautiful, and if she would like to get coffee with me, and then shanked me in the eye with a prison knife... Then once the LSD wore off I realized I was in a prison cell full of men.
I voted no care. However, it's JUST as irritating if he's caring too much. I hate talking on the phone, and I'm in grad school so I'm always busy. I don't mind the texting back and forth, but hitting me up ALL the time is just going to make me not want to respond lol.
To an extent I think this goes both ways but everyone takes it differently. Either way you should appreciate getting too much than not enough. JUSSSTTT SAAYYYINNG! :P
I don't mind if they care for me, but it's when they have all of these female friends who get in the way and ask for help. I don't want a guy who is THAT friendly to the point where it takes away from us spending quality time together.
I've gotten used to it after receiving millions of phone calls after I post any photo on Facebook or instagram or any tweet about a guy he doesn't know but looks suspicious in the boyfriend filter. But I think it's sweet. :)
If its done in a healthy way, and not in a needy clingy way. I believe its fine to show care.
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