Is there really such a thing as sweet and innocent girls any more in this modern age?

[Anonymous]

find I meet these girls around here , they often at work or online look sweet and innocent , at least that's how they want employers or parents to view them but as you get to know them that's not the case at all. there not even virgins and have already had sex long ago by now , they drink and party on the weekend , have tattoo's and piercings , post sexy photo's to social media pages for everyone to see. I'm not necessary saying there is anything wrong with there behaviour more they try and put out a public image of themselves which is much different from reality to try and appear more innocent.

maybe its not them but just the modern era , birth control is more readily available than ever before , the pill is used by many young women these days and sex is carefree once risk of a baby disappears. drinking is also very common among young women and some of them enjoy it and drink often. social media has also created a space for them to post pictures that didn't exist in years past and a sexy bikini pic isn't really seen as a big deal anymore when compared to what people sext to each other.

so I guess my question was is there still truly any sweet and innocent girls in this modern era or our the girls of today simply living in a more openly sexual era than before? where some tradionally " bad behaviour " is written off as younger experimenting

[xDocilexFaeriex]

Not EVERY girl is like that, and it's not JUST girls... you guys too. I never got drunk and am against doing drugs :) !! I didn't really drink at all, until I turned 21, and that's like 5x A MONTH lol!! I've met party people, but they aren't my kind of crowd. I have 3 tattoos, and ear piercings, 1 body piercing (but that's just creative expression for me) Don't stereotype. You are very conservative. I have an innocent sense about me. I don't party at college. School is more important. I'm sexual, in the bedroom, but not dominant. I'm submissive, which makes me feel innocent, even then. Currently I am in a relationship, and have been for a year. In the past, I didn't date for fun, I dated to find someone to be in a relationship with, long term. I was scared to be with most for a long period of time, because I don't trust easily. Some didn't want a relationship, which was unfortunate. I've never had sex at a party and didn't have sex AT all until I was 19!!! I also didn't f every guy I was with. I wear classy normal length clothing. I'm also into traditional gender roles :D

[Asker]

some girls don't wait till 19 to have sex which was sort of one of my points about how modern girl was more sexual than in years past. I would agree waiting till 19 might be a good idea as in high school relationships and sex can come a bit early and be more than some can handle then. I'm politically conservative in the sense but not necessary religiously conservative , I'm not against a girl partying at college or going to a bar with friends and having a drink , just saying a lot do this now and maybe that is leading to behaviour some might feel was in bad judgement. and that since that behaviour is so common its not a big deal anymore when it happens

[xDocilexFaeriex]

Makes sense. I guess I am just one of the few girls who don't do that stuff

[Tammy94]

It depends on what you mean by sweet and innocent. I very rarely drink, I don't party and I don't sleep around. I'm generally very friendly, i don't like rudeness or violence, and I love animals and give some of what little money I have (student here!) to charity. I try to be nice to everyone i meet and have to deal with, and I try to treat my boyfriend in a very loving way. But as for being sweet and loving with my boyfriend: I'm not a virgin, I'm on the pill, and he and I have sex very often. We are in love, I plan on marrying him, if that means anything, and sex is a natural part of us being in love. So I don't know if I meet your definition of sweet or not, but I do my best. :-)

[Asker]

you sound like a nicer girl than some of the ones I described here , I wouldn't expect many girls to have never had sex by 21 and I did mention the pill is very common by that age as well. part of my post was how I felt the modern girl was more sexual than in years past , not necessary that I felt that was wrong in the sense but that times and social values had changed.

[Anonymous]

Well I was ready to argue with you but after reading your examples, I agree with you actually lol. I feel like i'm living in the twilight zone sometimes with how people (not just women) are today. So many people are so obsessed with instant gratification, it's like no one values anything deeper anymore.

The only thing I was going to say is that some girls can be sweet and innocent and still stand up for themselves and have independent thought. Some guys, especially on here, are so quick to think that women who are capable of those things, aren't sweet and innocent still and that's not really fair.

[Asker]

find where I live there is a lot of younger women who put out a "public image " of them being nice/sweet and innocent for when there at school or work but as soon is there away from that , the sexy bikinis come out and alcohol gets pouring. they want people to think there nice but some of them really have other concerns in life mainly partying and booze. my point was these girls are acting one way to please certain people in there life but really want to act another once there away from them

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah but a lot of people are like that. They show what they want you to see at the moment. Guess that's why it's best to really get to know someone first.

[Asker]

my post is kind of confusing , I'm sure there is nice girls at the beach who aren't looking for sex or male attention but today's swimwear is so tiny they have no choice but to show off there body if they want to go to the beach , you'd rarely see a younger women in a one piece anymore. but are some who clearly want the attention and post endless revealing and sexual pics to there social media pages of them in bikini after bikini

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah it was a little confusing, so I was ready to argue with you, then I actually read what you said. I've never understood the bikini thing either, even when I was younger, it felt like I was going outside in my bra/panties. I always wear a bikini with like a cover up over it because it's kind of uncomfortable lol.

I think girls just start dressing more revealing earlier on in life now and of course social media is everywhere and influencing everyone.

[Asker]

I saw 2 girls at the beach today , they appeared to be nice girls although there bikini's were very small and revealing , I'd say they were nice cause the one was there with her dog on the dock as well and her friend was lying on her belly and reading a book. I can't see a girl going to the beach and reading a book if she was looking for a guy or sexual attention. it just seemed like they were showing off body cause of the heatwave and style of swimwear not cause they wanted guys to see it

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah, that's possible too. It's really hot here so I understand lol

[Vesuvius87]

A 30-35 year-old man still looking for virgins?
I had sex with a past boyfriend and that's about it. If you considered a woman that had a relationship as dirty too then guess you're right, you have a very slim chance of finding virgin women in their 30's?

[Asker]

I'm not looking for virgins , that is not something I even put any though into when I meet people. I made reference to them not being a virgin cause they gave off such an impression when in public that they were such when they really weren't , its not like it matter for there job if they were a virgin or not , that's not really an employers business , I just felt they wanted some people to view them more innocently than they really were

[Vesuvius87]

Why you care too much about what other women are like? Look for what you're seeking.
by the way those girls aren't the majority.

I don't get what's wrong with drinking once in a long while at a social or family gathering. It's called relaxing for once in your life.

[Asker]

some of these girls drink a lot , I would agree there is nothing wrong with occasional drinking , guess I was thinking of an ex who acted all nice and lovely in public then got hammered every weekend and was a heavy drinker

[Anonymous]

I hope so... I would say the real "good girls" are very hidden, There are many "fake good girls" in this world...

You just got to find them...

[Asker]

I had an ex who was a fake good girl , well maybe she was a good girl when she was younger but something changed when she hit a certain age , drinking just seemed to take over but she'd still put out an impression of being nice to everyone else and her employers when really she just wanted to get drunk

[Opinion Owner]

The fake good girls hide it well...

They seem really nice, sweet, smart, caring.. you name it... but it's all just a cover...

There are actual nice girls out there! They are just harder to find because they are hidden, shy, focused on their life...

[Asker]

that ex had a really good cover , she definity hide it well from the world what she was really like , she worked at a golf course as a server and when there seemed like the sweetest thing you had ever seen but after a few drinks I doubt anyone there would of recognized her

[Opinion Owner]

So sad... But I actually feel bad for girls like that, because they end up having so many problems and are never happy with life...

[Asker]

she also had her facebook profile set up to make her look better , her public profile featured very classy pics of her and made her look very descent and not a single drinking pic , but once you added her as a friend you could see her other pictures and there was a picture from each weekend and in just about everyone she had an alcoholic beverage in her hand or was drunk at a bar or party. any kind of event that featured alcohol she was there drinking in the pictures this was hidden for only her friends to see , other people or possible employers who might look her up online wouldn't be able to see the real her

[Asker]

she was a very heartbreaking girl to deal with , she ended up leaving the country to work in Thailand of all places , haven't heard from her in months , no idea how she is doing or if she drinks when over there or not , I guess she choose to simply escape from reality for a while , at some point her work permit will expire and she'll have to come back?

[Opinion Owner]

If she is ex, you just need to go no contact... Don't talk to her, think about her and focus on finding someone else or even focus on yourself if you are not ready...

What she does now is not your issue anymore, you tried, it didn't work out and you know the real her now...

[Asker]

its pretty easy to go no contact when the girl is in asia , she blocked me long ago online and on her phone anyways , but she'd still talk to me in person at local pub for whatever reasons , then all of a sudden she announced she was leaving and was gone. it feels weird that she is not around , she always used to be around and highly visible during the summer especially at bars around here. I do wonder what she'll be like when she returns or if i'll even see her again

[Opinion Owner]

It sounds like you are not over her, and you are overthinking...

Screw her!

It doesn't matter if you see her or not... If you do, then you do... but don't overthink it...

This girl kind of hurt you, but there are so many good girls out there! They want to be found by you, but you are busy focusing on her! You deserve better man!

[ParamountArmada]

girls get what they want without obstacles like guys have to deal with, so no there are no girls like that

[Asker]

girls tend to find jobs much easier here than guys , all the girls I know easily find jobs without even trying and employers tend to over look discretions like partying on weekends or rediclous social media posts. or how many visible tattoo's or piercings they have. as look is there a younger women who has a half descent resume they will get hired

[Anonymous]

Why are you so judgmental, is my question. And why are you so oppressive to women? There's nothing wrong with anything you named. People can have sex, people can drink, people can celebrate. It's like you don't want people to have any fun. You're very oppressive. You seem very thoughtfully miniscule to me.

[Asker]

I'm not oppressive to women , I was simply trying to point out what our modern girls have become. things have clearly changed and whats acceptable behaviour is much different now than in years past. lets say before the 1950's it would of been unheard of for a young women to go out on weekends and get drunk and have sex with a random guy , tattoo's on women are also a modern thing , really not common at all till last 10-20 years. well there common now it never happened in years past. so there is a lot that has changed in last few decades

[Lostsoulman]

I think he is saying he doesn't care about the girls who do that, it's their life...

He is wondering if all girls are like that, or there are actually girls who don't party and sleep around.

[Máiiréad]

You're in your thirties, don't worry about what girls do and start looking into dating women. You can't be picky with this day and age, neither gender is going to be "sweet and innocent".

[BettyWhite]

There might be.

I am a respectful lady in public, and prefer to be sweet. But when I am with my long term boyfriend, we have fun and I can be a bit naughty. Only for him.

[Anonymous]

Men and women have a lot of the same sexual urges what kept woman seeming more innocent was the fear of pregnancy and social stigma... remove both and they are free to make their own decisions and enjoy their bodies. Woman weren't any more innocent then they are now just more restricted in my opinion.

[NatashaBeauty]

I'm good and innocent. I have no choice with my overprotective older brother being around. I don't have any social media. I do have lots of sexy bikinis but I'm allowed to wear whatever I want. And my daddy is rich so I can have kids whenever. I don't have any ratios or piercings. I'm still a virgin I don't take any pills I don't drink or do drugs. And i dont care what people think of me bc no one but my daddy and my brother matters. So yeah!

[DocRim]

It's more of a cultural matter. It's not a secret that our modern day society has became more sexually-open, but it's not rare to find the girls you just described in more traditional countries.

[Asker]

I guess , I live in north America and find sex tends to happen fairly early here , there is some that don't experience it during high school but is a lot that do and then college gets very wild and even crazier things happen by then , most girls party heavily when in college here

[Anonymous]

My sweetest, "nice guy" virgin til he was 20 cousin is now shockingly having an affair. By the time you're our age, life gets complicated.

[Splintercell]

Before writing this you shouldn't generalize women. Yes the are bad girls out there but, if you look closely and observe the ladies you will find a good catch to treat well that is a keeper.

[Asker]

I realise not all the women out there are the same , I've just meet a lot over the years who pretended to be nice but really were just that way at work and real them was not so nice at all

[WillowTree]

You make our lives seem so simple and straightforward without caution or concern. I must be doing something very, very wrong.

[frecklejuice]

I think people become exposed to sexual material at such a young age because of the digital era that we're living in.

[Anonymous]

Here is some jelly to go with your dusty crusty weird ass. You need help

[Anonymous]

Look how old you are complaining girls aren't virgins lol.. how? Are you aiming for teenagers or something?

[Anonymous]

Welcome the the 21st century. Maybe you should convert to be a Mormon and live in Arizona.

[Asker]

well that was partly my point that modern women are much different than in years past , I've seen a fair number of religious girls with tattoo's and piercings even they aren't as innocent as they look

[Aeon_Flux_21]

Uhh girls were never sweet and innocent. Modern day women are women in their true form.

[BuchitaBuchys]

Lol why is that so important?

[Anonymous]

Are you a good virgin boy? Why do women always have to be the perfect virgins? This pisses me off! It's so stereotypical. Men get congratulations on sleeping around and women get slut shamed. Men don't even have a word for them like slut, whore etc.

[Asker]

I wasn't saying I expected these girls to stay virgin's forever , obviously there going to have sex at some point , guess was more pointing out its more excepted now for a young women to engage in sexual activity at a younger age and that some of the younger women having sex and naughty things can appear to be innocent when really there not

[Thisperson98]

There was never any innocent girls to begin with.

[Asker]

not even when they were younger?

[Thisperson98]

You want to date kids?

[Asker]

no , put felt some of them might of been that way when younger

[Thisperson98]

Girls might act innocent, but they are just as innocent as guys.

[Yanoa_Yanza]

Of course, they will always exist

[TheButterfly]

You must be very repressed

[Dimmu]

Yea some girls don't go beta kitten