How do I look more threatening, intimidating and tough in public?

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This dude followed me a bit then he was talking to me but I felt bad ignoring him so i replied.

He asked me about my age then he said I'm lying because there is no way I'm 21 and i look 16 ( I was wearing no make up so I looked like a kid) then he asked me what i was studying i said "law, why do you talk to a girl who looks 16?" He said wow slow down are you trying to sue me for pedophilia miss lawyer ;P?
And from that point i started lying about everything including my name, but he was so funny and nice i felt like shit when i was lying tbh.

He begged for my number and he begged to walk with me (he was begging for like 15 minutes, (I was waiting in front of a shop to open and i thought he was doing the same but nope he just stopped to talk to me).
I ended up promising him to send him a message because he took one of my hairs that was on my coat and i freaked out ( we believe that we can use black magic with hairs in my country) so i told him to give my hair back he said only if i message him right now so I promised him to do it once i get home and he gave me back my hair and left.

It's easy to ignore the really creepy guys, but the ones who look nice and are funny you kinda feel like shit ignoring them when they're right in front of your face!

I just want to be tough and look more intimidating but all my friends tell me i look like an easy prey T_T How can I tough up! I don't want to be put in these situation anymore T_T I just feel bad ignoring people face to face when they're being funny and nice.

Please don't say crazy things >< I'm serious!

Lightspeed-Lemon · Accepted Answer

Shake your head and speak to them in another language to make it look like you don't understand them at all. Look at your watch like you're late for something, apologize, and walk faster. Text a friend and ask them to call your phone, then pick up and start talking to them. (Or say to the guy, "Can I ask you a question? Have you heard the word of the Lord?" Lol. At least in my culture, that seems to repel people like nothing else.)

Don't fall prey to strangers but don't fall prey to naive superstitions either. He's more likely to use your hair for human cloning than for black magic. Not to belittle your faith, but there is a difference between belief in God/Allah and his power, and believing humans can possess similar powers through witchcraft and wizardry. Imagine if the next time someone threatened to cast spells you had to the power to simply shrug and say, "Ok, have fun with that," as if they just said the most childish thing ever. Any power that black magic has over people really comes from their ignorance.

Yumix · Accepted Answer

"but I felt bad ignoring him so i replied."

there's your mistake. all you need to tell him is that you are not interested and that he should please stop following you. starting to talk to those people will make them think that you are interested, which you obviously aren't.

You're doing the same mistakes over and over again lol... this is the 3rd or 4th time you post similar questions. You feel bad ignoring him? Lying is worse. If you tell him politely that you are not interested, then you have done your job. If he's disrespectful and ignoring what you said, then he doesn't deserve anything better.

You don't need to look intimidating, I doubt you really can. All you need to do is follow some basic rules.

btbc92 · Accepted Answer

Your biggest mistakes are PAYING ATTENTION to these men. Stop it. The more attention you give, the more they know yoru weaknesses and will intimadate you into dating them. You don't need to look tough. Men that are creeps don't care how tough you look. Your a woman, so they know how to ruffle yoru features just because of your gender. If you don't show them that you mean business, then they won't take you seriously. If your not prepared to street fight, fight in general, etc, then it's useless. You don't want to put up with those situations, then stop feeling bad for these people. They're the ones disrespecting you. It's harassment and they are invading your personal space. The next time that happens, call the cops. Tell somebody in yoru family. And yes, I know about that, it's witchcraft either way in any country. That is why you watch who you get involved with and don't let any and everybody touch you.

BeeNee · Accepted Answer

You shouldn't feel the need to have to change who you are to try and attempt avoiding something happening that I can assure you, will probably happen no matter what you wear, how much make up you do or don't have, what you carry, where you walk, etc.

When these type of unwanted situations occur, a firm no, I'm busy... don't want to talk... am not interested etc is good. If it gets intense, you shouldn't have to be the one to, but for your sense of well being, walk away, or threaten to or actually call the police.

In your situation, you had the right to say, I don't want to talk to you or you're making me feel uncomfortable or to walk away if he didn't leave you alone, but you chose to keep talking. There was nothing holding you there. Sometimes leaving the situation or being firm is what you need to do if you want people to leave you alone.

Pearl97 · Accepted Answer

I'm a fairy small person (5'2 and 110) people don't approach me cause of the vibes they get from me.

1. I have a natural bitch face in public. I don't know why.

2. I've been kickboxing for 5 years now and it automatically gives me more confidence and I just take zero bs and they just back off.

3. Keep your back straight and walk fast.

*Some are nice but can come off as too much or you just don't wanna give out your info. I don't have the heart to be mean to anybody without a reason so I keep it polite and professional and just hold on to your NO.

Máiiréad · Accepted Answer

Do what I do, have resting bitch face. I shit you not, it works like a charm.
But seriously, if you want someone to leave you alone, you have to give them an evil stare.
This is Cara Delevingne. She is a pretty model. But she is also great at having RBF. Do this face when you want people to leave you alone.
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RJGraveyTrain · Answer

You don't have to look threatening, you just need to say NO. Stop feeling "guilty" if a guy creeps on you and pushes you because you think he's "nice", if he was nice he wouldn't be pestering you.

If he asks you about your age, just tell him no disrespect, but it shouldn't matter to him. if he asks for your number, say no thank you. Yes, he might get his feelings hurt but tough tits, that's life. He'll get over it. If he continues to follow you straight up ask him why he's following you. It tends to shock and fluster them enough that they get the picture. You just need to stop passively accepting it and then encouraging it.

Blonde401 · Answer

He's a groomer. So he's good at making you feel at ease. Just tell people to fuck off and keep walking. You're not obligated to talk to ANYONE. Go to self defence classes like I did. I'm not scared of any man, I've punched guys before for getting handsy or threatening and they crapped themselves out of surprise that I don't play nice 👿 Walk into shops and things and they'll usually leave you. Just walk tall and be confident and don't put up with shit at all.

IronPickle · Answer

no matter how tough u act, guys are still gonna approach you. When they start making u uncomfortable, you need to quit caring about their feelings and remove yourself from the situation. :) tell them you're busy and have to meet up with someone soon or something and can't stop to talk. Start walking and don't stop. It's not rude of you to avoid someone that is creeping you out. If other people are around... try to get them involved. Go up to them and compliment them on their outfit or something and get a convo going. That way ur not alone with the creeper guy

harabi · Answer

How to look threatening, intimidating in public?
Put one hand under your coat , like reaching for something, or in your bag and scream ALLAH AUKBAAAAAAAAAAR!
Or, if you don't want excess attention, just tell him that you're Muslim and have five brothers, so he better be careful. Very careful! With an eerie smile..
Or - if too shy for the above - another one both funny and creepy. Can serve as a good prank too - take out your smartphone and play on it Saleel Sawarim, in a video with all those rockhard jihadis and tell him that's your favorite track, ask if he likes it, if not - why and then is he meaning to offend your culture?

Kachatterjee · Answer

The black magic was already on, he had a spell on you already. Be extremely careful, and if possible give yourself completely to him, surrender...

Bluemax · Answer

If you want to "toughen up," you might try a solid, guiltless "no." I wouldn't worry about hurting the feelings of men you reject. It's OK to feel compassion, but you have done nothing wrong. It is the circumstances which are hurtful, not you.

I think it's admirable to feel compassion for people who are hurt, but it's not healthy to feel guilt over something you can't control.

About the magic thing, mind if I recommend a very good book on the subject?

SarahsSummer · Answer

i dont think looking tough or intimidating is the answer. there's an old saying in my country the goes "don't cut off your nose to spite your face" you dont want to stopp being you for the sake of a few. just learn to better express yourself to the people you dont want getting into your personal space.

Notorisch_Arschloch · Answer

It's the eyes. When people look in your eyes, if they can tell it would mean as little to you as having Cheerios instead of corn flakes to watch them bleed out in a gutter, and would require about as much consideration, they leave you alone.

Even if you don't look capable of it, it bothers people to know they're in the presence of a remorseless person whose predatory instincts are only barely held in check by the threat of the rule of law's enforcers coming en masse.

Rainie_ · Answer

I have a resting bitch face but I still get hit on lol. Not much you can do but ignore them or politely say you're not interested. Not like you're going to see these people ever again anyhow.

If you wanna be extra then wear wedding ring, when they start talking to you run your fingers through your hair or scratch your jaw and he'll see it. 😛

JC103 · Answer

Yeah... looking tough is useless because there's always someone that's going to try. I'm 6'5" and I couldn't tell you how many times I've been jumped and gotten into shit. Take safety precautions; there are apps you can use and classes you can take. Also you should take a stand

underconstuxion206 · Answer

If you look like a doll it's not just bc of your physical appearance, it's also how you hold yourself (your posture), you have to change your attitude and how you interact with guys, physical appearance only works until they talk to you, how you act plays a big part also.

Wolfinwolfclothing · Answer

Height plays a big role in intimidation.
I'm not sure why you used the word 'intimidating', but here are a few things you can do
Look businesses-like.
Any display of confusion should be avoided.
Don't speak too much and avoid using cutesy voice.
But this will make you appear boyish, which you may or may not like

ThisDudeHere · Answer

"we believe that we can use black magic with hairs in my country"

rubyrose83 · Answer

Work on your resting bitch face, it works for me. I send a very clear "fuck off" vibe :)

peachblossomluck · Answer

You need to quit feeling badly for these people. They are preying on you. You need some kind of weapon or defense tactic. You also need learn to ignore them and not be afraid to injure them if they bother you.

Izumiblu · Answer

Wear a ring on your ring finger, keep headphones in your ears, wear sunglasses so your eyes can't be seen. If you are sitting... read something, or pretend you are reading something.

Phoenix98 · Answer

You just don't have that side to you, some people have it others don't.  Also you let things progress to far, you gotta make it clear you are not interested.  Also carry a taser or learn martial arts.

SovereignessofVamps · Answer

Next time, just don't keep talking to him. He's being funny and nice to fuck. he doesn't sound nice at all. He already broke boundaries, emotional and physical...

Hans222 · Answer

That's not easy... but next time you notice him around go walk next to the most muscular guy you can locate 8) maybe that will help :D He sounds like a creep, hopefully he's given up!

Goldie757 · Answer

1. Try putting on a resting bitch face. 2. Wear earphones/headphones and pretend you can't hear them.

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