Research the term: hypergamy
Girls today have been told since they were children that they were special snowflakes and better than boys. And that one day a prince would sweep them off their feet. We call it the disney dream syndrome. They are completely unrealistic about their true value and have been programmed by the FI to seek out the best looking, tallest, and most powerful alpha men. So 80% of them are chasing 15% of the guys.
Unfortunately, these 15% have no reason to commit since they can get all the pussy they want FOR FREE. Which leaves the rest of the guys out in the cold.
Worse, when little snowflake gets the pump and dump from prince charming, she actually thinks she can snag a guy like that, so it inflates her self image and value beyond ridiculous. Which makes it even harder to find someone compatible. And you'll hear them say, "I am not going to settle." And this is where this comes from.
So they ride the cock carousel from 18 to 30, party down, never finding the right guy, because the ones fucking them don't want them anyway, but they get to the end of their youth (30) and now realize they should have chosen a compatible guy and settled down, cuz now all those good guys have been snatched up and they're left with the dregs. So they settle for some weak beta guy hoping he'll change, which he doesn't, and after getting married and having a kid (s) she is no longer attracted to this chump so quits having sex. You hear all those complaints. So now she'll just shut down sexually, or bail out, or if the right handsome guy comes along and pays attention to her she is likely to have an affair or blow up the marriage, take the kids, and half of everything this guy owns, and get child support - basically gets rewarded for completely fucking the guy over. This is the feminine imperative. And they feel completely justified in doing whatever they want. You'll hear them say, 'my body, my choice.' Sure. Uh huh.
And this goes on and on and on. Now you know where the MGTOW movement comes from. A lot of guys have decided it's just not worth it.
If you want to play the game you need to hit the gym, hard, and make lots of money. Then you can have pick of the best. Get a pre-nup before you marry her, so when she goes off the rails you won't lose have your shit.
Good luck out there! :)
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I think that an element of risk offers excitement and the safe bet often doesn't. Young people aren't necessarily looking to be safe and loved, they are often looking to feel excited and alive. They are looking to explore, to push boundaries. You have that much greater sense of immortality and invulnerability when you are young. You're not looking for the pipe and slippers option, you're looking for the fireworks. The bad boys, if there is such a thing, offer more of a thrill than Mr Consistent who never strays far from the middle line.
hmmm... how do you define bad boy, exactly? My boyfriend is far from perfect - he's done jail time, been in plenty of fights, smokes. Would that make him a bad boy? If so, I do admit I find that 'bad boy' side attractive for some reason, so long as he treats me well and with respect, always. He's responsible and keeps a job. Going to college to get a degree. Treats me like a queen, and he shields me from that side of him. I personally find that his past mistakes are a reflection of the environment he grew up in, not proof of bad character. Maybe I find it all attractive because I'm the exact opposite - never gotten in trouble. Never smoked, never drank, your stereotypical 'good girl'. I guess I like the excitement and adventure of it?
I think it is more of a "he is super bad, lets try and see if I can make him good for me" mentality. Maybe it is the danger? I can't truly say for myself. I haven't dated. Most of the guys I was around growing up were those types of guys but I was never fond of them. I want to feel secure with someone and I felt that those guys couldn't give that to me.
It's exciting for some to not know what to expect from the guy that always seems to push the boundaries, for what is acceptable. On another note, I'm sure you weren't in love with those girls, just lust.
They want to be that special snowflake that changes him, I think.
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- Girls grow opressed, they are more controlled by their parents.
- They are also more weak and avoid direct conflicts.
- When they date a bad boy, those stressed out girls feel they somehow can express their true emotions using the guy, or through the guys actions. Feeling more "alive".
xD, just a theory i made up for some more complicated girls.
Other's just somehoe feel connected "Oh babe, we share similar problems (sometimes completely different), baby we are going to surpass them all, togheter, and i will be here for you, to help you"... and etc...It's not a phase.
Women are attracted to power.
When you're 17 and in school bad boys seem more powerful.
When you're 30 and most of the bad boys work crap jobs and hard working guys have BMWs women are magically over their bad boy phase. The bad boys who happen to make money still get women though.I've always hated bad boys , you get hurt with em. sooner kr later girl will learn this. i think they like it bc they think that bad boys are more manly , more adventurous, more fun and exciting. but good guys can be all that too , I know that
It's normal. I won't even go into the stuff I did at 17, 19, 21... I should be dead or in prison. And girls... SHOWERED ME with attention. Now... I don't do that, and that same kind of fly by night attention isn't there. But when I meet women my age now (I'm not 21 btw), we actually have meaningful, lasting conversations, and I learn new things. Times come to pass. It's pretty normal.
Just don't date Westernized/Americanized women. They don't deserve a good man. Let them have their bastard kids, their bad boys, and their damn cats.
Teenagers don't think, they just do. Besides, it's "not cool" to like... go out with some softy.. sheesh, what would the others think?
you get the idea?A "bad boy" is a walking stone confused for a diamond.. The nice guy is the diamond sad for the women, so he blames himself. If you think you're the only diamond, you have to walk alone.
Girls like the mystery and fun.. and mainly cause their immature. I honestly never cared for the bad boy.. once you get hurt one to many times you kinda learn to stay away from them.
the danger, the thrill.
it's helpful not to look at it like a girl thing. guys are the exact same way going for chicks that are a "challenge" and provide that thrill rather than a simple, down to earth girl who just wants love and to be a good girlfriend. it's harder but so much more rewarding where you realize a good girl is enough to make you happy and stop with the thrills that end horribly.I was the bad boy. Never date a girl that had a bad boy phase.
They're fun.
I never
I have no idea really.. not my case anyway. ..😊
They have the dumb (i can change him mentality).
im same as u :D
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