Do you fb "stalk" a girl you're into?

[lafeeverte]

i've been talking to a guy, and he hasn't added me on Facebook yet, but accidentally admitted to watching my videos... so you go to a girl's page, look at her pictures and videos, but don't add her? does that mean you're interested or not?

[Middleman]

For some guys it's a way for them to get to know girls better on their own terms without feeling embarrassed, especially if they are shy.

I'm like that with some of my female friends, and am scared of adding my crush onto FB. Because I find once you add her onto FB, for her any air of mystery about you is crushed...she can see everything about your life that somehow you feel the attraction she had for you is lost.

Yet the sad truth is...if we don't add her on FB, then where are we going to meet the girl of our dreams? It's not like you can easily meet the right people especially with the busy and complex lives we have now. If you did it the traditional way, like meeting someone at the bar or see someone cute at the shopping mall for 5 minutes and suddenly approach her, you could be considered a creep now...so it's a hard choice.

But saying that, adding her on FB does give you some advantages. You can see what she is up to, so when you get together you have a lot more to talk about.

Sadly I did eventually bite the bullet...and I added my crush (because we both have mutual friends). We're not dating yet but on speaking terms. And I got a surprise too. On the first message with her, I didn't realize she liked me too. She kept saying 'Hihihihi' and giggling...so yeah it's safe I guess to use FB lol

[gnargnar]

haha I laughed at this because I do it and never really thought of it this way, but I guess my reason for not adding her is I'm just hoping she'll add me. so ya if he did this he is most definitely interested

[lafeeverte]

Haha okay thanks, I was thinking that's what it is - we're playing this stupid game of chicken to see who's going to add who first. so dumb, if you think about it. but chances are if you talk to this girl in real life, she wants you to add her! it's the virtual way of making a first move lol

[Anonymous]

Haha. I know I'm not a guy or into girls.

But I Facebook creep the guys I like all the time. Like the guy I'm dating now.

I don't judge them by anything on their Facebook though. Mostly I just get myself worked up when I see he's friends with new girls or commenting on a girl's page. Just needless insecurity...

I say you friend request him. It's not a big deal. It doesn't mean he doesn't not like you because of what he's seen on your Facebook, maybe he just didn't have time right then to add you.

Good luck.

[miki94]

A guy I recently added keeps spamming my wall. I think he might like me because he acts like it in person too. So I suppose they do then?

[B3T15]

if you do it alot, then the guy probably does, yeah. but I always check out peoples profiles, maybe just once to see what they look like or whatever.

oh, by the way, stalk seems like a harsh word. hahaha, its more of just being able to see the person you like, or try to find things out about them if you don't know them lol

[lafeeverte]

Oh I know, I do it too haha. I think we all do. I just use the word stalking/creeping on people lol.

[mation]

I knew a guy who used to do that.He had the biggest crush on a girl.But for some inexplicable reason he was scared to add her.

[lafeeverte]

Lol well if he didn't talk to the girl in real life then yeah it might've been weird to add her. but I've seen this guy a few times since I met him... do some guys just not care about Facebook and therefore don't add people?

[mation]

It could be easily that he hates Facebook. I was one of those guys.

[Anonymous]

Don't know what you mean by stalk. I don't leave messages or post on a wall. However, I may view photos frequently.

I don't have the time or energy to stalk, technically. Time spent stalking can be time spent making yourself better to get her.

[mf-ibmj]

even though its embarrassing, but YES, sometimes !