Am I being used for emotional support and to forget?

[Anonymous]

So I'm kinda seeing this girl who has recently broken up with her boyfriend of a year.. (less than a month)

Anyways we knew each other before the breakup and since the breakup we've been hanging out a bit, including making out and she's spent the night at my place.. nothing too serious just a bit of messing around etc..

I'm not inclined to think that it's a rebound type thing due to the fact that she'd expressed her desires to do this before she had dumped the guy, but it's still a bit recent of course.

I know that she's not totally over the guy (I mean it was a year..) but I also know that she's of course attracted to me.

What's confusing me is whether or not this has some merit or am I the sucker in this situation? Am I being used as a temporary distraction to ease the transition of breaking up with him or could she actually be interested in dating me, and just needs more time to heal before thinking more seriously about pursuing this on a more serious level?

I'm fine with her needing more time I guess, my only worry is that I'm going to be left feeling like the piece of sh*t that got played. I don't like over analyzing these types of things and normally just like to go with it, but I would definitely appreciate some thoughts from people. Thanks

[Abcmsaj]

Obviously you're allowed to think that you're just a rebound, as it's only been a few weeks since she broke up with this mid-term guy... However, potentially there is possibility that this is genuine - especially as you knew each other beforehand and she's not just appeared out of nowhere and started making out with you.

What I'd suggest is to either ask her what her intentions are, or just give her an emotional chat and ask her if she's alright about the breakup. Helping her get over the breakup will mean she trusts you a lot more and you're more likely to be her new serious boyfriend.

[Gregs]

read the two stories in my profile "how to know you are in the friend zone" and "let's just be friends"

[Anonymous]

Rebound...relationship