Why can't I get a girlfriend? I feel like a complete loser.
Few things about me: I am 18, I am in college (computer systems program, very few girls in my program), I live in my own apartment, work part-time, I only have 2 people I can call friends, english is my second language but I speak english better than my first language so its not a big problem, I think I am good-looking but not one of the tanned blonde football players,I am different from most people in terms of humour, interests and stuff like that,Ever since I got into college 2 weeks ago, I realized I really need a girlfriend. I can get a hooker sometimes but obviously its nothing like a girlfriend and its expensive too. I am really tired of being alone. Its kinda frustrating to me how all the bad guys get girls. It will always be a mystery to me why girls go for guys that are like 21 and still live with parents, don't have a job and are barely passing corurses. Anyway getting a girlfriend is harder than anything I've done so far. I've met a couple girls, had lunch with one of them but never saw her again (maybe I should have asked for her number or msn at least?) I don't know what I am doing wrong. Any suggestions?
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Wow. You're 18 and you've already begun to think, "I really need a girlfriend". Do you have any idea how ridiculous that thinking is? You don't NEED a girlfriend. In fact, I don't think you even have time for one right now. Girlfriend's in college usually cause the guy (or girl) to do worse in school, work, and just have more stress. If you TRY to find a girlfriend, you'll never find one. You sound like you want to go shopping for one. Dude, just live life and let things come at you as they come. The ONLY POSSIBLE reason I would EVER consider you to be a loser is that you're this obsessed with getting a girlfriend. There are TONS of people who don't have girlfriends at your age. TONS. I don't have one, I'm 19, the longest relationship I've had lasted 2 days. I can't find anyone I like, but that doesn't make me a loser. There will be opportunities, just don't rush anything. Sorry I'm so harsh, but to call yourself a loser because you don't have a girlfriend is really stupid. You aren't a loser.
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It's a common trend that those who go 'significant other searching' often fail miserably. Based on my own experience, it has to be something that just happens. When you go searching, things can get too forced and don't work out in the long run. Maybe by being less desperate (no offense), you'll happen upon someone that will eventually wind up as your girlfriend. Keep yourself in social atmospheres, be confident, and yeah, ask for numbers! The reason girls wind up with stupid guys like that is because they're usually good at making themselves appear better than they actually are.Oh, and I would recommend stopping the hooker usage, and denying that you ever did it lol. Major turn-off to the extreme. (For your sake and others, get tested. K?) If by girlfriend you simply mean 'sex-buddy', then I regret ever giving you my input.
I think that you haven't found anyone because your looking for it. Sometimes its best to just let things flow and let people come to you. You have great qualities in being a great boyfriend you just haven't found that person that mesh well with you. Don't worry so much about other people, take this time to find yourself and enjoy yourself. Keep doing what you do and eventually that person will come along!