My girlfriend says she doesn't want me to drink anymore because she doesn't like me when I drink! but she can drink all she wants. it seems a little unfair. when we go out on the weekends all she does is drink and I just sit there then I get in trouble for not talking much or seeming like I'm...
My girlfriend says she doesn't want me to drink anymore because she doesn't like me when I drink! but she can drink all she wants. it seems a little unfair. when we go out on the weekends all she does is drink and I just sit there then I get in trouble for not talking much or seeming like I'm pouting all the time. what do I do the only reason I don't talk much is Because I don't really know her friends and she just shows me no attention the whole time so I feel like I'm not even there at all. I'm trying to do want she wants by not drinking because I care about her more than a bottle but still can't make her happy Because I'm not having fun with everyone getting thrown! sorry I just don't know what to do anymore! she is running me away by controlling me and then getting mad because I don't act the way she thinks I should!
So... Does she not like you when you drink? Or does she not like you when she's had a few drinks?
If its option 1 consider trying to decide on a compromise. Sit down one night and drink with her and when she says you are getting obnoxious you know you should stop drinking one drink before whatever number you got to. Then propose that you be allowed to drink within that limit. If she says no she is being selfish and you can either point it out or dump her for it.
If its option 2 things are probably over between the two of you. People tend to lose their inhibitions when drinking not their opinions.
Either don't drink around her -tell her you're going for a drink with your friends and that either you'll come back when you're sober or stay at a friend's house if you're really drunk (if you live together that is), or choose her or drinking if you don't want to filter the crowd you drink around...
What's more important?
I'd say compromise. Ultimatums never work the way you want them to.
The question is, do you like HER when she drinks? And ask your other friends about your behavior while in "party mode". Maybe there is room for improvement. But if you and your girl can not come to a happy compromise, end the relationship on a good note. Move and and be just friends.