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It definitely isn't the media, it is genetics and logic. Since the dawn of man he has needed to be better than animal and his tribe in certain aspects. The stronger, the faster, the smarter he is the better chance to survive and breed.
Muscle is more accessible for attractiveness as a general, it shows strength and dedication to looking after yourself. Muscle shows off the body's natural aesthetics. Men showing off muscle is like women showing off curves.
Some people like being sickly thin or androgynous, some people like being fat, some people like being healthy, some people like being muscled. There are people attracted to each group, admittedly definition is the most accessible but it also works on a competing with other potentials so it isn't just about looking good for the opposite sex.
I've been anorexic, I've over come it and gotten kinda fat and then worked on getting muscle. Muscle makes you feel better mentally as well as physically, muscle makes you look better and is something you can take pride in.
Because of media, and how it wants us to be.
Not everything can be blamed on the media, regardless, people have their own preferences. They also have their own ideas of what to aspire to, and what they want to look like. If they derive confidence from the size of their pecks, then who is anyone else to judge.
In addition if you want to bring evolution/history into this, in the past men had to hunt for themselves, find/follow food, climb, build their own houses etc. they must have been pretty hench. If a guy wants to use what he's got in comparison to modern men who let muscle go to waste I for one am not complaining lol.
On top of that, how can you complain about the fact that some guys want to be incredibly healthy, start ranting about obesity instead. That's a better use of time lol
well my good man at first i would have thought you jealous then i read the skinny part and good for you being proud in your own skin but the same reason why guy pretend to be muscular in pics is the same reason why chics pretend to be slender with big lips it is called peacocking where people want to look the most attractive to attract the most mates
Has nothing to do with the media. Men are made to build muscles some more than others, due to testosterone. When they were actually doing physical labor eons ago it was not an issue to have them, but now since we live a more sedentary life they go to the gym.
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Further to what I wrote on PleaselllBeNiceNat's answer, I believe fear to be the motivating factor. Very few people, have the courage, to genuinely be as they naturally are, and forgo all the supposed benefits that accrue from society, be it materially; or superficially, in some form, with women. They say they do, people like to consider themselves subversive souls, but when it really comes down to it... When they hear rumblings, because you will, you will be put to the test, when you have that woman reject you, because you're not broad shouldered enough, or haven't the muscles elsewhere, can you really cope with it?
As a meditator, becoming in touch with my body and subconscious, I can see, that over-eating is not really that good for you. In the Dao de jing, it says something like, heaven knows why it detests excess, be it in the form of excess food, or extraneous activity, but it does. In the very least, it dulls your sensitivity. See for yourself.
It's ALL conditioning, practically, everything we pursue, is because of conditioning. Because of fear, as I say, of being nothing, of not being esteemed, of not owning that house, of not having that 'hot biatch', of being perceived as weak. We're all so psychologically tethered.
It's actually a combination of several factors. Media does play a part. Society plays the biggest role. Men can naturally build muscle thanks to the abundance of testosterone that they have and society in the ancient times deemed a male a man if he could build such muscle. This mentality has lasted through-out the ages. Same thing with women being seen as beautiful and graceful. Men are obsessed with building muscle because it has been ingrained in us thanks to our society that focus's on the general strengths of each sexes. Women had their strength in beauty and men had their strength in building muscle. This is generally true. Women are amazing at being beautiful and men are amazing at building muscles. These two factors for both sexes were what helped drove society forward. Men being strong and protectors and women being weak and nurturers. It's only recent times where a mans strength and a womans beauty didn't really help progress society.
Now, thanks to technology, it's our intelligence more than ever. Intelligence has always been there, but the ability to constantly use our intelligence on a daily bases by using modern technology has only arrived in the past century or so. However, tens of thousands of years of evolution that relied on the male being strong and protectors is still ingrained in us, our society, and the media just plays off of this. The media just enhances the awareness of having to look beautiful for women and being strong and muscular for men. Even though building muscle and being beautiful no longer drives our society forward. It's the same reason why it took women to come together and fight for equal rights. It's not a coincidence that womens rights movement started to gain ground once technology started to progress at a rapid rate.
We are in the age of transition. From our old barbaric selves that relied on men protecting and women nurturing to an age where anyone can protect and anyone can nurture. That's why men are still obsessed.
I used to be skinny and put on muscle and I can tell you, the confidence skyrockets not just in terms of being stronger, but overall achievement. Not many people can endure how much effort it takes when building muscle.
Now for others, it becomes an obsession. People can technically consider me obsessed going to the gym 5-6 days a week. However, some guys are like... 7 days a week 2+ hours at a time and timing their eating and such to a crazy extent and they just keep going.
If you're skinny, I highly recommend even a simple 3 days a week of muscle building. Trust me when I say it can easily be a life changer even in the most indirect fashions. You don't gotta do the ridiculous weight people try to do at all. They just get injured anyway and that's not really even for muscle.
Firstly it just feels good, it has all kinds of health benefits when done right. Secondly it looks good, which also makes you feel good and it's more attractive to women.
It makes me laugh when people say it's what "the media" wants us to be, because they never explain why, and they act as though it's evil/bad. Muscular men and slim women are in the media so much because they're the most attractive and the most healthy (apart from steroid users obviously, but I never see that encouraged). To get that way you have to eat a healthy balanced diet with little-no junk or alcohol, you have to get enough sleep etc. What's bad about encouraging that? It's a lot better than encouraging people that they're wrong and that people should just be happy with their bodies and fill it with whatever shit they like even if they're bigger than a bus.
It is good that you are proud to be skinny.
I was skinny too.. It has been over a year that i joined gym and now i feel good because i am in good shape now.
Actually it has to do with self confidence and nothing. It makes us look good.
HEY DON'T DON'T stare at my pic because that is 3 years old pic. Lol
But my advice to guys here is that , avoid bulk bodybuilding.
2 years ago.. i was 57 kgs.( very skinny due to fever, low immunity problems and all that shit)
Now i am 75 kgs. I feel healthy and stronger than before.
Now take a look at this guy. Tell me doesn't he look more appealing than before?
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As a male I started putting on muscle just because I was bored and I carried on for over a year working on my body tone and then I was caught by some girls from my school running around a field with a mate having a game of football and they told me I had a hot body but then I realised that other boys were doing it to attract girls so I didn't want to seem to be an attention seeker so I stopped (worst mistake of my life) because I stopped my body couldn't cope and I ended up putting on weight and ended up at 13 stone so I decided to start working out again to lose weight and not to attract girls.
The way I see it if a girl chooses me for my body rather than actually liking me for who I am then they can do one
i dont workout for chicks, i workout to create an aura. when i walk into a room, introduce myself to someone, go for a job interview, i love looking dominant, in charge, and in control. I love walking past and having people point and talk about me. i love the fact that when i go somewhere with thousands of people. almost all of them will remember who i am when it is over, and i didn't even have to say a word (this was the case before people knew who i was)
None of this will make sense to any of you once you get the physique and know whats its like. I know it sounds like im bragging, but think of it as driving a ferrari in real life. Why do people drive ferraris? to get attention, looks, exert dominance and superiority from the norm, and to get people talking.. but it also inspires jealousy and haters on the person driving. Thats exactly what i experience IRL
THIS IS WHY AMIGO!!! ITS A PASSION!! A LIFESTYLE!!! TILL THE DAY I DIE.
It's a goal, it allows men to do certain tasks easier, it builds self-esteem (not by looking better, but by exerting yourself to the fullest), it allows men to feel like they are protecting their significant others (and often they are able to protect them), and it expedites the formation of a body shape that is often attractive to those sexually attracted to men.
I love building muscle, especially since I am playing college football as a defensive lineman. But I think people should just do what they want to do. Wanna be lean and love it go for it! Wanna be muscular and stocky do it! Wanna eat and don't care go for it!
As someone who has never been skinny in his life, I can say that being chunky and muscular is definitely better than being chunky and wimpy.
Female attention or no, I work out because it's one of the best ways to actually demonstrate that my effort gets me somewhere. I can track my progress on how much I can lift, how far I can run, how far I can swim, and it shows a direct correlation between effort and progress.
I think its a media thing. The hot guys are usually portrayed to be muscular. However, I'm with ya. I, not really into muscular guys.
I think this:
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You mirin' brah? Some guys do it because they think it will make a difference in getting more girs, others like myself enjoy working out and love seeing their bodies transform and being more healthy. Weightlifting has a lot of positive effects.
It's masculine.
Most girls think it looks better.
Feels nice being big, strong, and fast.
I think those guys that have all those muscles look sicking and not what a man is and looks like in real life a hard factory worker not no pencil pushing geek behind a desk that does not know what a hards days work is
For similar reasons why most don't shave their eyebrows, attempt to stunt their growth or try to lower their testosterone.
I'm a weak guy and PROUD
Guys seem to love goals. I think it tweaks your competitive side. Plus, working out circulates testosterone, which leads to more energy and confidence. Which leads to setting and reaching more goals!
I never got into packing on huge amounts of muscle, but I would really like to have lean muscle. Kind of skinny but really toned if you know what I mean.
It becomes very addictive when you become stronger and better looking and people take notice. Your overall sense of well being goes way up.
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