Why are white men so insecure?

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Okay I know the title is a bit harsh, but let me explain. I'm a 20 y/o white girl, I'm above average as far as looks are concerned, and I'm primarily attracted to non-white men. I've been on this site for maybe a year now and have noticed on this site so many times how insecure and/or quick to jump to conclusions the white men on here are when they read that a white woman is into non-white men. what's up with that? My best girl friend is a gorgeous black girl and she's dated so many white guys. I've never given her shit for this, I could really care less, even if I was into white guys. So why do white men do it? Explain

Watermelonoma · Accepted Answer

Here's the thing. White guys and guys in general love when attention is directed towards them, but hate when its pull away from them. On gag, a good example is the black girl - white guy questions. It's a daily occurrence on here to have at least one or two questions asked by a black girl about how to snag a white guy. The white guys that answer are usually quite happy to help the asker and reassure her that white guys love them too. That's great. But I notice on the rare occasion when you see one white girl make a similar question on here about how to get black guys, the comments are usually about how easy white women are, how slutty the asker is, she's making the biggest mistake of her life, etc.

So what i boil it down to is this: The white guys who are actually like that view black men as sub human. It makes sense to them that a black woman would prefer them over a sub human, so they will accommodate the user as best they can to save them from a savage, but a white girl, one of "their own" going for a sub human is seen as both a slap in the face, and a sign of moral/mental decay of the woman in their eyes. So when you make your personal preference known on gag, remember that you're dealing with something that goes much beyond you or I.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

It doesn't bother me personally at all and it doesn't bother lots of other men either...
I think I can shed some light on why some men have a problem with this. It's totally different from a white guy liking Asian women, it's to do with their masculinity. I'm not getting into a debate on what's true and what's not, but black men are generally seen as stronger and sexually superior to white men. Of course they generally have a larger penis. When one of these guys sees you with a black man, they will feel inferior and that you have selected a stronger mate. That's why they are insecure.
You're not doing anything wrong, it's their problem not yours. Although this is for some men a sensitive topic

SisterSister · Accepted Answer

If you're counting on this website to be representative of the truth, then I've got some land in Florida I'd like to sell you.

Seems like one in 4 posts (at least) are complete lies and obviously written by people with a certain agenda.

Count on real world experience rather than this forum. White men are not insecure about whites with blacks. Sure, some are, and so are some blacks when it's the other way around.

I see it as such a non issue that people don't even notice interracial couples. (was married to a white man). No one stared and no one cared.

RationalLioness · Accepted Answer

Really? I never really noticed that. I've noticed most of them seem to have common sense and say that whatever a (white) woman prefers is what she prefers and she should go after it.

But maybe the ones that you are seeing are those that are similar to some black men on here: if you don't date someone of your race, then you're supposedly self-hating and discriminating. Essentially, they're dumbasses.

miserybusiness · Accepted Answer

Wouldn't really pin this one on the white guys alone. Goes across the border.

Them Asian boys be like, "why are white people stealing our women"

Them black guys be like, "why are those kpop guys taking our chicks"

Them white bros be all, "freaking coca colas be mixing with our gingers"

It goes on and on and on

AleDeEurope · Answer

1) There are more white people, therefore a higher number of "insecure posts".
2) Have you never seen the questions "Why doesn't any women like black men?" "Do white girls like black men?" "Why are we black men frowned upon?" "Why does no one like Asian men?" "Why do girls don't like Indian men?"

Every race have insecure men, the reason you see more questions of white men being insecure is because there are more white men in this site.

stanley40 · Answer

I am a white guy and could less what your preference is. I think its nice to be up front so a person like me doesn't waist my time on someone that doesn't find me physically attractive because of my dominate trait. My main question to this is would you turn down your perfect guy when his only exception was that he was white. My main attraction preferences are also steering away from white females as well, but I still had white woman relationships because of there other qualities. Does this help?

GrayWolf · Answer

well you know the old saying once you go black you can't go back lol most black guys are hung like a horse and your average white guy is between 4 and 6 inches so of course there going to be insecure about it only white guys that are not insecure are the above average guys with 7 or more inches. me being 7 im still a little insecure but the way i see it if your going to judge me on the size of my baby maker then you need to hit the bricks hope this isn't tmi but its my opinion.

MosaicMind · Answer

If you were going to generalize you could have at least been kind enough to only generalize about white men on this site. But of course, you're going to generalize about ALL and expect a clear explanation. Every white guy is different, insecurity has nothing to do with race.

abundantlyrich · Answer

The leftover white dudes... Who complain about everything.

Roycaryn · Answer

Because humans by and large regardless of race, culture etc. prefer people of their own race and/or cultural background. If a black girl told a white guy "Oh, yeah, I don't really date white guys too much" then, assuming he wasn't head over heels in love or something, he wouldn't think anything of it.

NateInAk · Answer

Well everyone has insecurities. In the situation you're in, you're just going to NOTICE those more because you prefer one group over another, which would bring out the insecurities in anyone.
Am I insecure? HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA... no...
OKAY YES
Just not in this instance ;D

AshleyMD · Answer

Jealousy probably. Anyways I don't care what they think and you shouldn't either because you aren't obliged to date them or do anything with them. Although all white men aren't like this but the ones that are can go fuck off.

Phoenix98 · Answer

The site is full of insecure people, white, black, red and purple, male and female the're eveywere.

cavmanier · Answer

This isn't isolated to just white guys. I've seen the same perspective from the other races as well. A white girl preferring a different race doesn't bother me by the way.

Prof_Don · Answer

Those white guys that give you negative feedback may believe in "white genocide". Look it up on the internet; the theory is quite an interesting read!

Anonymous · Answer

Because white men have superiority complexes and are mad that even white women don't want to deal with their arrogant and disrespectful behavior. I'm half black and I do not blame you for dating non white men. White men think that their skin color entitles them to any women so they get butthurt when a woman does not want them.

Anonymous · Answer

Probably because darker features have a more primal masculinity to them, and easily breed out light features. It's even been proven that white women prefer dark eyed/dark haired white men to blue eyed/blonde haired white men.

Visibly non-white men have the media, stereotypes, and various other factors against them. If these are defeated, then the artificial advantage that the lightest men have is destroyed.

BehindTheFront · Answer

I don't share this feeling so I can't tell you why.

The_Lone_Ranger · Answer

There is nothing shy about white people. Many white people are more "hood" that any other race. At least the ones I meet one a daily basis. -A Black Guy

Anonymous · Answer

I'm not a white man but I notice that all races have problems with their opposite sex of their race dating out. I'm a black female who's lived all over the country and I see it in every ethnic group, mine included.

BertMacklinFBI · Answer

bitches will be bitches. those insecure pricks come from everywhere.

ThatBritishLad · Answer

Mainly because everything that's wrong with society is pinned on the evil white man.

AmandaLynn1930 · Answer

it's just men in general... has nothing to do with race...

Klaatu51 · Answer

not all whites... personally i'm fine with myeself NOW... 8)

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