I asked out my crush, but he said no even though he likes me?

[Anonymous]

I went up to my crush and asked him if he would like to go out with me sometime and he replied, "umm... I don't think so... but thank you for asking, I appreciate it." He always stares at me and get's hard when he watches me. So, why is he saying no even though he likes me?

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Any opinions from guys?

[Captmorgan]

If he's shy, it may have been you came on too strong - women aren't experienced approaching. 95% of women who approached put me in an uncomfortable position; they came on too strong or made it too unexpected.

Some I would have said yes to. Moreover, his statement, is a mixed one - women have said similar statements before.

He appreciates it? It means he feels something; it's not over.

Your next move, should be to avoid him. Flip the dynamic, see how he reacts, and later, then you or he can make another move.

[Asker]

So, it doesn't mean that he doesn't like me? Or that I should move on? I mean, I really like the guy and he's a very shy person. I'm just so confused and feeling down.

[Captmorgan]

There's a 50/50 chance - this is why you must withdraw. Don't talk or even look at him for a while. If he gets emotional, you have your answer ;)

[Asker]

How do I tell if he get's emotional and what do I do if he does? O. O

[Captmorgan]

Abnormal behaviors/facial expressions. At the same time, keep your expectations low, in the event he doesn't like you.

[Asker]

Okay, thank you so much! ^_^

[ProbablyTooMature]

"He always stares at me and get's hard when he watches me."

Either no he doesn't, or your crush is 13.

Also, it's "gets".

[Asker]

He does, I saw his hard D and him always staring. He's 23 and shy.

[ProbablyTooMature]

So dumb.

And if he said no, then he doesn't like you.

[ayylamo]

Tell him to stop doing the /nofap/ meme.

[Elarra]

Dude, if he said no, he's not into you. At all. He doesn't like you like that.

[LonelyBird5]

He doesn't like you lol

[YaBaba]

If he declined, then he isn't into you

[sweetshyguy]

What a moron! i would have said yes.

[Asker]

Why do you think he said no even though he likes me? -_-"

[sweetshyguy]

Extreme shyness, sorry life can be very strange.

[Asker]

I know he's shy but i'm the one who asked him out. I really don't understand the problem, all he has to do is say yes.
It's okay, I just don't know if I should move on or what?

[sweetshyguy]

Next time ask him for his phone number instead, it's easier for us to chat with a girl.

[Asker]

I don't know if I should even go near him again. I mean, he said no. So...

[sweetshyguy]

But did he say no like with an angry look? and i loud and aggressive NO?

[Asker]

No, he was pretty nice when he said no. He was like, "Umm... I don't think so... but thanks for asking, I appreciate it." I just replied, "Okay."

[sweetshyguy]

Maybe he already has a sweetheart.

[Asker]

Nope, he's single. All he ever does is stay home, go to work, go to drink and then back home. He only has an ex that broke up with him three years ago

[sweetshyguy]

Then just for the fun of it next time assume, tell him we are going out next saturday! and don't you dare say no! i don't know if all shy guys are the same but i love aggressive authoritative women.

[Asker]

I can't do it again. I mean... he said no, so...

[sweetshyguy]

I understand, you'll get another one don't worry.

[sweetshyguy]

He is going to have to learn to say yes, i have learned it the hard way, i don't care about being humiliated or embarrassed anymore, that's the trick.

[Asker]

Yeah, but what now? I mean I still like him, but he rejected me and I don't want to move on/ i'm not ready, even though a part of me says I have to? If that makes sense?

[sweetshyguy]

Keep fighting for him ask him why he rejected you or just move on, make it easy for him like i said, if he never accepts you then he is not into you, i mean it's not like you should beg him.

[Asker]

Okay, thanks!