Girls, how important is the man's job to you?

[Anonymous]

Just as the title says, would it bother you if a guy you liked had a low paid, "bad" job. Does it matter what they do to earn a living?

[tex151]

From reading many of the responses from women, they must be living in a bubble in their own little world, and here is why. News flash people the economy has gone to sh*t in hand basket, and jobs are very few and very far in between. Luckily I have a pretty decent job, but I know people who have college degrees, masters degrees, who are working at fast food joints. Just because you have a degree doesn't mean you are going to get a job that will pay 100 grand or more a year.

It doesn't have anything to do with being lazy, yes there are some people who are just lazy, but the majority of people who are looking for a job aren't lazy, but don't worry if our economy keeps getting worse day by day, you will soon find out how hard it really is to get a decent job.

[Xenophobia]

Jobs are hard to come by these days. Any job is a good job, right now. If I was out of work and needed to make money, I'd sacrifice and swallow my pride. There's nothing wrong with working at Mcdonald's to make money. Of course, it all depends on your situation. Everyone lives different lives and have different financial situations.

What ever it takes.

[selfishstars]

I want my partner to do something that they enjoy/are passionate about. As long as they have ambition and aren't just "settling" for a job that they aren't happy with because they're too lazy to do something better, then I don't really care about the amount of money they make. I do, however, want to be with someone who is able to contribute to our finances---I don't want to feel like I have to pay for nearly everything for both of us.

[Anonymous]

of course it would matter because I don't have a low paying minimum wage job so I don't expect him to do so either. like it or not, I'm not going to date someone who's education level/wage is below mine. and no, that's not shallow, and that doesn't make me a gold digger seeing as how I make enough for me without anyone else contributing. it's about having standards

[vmw2008]

It depends on the job as well as the age. Right now as a college student, any job at all is a good sign. The farther I get out of college, the higher my expectations will probably be. I don't want to be dating the 30 year old "would you like fries with that" guy when I will have a masters degree and a good job.

[JasmineMarie-]

Let's face it, people are getting lazier and lazier all the time so for me at the point I'm at in my life right now at twenty, any job is a good job. Maybe that's just because I'm going to school right now but it doesn't matter to me. What does matter is good work ethic and motivation. The money isn't a big factor but truth is it's nice to be spoiled from time to time. But if he's working some brutal job by the time I have my Master's degree, hell no it isn't good enough!

[Searnd_Giddon]

Define a 'brutal' job?

[Starling]

What matters to me is security, and how a man goes about his job, or even what it is says a lot about who he is, and how he behaves. If he's working the fryer at mcd***s for 8 dollars an hour, I know he's not very motivated.

[MandMandM]

> how a man goes about his job, or what it is says a lot about who he is

I am astonished that you can't see the gaping chasm between these ideas.

> If he's working the fryer at mcd***s for 8 dollars an hour, I know he's not very motivated

Grossly offensive. I now earn >$250k a year and brought up 2 kids solo after my wife died, so want no prejudice as to values. At college I drove deliveries, worked in McDs, etc to pay the rent while I got the qualifications needed for my current job.

[Starling]

Alright, under your circumstance good for you. The question would be about guys I like. Which would be about 20-24, not married, no kids. And has a great potential to do something with their life besides working at mcdonalds, because they have the option.

You're getting into very detail specifics, and it completely changes everything.

[MandMandM]

> You're getting into very detail specifics, and it completely changes everything.

My objection was to the generality of your prejudice about some guys in your target demographic.

My values and potential to provide security to someone (and the kids we went on to have) would have been impossible for her to judge purely from the McJobs I needed at 20.

The plus side is that your prejudice probably spares lots of great guys from your superficiality.

Natural selection at its finest.

[badgerschic]

It depends why they have that job. Is it because they are lazy? Or unmotivated? Then yes it would bother me, but if it was a job that they truly enjoyed, or they were looking for a better situation and just hadn't found it yet, it would not matter to me.

[greeneyedgirl13]

These days its a miracle if a guy even has a job. As long as he's working and trying to support himself I could care less what he was doing as long as he was trying.

[justme82]

In this time as long as he had a job is a good sign, at least you know he is trying...

[lisa16]

it would bother me if he wouldn't try to get a better job.

[Anonymous]

If they had a passion for it and enjoyed it, then no. I can support myself, thank you : )

[Anonymous]

yes. it matters to me because I want him to be able to support me! I don't wanna spend my live struggling to try and make it by with bills and such.