How do shy guys act when they like a girl?

Question

There's this guy I like and he's really shy. He does the same sport as my brother and goes to my Uni. A while ago I found the courage to go up to him and ask him what he was studying this year. He was really quiet when he answered, he mumbled a bit too. Anyway, ever since then, he's been talking to my brother about me. He told my brother that I had spoken to him, that I was in one of the same lectures as him, and just recently he said: " I haven't seen your sister at Uni for a while", randomly. (I haven't seen him around for a couple of weeks)  Is this normal beheviour for a shy guy who likes a girl? Is he talking about me because he likes me?  Help...please :)

DonMichelle · Accepted Answer

When a person likes someone who they can't be in contact with either shy or not in the same circle in friends they do 'homework' on them (nice way of saying innocent stalking :) )

Homework could be anything from looking on thier facebook page, asking people who know thier crush what they're like, what kind of things they get up to in spare time, (a shy person would rarely ask if they're in any sexual relationship, them asking this question about thier crush would question thier motive for wanting to know :) They're shy and wouldn't want word to travel back to the person they like)

It appears you have an admirer :) All these questions about you and the fact he's getting more talkative/friendly towards your brother is a sign that he's hoping he'll be brought up in convasation between you both (your brother). This is typical behavior you'd associate with a person who's doing thier best to be noticed by the person they like. If you don't know the person you like you get to know thier friends, siblings. People who are close to your crush are your TICKET IN so to speak :)

Next time you see him give him a smile, a little wave etc, let him know you're aknowledging him and try to make him more comfortable approaching you, maybe it'd work better if you approached him? Say hello, tease him about how ''my brother tells me you've been asking about me recently, wondering where I've been ;)'' (smile as you say it, let him know your playing with him... see if you can make him blush, see if he's stutters when he replies :) )

And then tell him where you've been, start to make convosation! If you like each other then being shy is just a daft feeling you know there's no reason to feel. Make the move and pounce whilst he's there, it's awful when you don't make a move on the person you like and they take it the wrong way and look elsewhere :(

Don't let this happen to you, good look!

GuyAdviceFromGuy · Accepted Answer

Of course he likes you, is this even a question? Good job approaching him.  If I were you I'd coordinate a lunch at the dorm with you, your brother, and him.  Like, all three do lunch together.  Don't tell your bro that you like him because he will for sure tell him or get angry or something.  So just go on a lunch together with your bro and him.  Then, close to the finish of lunch tell your brother you have to go and ask the guy you like to come walk with you somewhere. Make up something, like you got to go see a counselor or a teacher that you guys both have and that you'd love for him to walk with you.  During the walk just flirt with him and drop hints you want him to get your number. When you give him your number sit back and relax as he starts texting and calling you soon.

Vexie · Accepted Answer

I think he definitely likes you but doesn't want to admit it directly to your brother, so he talks about you to your brother a lot. He sounds really shy, so talk to him more when you get the chance! He sounds like my boyfriend when I first met him, who also happens to be really shy. They'll find cute excuses to talk to you or about you, and will probably not initiate conversations that much, but every so often in fear of annoying you. If you see him enough, notice how often he's looking at you and what he does when you catch him. If he quickly turns away. Ask him to get coffee or lunch sometime! See how that goes, and if he offers to do anything for you like lend you his jacket or carrying something for you, then he obviously likes you.

Just be forward, but not too forward with him, just enough to make him feel comfortable with you and give him that push that could lead to a relationship. :) But yeah, I think it's clear that he likes you already!

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Once again. .. I say this to all my girl friends.. You'll know he likes you... when he tells you he likes you. Shy? Timid? Wounded?  Nahh girl he gonna talk to you if he likes you. Just let him be and live your life. If he doesn't pursue you .. he's missing out!

Buckminsterfuller · Accepted Answer

they act more and more shy! lol nd yes it sounds like he likes you so I say take the second step nd ask him for a coffee after your next class. he will say yes (very softly) haha...good luck!

San_Diego_Rick · Answer

He doesn't understand what being quiet and mumbling looks like. If someone was like that to him when he was interested he would be put off by the lack of enthusiasm. He thinks he's acting normal because that's what he's like. If he's brief with you on the outside(how he acts towards you) on the inside(what he's really thinking) he's probably happy and excited when you talk to him. He'll open up eventually when he's more comfortable around you. Then you'll see the real him that he's hiding from everyone. The person only those real close to him and himself see. This is how I was before I realized how ridiculous it was and broke out of my shell. Helped? : )

Electric_Dreams · Answer

I'm a big time shy guy and when I like a girl I think about her a lot, too much in fact. I'm usually desperate to talk to somebody about her, just because I enjoy talking about her, and just sort of acknowledging her existence I suppose.

Also when I like a girl, I tend to look at her a lot. I might not smile a whole lot because I'm shy. I try to find an excuse to hang out with her as well.

questionner23 · Answer

he probably likes you. imma girl but it sounds like he likes u. shy guys feel insecure around girls and he is probs just afraid to talk to you. try to talk to him more. talking to him enough even if he doesn't answer and he will eventually have a convo with u. by the way, when a guy says he hasn't seen someone around latley it means they want to see them. ;)

alfhelm · Answer

for me, since I am a shy guy also, I will talk to the girl more then anyone else. I will text them as well. I also do reference or talk about them a lot to my friends. Tho when I am talking to them I am a very nervous person but will be more open.

if any of that makes sense.

But truly, there is no forsure way to know unless you ask him :)

postt · Answer

If I don't know someone I am usually shy I like this girl tho and I'm not shy around her I tease her and try to make her laugh... Offer to help her a lot, the guy might like you or find you attractive but you seem to have barely spoken to him... Should go find an excuse to hang out

josue123 · Answer

it sounds like he is intrested in you.He is asking questions about YOU so he is intrested.Im a shy guy as well so I know,i would of done the same.He is probably doing it to know you better before he approches you or find what kind of a person you are.It takes a lot a courage especially a shy guy to start a conversation.What you should do is try to start a conversation with him as often as possible.It will make him feal more comfertable around you.It will take time but in time he will open up to you and then he will be the one starting the conversation.

yellowmamba024 · Answer

That's really possible. But do know that even if he doesn't like you, he would still talk about you anyways. There are more chances that he likes you because guys rarely talk about girls they like with their brothers. I know I don't. But he might want to know more about you, so he wants a heads up kinda bad. Anyways, it can go both ways. It's really hard to tell.

Jager66 · Answer

I act the same regardless of my her attractiveness, if I think she's really hot it can be hard sometimes and I'll be upset with my self for acting differently if I do for some reason. I REALLY dislike hot women thinking I like them because they are hot. a pretty face does not mean your attractive enough to spend time with imo anyway.

ThatGuy44 · Answer

How was his facial expressionwhen you first talked to him. Was he surprised?

gummybear888 · Answer

that's really cute. that means he probably likes you. so lucky. i like a shy guy right now but it's maybe that he lieks me, I'm not sure if he does. I rarely work with him.

zachg · Answer

we tend to stare a lot. some blush around the girl they like. we might stutter a bit. some are quieter than normal around you. it really seems like he likes you

jesskaur · Answer

They behave same as you mentioned in your question  Yes he likes you You take step ahead , become a good friend.

JasperX92 · Answer

With 'shy' people you have to get things rollin, most people that seem shy really aren't they just get nervous really easy to new people etc but once they get to know that person they act normal around said person.

Blofishjoe · Answer

Why are you even asking this question? He's obviously interested. If he hasn't asked you out already then I suggest giving him some hints.

OnetoFive · Answer

IMO he sounds interested. I used to be shy, if I liked a girl I wouldn't show it AT ALL to her face for fear of her just rejecting me completely, even as a friend.  Maybe talk to him a bit more, see how he reacts?

taster · Answer

idk about the last part..but it would be normal for a shy guy to "clam up"

donaldvandy · Answer

seems that he likes u. you guys should hang out more.

PeterCobra · Answer

They $#1T their pants and walk away backwards.

Anonymous · Answer

They usually act differently around that girl.

Anonymous · Answer

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