What gets a player to fall in love?
Player guys, answer! When I say player, I don't mean it in an offensive way- I just am generalizing the guys who are good looking, young (18-21) and... Show More
Most Helpful Opinion
Well, I'm getting married to a player! It's been a hard journey but I knew he was the one pretty early on. My advice to you would be, find out if your feelings for him are real or if you just like him because of the challenge? Friendship and understanding make the difference here. A guy like that does not easily give his trust to any woman. He needs to know that he means more to you than sex or looks. Yes he can have any woman but he will not give away his heart to just anyone anymore. But please know there is no way to make a man love you. You just have to be yourself but more importantly find out what you want in a relationship and what you will and will not accept. Then live your life by those standards. For example, If you want someone who is trustworthy then you must be trustworthy.
My guy was a really bad commitment phobe but I never accepted anything less from him than what I felt I deserved. It was tough sometimes because we loved each other but he couldn't offer me a commitment and I couldn't accept that. We never even had a label for the past three years but in November he popped the question. He decided to make the ultimate commitment to me and I'm glad I didn't settle for anything less. I guess he had to get certain things out of his system and I gave him room to do so. I wouldn't want to be with him if he wasn't sure he wanted to be with me but through our friendship we really developed an incredibly strong bond.
What Guys Said 1
You can't make a guy fall in love with you! what the hell are you thinking? A player is a player, we trick women to have sex with them, we like variety.. going from one woman to the next, we are hard work in relationships and are impossible to please. Give up on him, take it from a player, we arnt worth the hassle.
What Girls Said 7
for the most part, been there done that! except at least for the last guy there weren't any other people involved but he did blame him not wanting a relationship anymore on his past relationships so he ended everything, even the kissing. and, except for the beginning, I more chased him too. we're still friends like he wants us to be, though, but it's hard because he led me on and I did get hurt by him.
anyways, it sounds like he's not ready for an exclusive relationship and so if you're not ready for one either then that's fine. but you're apparently expecting for you guys to eventually be exclusive and serious so things might get a little complicated. I know that this might be hard [as it is for me] but for now on let him "chase" you! don't initiate contact but wait for him and don't get too physical with him. if he really likes you then he'll come around. you might have to be patient though and either trust him or be okay with him not being the guy for you.
i guess all girls are really eager to know this.sry,i hv no idea.i am replying because I m also curious,
but I think.what takes a player to fall in love is -well,if the girl is not impressed by any of his tricks and games.if she is clear that she likes him but she waits for him to talk clear,without any pretence..that is,in a way,she refuses to accept the player...but wants to actually c the swthrt within..
and I am an overromantic fool...but this is what I think
After ending an on again off again 5 year relationship with a player, I can honestly tell you NO. He will never go for the girl that wasn't a challenge. This person and I are actually best friends now, and he tells me "guy secrets". If a girl gives up the ultimate goal before commitment, he will always think that you are "that way" with everyone else. Men are about egos. Therefore, he will never commit / marry anyone who he "thinks" may be the subject of men's bathroom chatter. (i.e. I had her last week, I had her last year, I heard she's a real tiger in bed etc.) So no, a player will never go for an easy girl. He wants the girl that, if he commits, he can proudly take to his mother or friends, or networking events and show off his prize Knowing that no one in his circle can say "I conquered that". Sorry, it's hard, but it's the truth. (& mine never conquered me, I think that's why we are still friends)
Honestly, he isn't worth it, most players don't fall inlove. They cheat, they like the excitment that different girls have to offer, you can do way better than what he has to offer. please take it from me, guys like that are bogus.
has he made any extra effort to keep in touch with you? When you guys see each other, was he the one that initiated the meeting, or you? Can you see it in his eyes that he likes you more than a friend? Also, you should ask him if the relationship will ever proceed to anything bigger than "a little bit more than friends." Being up front about it is actually the best way. He might be taken back at first, but he could probably manage an honest answer. If he says yes, ask him how. Ask him why. Does he want it? Also, it seems obvious that he likes mysterious girls, so if you've been the one inviting him for hookups, leave some time for him to ask you out. Good luck!
i really can't wait to see what guys say about this one. this guy and I were the same way, things are over though between us now. I messed it up =/ but he was a player, and good at it too