Why is it acceptable to EXPECT a woman to be thin?

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I want to know because I am a woman who has had two children and gone from a size 2 to a size 12 in 3 years. I gained 20 lbs with my first pregnancy and 25 with my second (normal weight gain). I don't snack, and I eat 2 meals a day. sadly lower back and pelvic pain prevents me from working out much, although I try. I am devastated and hurt. I bring life into this world and as a chubby woman (5'5 149lbs) I am looked at as lazy, unhealthy and unappealing. My husband pretends it does't bother him, but I know it does. He appreciated that I was a fit girl in our earlier years of dating and upon buying new clothes I am a 12. Women are by design supposed to gain weight after having babies. Science says so. Some women are blessed to remain small despite the weight gain while others like me can''t seem to. I'm quickly learning the plight of a mother. Having children make women less appealing to men. Ain't that some bullshit. Shouldn't women be respected more for carrying every life on earth? Or are we forever doomed by what we look like?

parkway · Accepted Answer

You are fat by plan.

I understand your position and women who have children and married are give the rights to look motherly.

If you want to loose weight leave the USA. The USA has a republican party which controls our food supply. President Ronald Regan broke family farming. You have hear of slime which is basic amonia and beef garbage picked up off the floor and put in the hamburger to make more profits per pound. You have eaten this. Have you seen a chicken while it was alive? California just past a law where the chickens must have room to spread it wings and walk. The chemicals, hormones and feed are all designed to bring livestock and farm animals to market at record speed. Everything you eat in the USA even some vegitables is designed get big and you eat this.

Look around you, the USA with Mexico is the only countries where the people are fat on average. Mexico just because they eat so much American food. Many countries ban our food products.

I have had women visit me for about a month from all over the world and every one of them form different parts of the world all had problems with weight the moment they arrived in the USA.

Now look at the fact that the Republican party supports big business and the creation of money from nothing. The reason republican hate Obama Care is that at the stroke of the pen the President could hurt to the point of destruction of income profits of 4 companies which produce the bulk of our food, that order would be to cut salt added to products by 50%. The lowering of salt alone will make healthier all of the USA and put a hurt on drug makers dealing with high blood preasure.

It is very, very, very profitable for you and others to be fat.

If you want to loose weight and feel younger, leave the USA. Places like Europe, Central and South America all have laws to protect the people. Have you ever been to China, Hong Kong, Philippines or any place in Asia and seen fat people in the numbers we have here?

AdamThomas · Accepted Answer

You're a size 12, that isn't what I'd call big. Other men might not find you as attractive as a size 8, but if he says it doesn't bother him he's telling the truth - you've had his children, he cares more about you than anybody else. Who cares what other men think? As long as you don't bang loads of weight on and get huge which you won't because you don't sound lazy, you'll be fine.

GirlsLie · Accepted Answer

Because society puts super models as idols and people are too dumb to think for themselves.

You should want to take care of yourself better though, for health reasons, just try to stay within a reasonable "healthy" weight, eat a little better, exercise, if you can't, can you do really some low intensity work outs maybe? If you have two children, you should want to be healthy for them or at least work on being a little healthier.

I'm 5'3" 140lbs, so we're close to the same weight. I enjoy working out though and I eat healthy like 4 days of the week and eat out the other few. I like being a little fit and soft at the same time, i'm this weight because I like how my body looks at it.

You shouldn't put so much emphasis on a number, just enjoy your body/shape in a reasonably healthy weight range.

When men approach women they don't go "hmm I wonder if she's 125lbs or 130lbs? because that extra 5lbs is a deal breaker" lol a lot of the time people don't even have a clue how much someone really weighs because people carry it differently as well.

And trust me there are lots of men who actually do love women who are our weight.

Azara · Accepted Answer

you're not obese or even fat. i think your weight is considered healthy on the bmi. you're just heavier than thou were. as far as exercise how about swimming should be easy on your back?

Kaylove96 · Answer

I wouldn't say it's acceptable to be expected to be thin. I'm chubby too and I just started a weight loss journey to lose 50 lbs. I get that he liked how you were thin before, and you guys need to know that when you have a baby, you gain all this weight and once the baby is born you have all this weight and fat. And everyone says it's really hard to lose the baby fat/pregnancy fat. And pregnancy does change your body and have its affects. And if you don't lose your pregnancy fat before you conceive another baby, it's just gonna be harder and build up. And exercise is really good for you. If you can make time for it good. You're having pain with exercising, I would try to talk to your doctor about it if you can't figure something out for it. But no, I don't think it's right for anyone to expect anyone to be or look a certain way.

vet31bSoldier · Answer

Who say everyone expects that?

Not everyone looks at you that way.

I hate anorexic women. If I wanted someone with the body of a 10 yr old boy, I'd date a 10 yr old boy. But I don't. I want a full figured woman, and I want her to have meet on her body.

And... different societies view weight on women differently.

Brownrecluse1224 · Answer

look at the low carb diet! works wonders. and girls shouldn't be thin, it is unhealthy. you are a married mom! dont worry, if people are judging you because of that they need to get a life. you did something beautiful, you made life! it made you gain weight, but you can loose it with diet! it is natural for you to gain weight while pregnant and after child birth! you arn't supposed to so much so of course you are going to gain weight.

LittleSally · Answer

It's society, the media, the fashion industry... all the 'big' ones.

It is total c**p, but the majority of people judge women for not being thin and they never even stop to think that that might not be logical or normal. The circumstances don't matter, all that matters is that you're not the possible tiniest your body frame will allow.

Tractorbeam · Answer

It would be a sad world for women, if that was the case. The average woman in the USA is within 7 or 10 lbs of being obese.

You're a long way from that. It wouldn't hurt to lose 10 lbs, but I don't think it's urgent or life-threatening. I don't think it would even show much.

0112358 · Answer

Same reason it's acceptable to expect men to be employed, and willing to be brave to protect women.

When it comes down to it, we still have the same core expectations of men and women, we just let them play around with different day to day stuff on the side.

badger25 · Answer

For the same reason girls expect guys to be over 6 feet tall. Neither is going to happen for everyone

SomeoneImportant · Answer

Nobody expects anyone to be thin. That's something only women think they fall victim to, ad some men to.

Shut_Up_And_Marry_Me · Answer

Women are designed to gain weight? False. It's your choice what you do with that.

Klaatu51 · Answer

basically did you think twice of what have you done? being mother at such a young age and not onlyonce but twice? do you love your life? honestly?

Athleticbroo · Answer

6'3 227 at 10% b. f checkin in. Mirin O, P?

Zrelthrhaiel · Answer

Because i like thin women.

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