Can anyone offer tips, help, experiences?

[Anonymous]

Right basically i have a friend and she is suffering basically from depression or i can gather at the moment, i've helped for a while now and i've convinced her to see a doctor now i ask for any help, advice or tips anyone can offer please only serious answers because she's only said once that she doesn't feel wanted and the likes and i know what comes next as i've had a family friend take their life from depression and i've made it my issue to help her through this as i know it is a hard thing there's only two of us know how she is currently but she's told me the most and as i say any opinions are welcome :)

Thank you in advance.

[NewNaughtiness]

You being there for her is more than anyone could ever ask for. Depression is a lonely time and the fact she's opening up to you shows a ray of sunshine! Make sure she doesn't feel like your bored about what she says even if it's continuously about the same emotion, try and encourage her to tell the doctor, go with her if it helps then hopefully they can help her get more professional help, but even then she still may prefer to confide in you, being a shoulder to cry on and someone to confide in is doing more than you could ever imagine... Don't think about what usually happens but look for subtle changes in her behaviour, if she doesn't talk to you about how she feels ask, if she's vague get her to meet you, or go to her house,. Make sure when you feel something is wrong she isn't alone until she looks in a better mood... Well done for all the hard work you have achieved so far he doctors is an amazing step!

[Asker]

I agree i am doing what i can but not letting it control my life, I've told her anytime and i'll always listen even if she wants to tell me what she ate this morning haha, don't worry either i can talk for days so she won't bore me i enjoy talking, and i am going with her she said i'll go if you go with me please as i'm a bit scared i told her it will be ok i'll go, you see we are close too as we dated for 4 month i know it's not the longest time, but she will even cry on my shoulder if she must, she isn't comfortable eating in front of people after being bullied when younger but has no issue with me :)
i check in as much as i can and even if it's only a 10 minute call i realize it helps, and i do those things too she always agrees that i cheer her up with my stupidity and personality and loves that she can tell me anything, and i agree with the doctors too i'm currently in the process of booking her in now as we speak its just a challenge getting through on the phone.

Thank you again :)

[cmale123]

You trying be a hero and you should not try to do that. Talk to her as friend but keep your distant. If she think not enough from you, just tell her i did everything as friend can do.

[Asker]

I'm not trying to be a hero, i'm not there 14/7 and she knows this, I've told her this and if she needs help she can call, she thinks very highly of me as we dated for a while as well so there is a connection, i do talk to her as a friend but with having a deeper connection this allows me to be closer :)
Thanks for the input :)

[Klaatu51]

(that guy's not me)

anyway.. best u can do's stay by her side dude... she's a friend of urs... so she might need u now :-)

[Asker]

I'm aware of this, as i say I've been helping a while :)
But there is only so much a friend can do before further help was considered and i wouldn't be able to stand by and idly watch her fade away she needs my help and i'm giving it her even if she's scared of me helping her but thanks for your opinion :)