How to actually feel comfortable I'm body?

[Anonymous]

I really hate my body. No one understands me at home so I don't have anyone to talk to about the way I feel. When I exercise I still feel uncomfortable and ugly. I feel like I have a stupid undesirable body which makes me undesirable, boys ignore me. I eat like normal, not too much or too little but I've been blowing up lately. I hate my arms, love handles tummy, thies, I have scars all over them. I just hate it. I have to close my eyes when I walk up to a mirror now because I hate it so much, there's times I can't Even take a shower. Boys have made comments on my body, and my old friend would make comments about it. I'm stupid and chubby I hate my body no matter what I do its still stupid.

No mean comments or opinions please.

[DreamConfections]

You can have beautiful body. It is possible to heal your spirit, it is even more possible to shape your body.

First you have to try to accept yourself, your body. Not justify, but accept/understand current situation. Not "good person should be more", but "I have problem (maybe not really a problem, just a point of view) with stomach, hands, etc.". Accept current situation, don't fight it. Try to look at it calmly, rational.
When you dissatisfied with something, you create a polarization. It acts like a magnet. Surrounding environment starts to point at your object of dissatisfaction more often. More and longer you dissatisfied - polarization grow stronger. Probably that's why some people allow themselves to do rude remarks, they were "attracted" by this magnet. Though it's different if they just trying to point at things, which could be worked on. Via calm acceptance you neutralize this polarization.

Second is to start acting. Common things like exercises, PROPER diet, and things can start to get nice.
True story: one woman was captured by terrorists. She had excess weight. She wasn't fed, constantly moved from one place to other (terrorists had several camps). When she was released, she was very thin. Extreme example of diet :) Please don't follow it.
Nice start would be to reduce ingestion of sugar and fat. No candies, Twix, Mars, cookies, cakes, Coke, Fanta, chocolate, etc., because carbohydrates become fat or/and muscle tissue. When people want to gain weight they eat a lot of carbohydrates and protein. In your case it's an opposite. BUT! You still should eat sugar in natural form: apples, bananas, etc. In other words - fruits. Exclude coffee, cacao. Instead try drinking green tea, chicory/succory. Whole idea is to look out for "artificial" sugar and eat natural sugar instead, thus not allowing excess amount of carbohydrates to enter your body and transform into fat.
Same with fats: meat, creams, fried food, excess oiled food, like in McDonalds, etc. You still can and SHOULD eat some animal food. Like eggs, cheese, milk, sometimes dietary meat (cows, rabbit, chicken), because due to exercises you need energy and to avoid anemia. So the whole point is to avoid fats, but provide your body with energy.

Alas the length of post is limited. I still could go on about exercises, dopamine (hormone of happiness), some other behaviors of people you mentioned in your post. Feel free to inquire if you're interested.

Have faith, don't despair.

[AdamThomas]

There's not much you can do other than work to improve it and shut out the negative thoughts. If you're blowing up like you say you're either not exercising enough/with enough intensity or you're eating too much, or at least too much of the stuff you shouldn't be eating. Getting into shape is hard for sure, you have to exercise when you really don't feel like it and you have to eat clean and stay disciplined, but in the end it's worth it. Through injuries I've gotten chubby from not being able to train, it happened again recently, and I put on about 14lbs too much. I managed to lose those 14lbs over the last couple of weeks though just by eating less and training more, was hungry all the time but not I'm starting to see my abs again.

[Jadekitten]

Exercise exercise exercise. Make some goals. Exercise REGULARLY, not just every once in a while.

[archiz]

can t you show us a pic.
you can always improve and get satisfying goals.

[FemWorship]

Every investment pays off in dividends
SO more exercise for you - add in the type that makes itself as fun, never giving a hint that any of it is actual work or hum drum. For some it's swimming, golf, dance lessons, et al.
For others it's team sports - you usually don't miss a workout if others are depending on you and they often have good tips on looking better they've employed themselves.

[FakeName123]

The grass is always greener on the other side. The reality is if you had a different body-type you would still feel uncomfortable and insecure. It's like big-breasted girls complaining about them being too big and small-chested girls complaining about them being too small. The issue isn't with the body, but with the person.

Meaning you gotta work on your confidence and self-esteem yourself no matter what your body looks like.

[archiz]

this^

[Mesonfielde]

Body type isn't as important as you seem to think it is.

[Asker]

I can't help I feel like this it bothers me it makes me very upset. Its important to me because I want to feel beautiful but in reality I have a ugly body.

[Mesonfielde]

Nah, you probably just think you're ugly when you aren't. Tons of people do that because they want to attribute lack of social success to SOMETHING.

[Asker]

What are you talking about.

[Mesonfielde]

That you feel bad about your body because you think it's your body that causes you problems. Typically it's just that they'd hate themselves even if their body was just fine, and they'd just need some more friends.

[Asker]

... You think I need more friends? .. That doesn't make very much sense that has nothing to do with my body

[Mesonfielde]

So you'd think, but your low self-esteem is coming from SOMEWHERE.

[suseel_sushi]

do you think that Gandhiji was a hot hunk? mother Theresa had tight booty? nobody can replace you in this world. if you die, not even Megan fox can replace you and fill that void.

[Asker]

My body looks the same and crappy as any other ugly body. I'm nothing compared to Megan fox, I'm an ugly peice of shit.

[suseel_sushi]

I mean where you are and in what you are doing, that plastic model can't replace you. the daughter you are and the friend you are to certain people, do you think that Megan can do? falcons are supposed to fly and penguins are supposed to swim. that doesn't make penguin good and falcon bad. Megan can wish to be like Hypatia and Hypatia can wish to be Megan. but hypatia's thing is mathematics and philosophy and Megan's, being a bimbo. find your thing and stop try to become like others.

[Anonymous]

Even I HATE my body.