I'm having a tough time getting a girl?

[Anonymous]

Well, it's difficult. I'm average looking, first of all, and I'm naturally quiet. But my strengths are I'm smart, I can be funny, I know a lot of stuff, especially about movies, music, sports, and books so there's a lot I can talk about.

The thing is...when I show my interest in a girl, they'll stop talking to me. And if I don't, they're just friendly. Because I'm average looking, there's never been a girl who is flirtatious to me on her own (or even not on her own, for that matter).

For the most part, I decided to just leave things be and be myself, but it still stinks.

I'm not sure what more I can do--when what I was doing wasn't working, I read up some stuff on attraction, tried that out, and decided it just wasn't for me.

I don't go to bars or parties--not my scene.

Life isn't bad at all. In fact, it's great. I got only a couple friends, but they're great. I'm in medical school and will be a doctor in a few years. I'm financially good, too, and I'm having fun doing stuff I like to do.

I just wish it wasn't this way with girls.

I don't know if there's any tips/suggestions out there and I'd like to hear them, though I'm finding it easier on myself to just be myself.

[sw3etnsour2630x]

Well you shouldn't change yourself you sound like a great person. continue to be yourself and just go with the flow. Don't read any websites on what to do because at times it probably won't workout for you. Continue thinking about your education and one day a girl will come and like you for you. Just have patience. Maybe try new things so that you can meet new and different people. You like sports so maybe go a sports game and maybe you'll meet someone there or go to a book club if that's more or scene but sometimes you gotta take chances on things. pick new hobbies like go skydiving and then you can tell girls about your experiences and how much fun you can be.

You also say you have strengths right? well Take advantage of them! Don't let your brains sit there, show girls what you got. I hear there's girls who likes a guy with brains ;) I don't know if this helps buy hey good luck

[nermalinda]

Even an average looking guy can get a good haircut and work out and be attractive.

Don't be so down on yourself. Do things you enjoy, when you are happy, people will be attracted to you.

[alltheabove1212]

You sound like a mirror image of me. You're going to be a doctor;that's +1. I'm waiting for advice from others on this topic but the only thing I can think of is to let things come naturally. I'm not saying sit back and wait for girls to come to you because, let's be honest, that rarely happens to anyone.

I'm going to make an assumption that you haven't tried with enough girls. I could be wrong but you'll have to go through a few bad experiences to get a good one.

Anxious to see what girls have to say about this.

[Mesonfielde]

What comes naturally is all learnt patterns - therefore if you haven't learnt how to flirt with a girl, then you won't be that good at it "naturally" either.

[alltheabove1212]

While I do agree with you, I think (I hope) he's not just going after any girl just because he's down on his luck.