When he's out, it's like I don't exist.

[Anonymous]

I am in a LDR with a guy. It's only been three months so far. In the beginning, he used to message me all the time when he was out; took pictures to let me sort of take part, and sent messages as well. But this has all changed. He now simply disappears for hours. Today he told me he'd have a work dinner. It's after midnight now, and I haven't heard from him. He doesn't even check the messages I sent in the past five hours (we use an app that let's you see if your messages have been seen). He knows it annoys me when he does that. I don't expect him to have a conversation with me while he is out, but letting me know if there's any point in staying up as we originally agreed to talk tonight would be nice.

I've tried talking to him about it, obviously it didn't work. I don't want to control him, but this drastic change from sending pictures to not even opening my messages is a bit suspicious. Should I just ignore him right back, to show him how annoying it is? I really don't want to overreact here or be childish but one of the reasons why I agreed to commit to him was that he was so thoughtful, but that seems to have gone out of the window for no apparent reason at all.

[MrOracle]

...And this is why LDRs almost never work, and thus are a waste of your time.

Sooner or later, either frustration of being apart results in a loss of interest in making the effort to keep the relationship going, OR, the loneliness gets to someone and they seek out someone else to keep them company, which often leads to cheating. Nearly all LDRs fail due to problems with the distance/time apart.

So, do yourself a favor and end this, and resolve to only date LOCAL men who are actually available to date you. Anything else, and you're just setting yourself up for this kind of treatment, and why waste your time with that?

[Anonymous]

Classic player!

[Asker]

Yeah, looks like it. He switched his phone off. Very suspicious.

[Opinion Owner]

Agreed, very