Why would my girlfriend not want to see me on her birthday?

[Anonymous]

is it really a big deal if she wants other plans for her birthday? she wants to go out of town and visit friends and I don't think id be invited.

ill be able to see her the day before she goes, so maybe its ok?

should I be pissed about this? should I be OK with it? is it a big deal or not?

[Stacyzee]

It depends.

If she's always with you and just wants to share that day with friends, then I wouldn't be too disappointed about it.

However,

If she is always hanging out with her friends, and then wants to spend her birthday with them then I'd be rather upset.

I know it sucks but try to be understanding, especially if she doesn't get that much time with her friends.

[Asker]

well she gets a good amount of friend time. we aren't the kind of couple that spends every waking moment together. I guess since its her 21st and I won't be 21 yet, it'd suck. but the friend that she and other friends are going to see is under 21 also, so idk.

i have an awesome gift but she's gonna be gone the whole weekend

[Stacyzee]

Yeah, probably where they are going you'd be considered underaged (that's probably the reason). She probably wants you to come but if you're too young to get in what can she do? I know she doesn't want to alter her plans because after all you only get one 21st. Just be supportive, and tell her have a great time. You'll get to treat the day you see her like its her birthday and enjoy spending time with her.

[Anonymous]

I on my birtday had a 'girl's evening' where me and my girls simply went out to the city without our boyfriends just to have fun :) Of course I got permission from my boyfriend first. It's not that I didn't want him or that I don't love him, I just wanted girly company. Also I spend the next day with my bf, so you see, there can be many opinions.

[just1dering]

Not a big deal. She probably wanted to spend time with her friends or family. If you want to celebrate with her, though, definitely plan a birthday date!

[CopyKat]

She is with her real boyfriend (not you).