If you like someone one minute but then don't feel the click the next?

[Anonymous]

Do you not actually like him? Because I'm feeling this a lot.. With my boyfriend.

You don't actually like him.

You do like him.

[dons220]

Please take it from me. Don't get involved with anyone you aren't fully into. If you like them you will like them. If it's off and on, you don't really like them and are setting yourself up to fail. But there are always exceptions as we know, but that is what I have learned.

[dons220]

I didn't read you were talking about your bf. if there is a particular reason you are starting to not like him sometimes talk to him about it.

[dons220]

If not then you just might be losing interest. It sucks and makes you feel like a bad person, but it happens. But don't give up if that is t what you run want.

[Asker]

I would feel really bad if I ditched him :( But you think that is what I should do?

[dons220]

You are still very young. And figuring yourself out. (im about to be 24 and I'm still figuring myself out). There is nothing wrong with changing your situation if your current situation isn't what you want. In fact, you owe it to yourself to do so. The challenge is doing it gracefully.

What you should first do is try your very best to establish what it is that makes you not like him. Is it from something dumb or minor that you can overlook just like you overlook a friend's flaw? Or is this something that really bothers you, makes it hard for you. Is it making you less happy than you think you could be? If so, then move on. Tell him you guys are young, you're still changing as people and sometimes things that we once loved lose their luster and aren't the same to us. It may just be time for you to move on.

That said, relationships take work. They aren't easy all the time for anyone. So the question you need to answer for yourself would be "Is it worth working through?"

[dons220]

the answer to that question can only be answered by you, but when you answer it you will know what you must do.

[Asker]

Wow, thanks. That helped a lot. And you're right.

[dons220]

happy to help

[piggie90]

you don't like him a lot girl.

[DarkHumorRUs]

Could be infatuation.