Should I stay with my girlfriend when she's cheated multiple times?

[Anonymous]

I really love my girlfriend's personality. Its everything that I want in a partner. I've been with her for almost 2 years but for the past year or so I've found her making out and sleeping with other guys. Since she's very outgoing and nice (confused with flirty) everyone tends to end up liking her. I don’t want to leave her but she's cheated so much on me already :( can't even count how many times she has.

I think the first time she cheated was when we went to a party, got a little buzzed. She hopped on guys shoulders all throughout the party. Later that night one of the guys she was being flirty with ended up having sex. My friend yelled at me to come over in the room and stop her and so I did. I asked her what the hell she was thinking! She was very sorry and gave me the excuse of “I get so pressured into things”.

Another time I found out she was seeing another guy temporarily because she felt he needed “the help” to get back on his feet. They had sex all the time. After she quit seeing him she admitted she did like the sex but was manipulated by him into thinking it was okay. That was during a time I was on meds that lowered sexual drive.

Countless other times where she was making out with randoms and hooking up with guys in school she had crushes on. I was so disappointed we took breaks from each other. Whos knows who she slept with during the breaks. She comes back everytime saying she doesn’t want nobody else. I feel so used and betrayed by her. She was the first girl I've ever had a relationship with. So far its left a bitter sour taste in my mouth and I hate it and makes me sad. I love her though and have so many great memories (known each other for 4 years), its hard to let go.

What should I do? Resolve the issue, talk it over with her so she won't cheat no more?
Or leave her, move on and find someone who won't cheat on me?

Dont break up, instead resolve things like a couple

Break up, you cannot forgive her for cheating

[Paris13]

You have given her More than she deserved in fair chances, this Cheating Cheetah. She is like this zebra who will Never change her stripes. She is in this Problem child pattern of Sleeping around and when it falls apart, she is back to you because you are what I call an Enabler... you allow her to come back with open arms because you are letting your little head Think for your big head. She is using you, mistaking your kindness for weakness and no matter what.. if you had a whip over this little doggie, she will always go astray and end up in the dog house.
You need to set her free, let her go to do her own free bird flinging and winging out there. It is just a full circle that will always go down a beaten path, just end up a War of the Roses rotten smelling romance.
You certainly deserve better, my friend... I have a even a bigger Sour ball in my mouth because I know this type of female fatale pup. She uses every lame duck excuse to give you for why she does it but I am way to smart to buy any of it... time to cut her leash free... this relationship has gone dead in the water.
Good luck. xx

[Asker]

I do feel that the relationship is dead. I even stopped having any sexual activity with her because I feel so disgusting touching her when she's been with so many other guys. I don’t even feel like she's my girlfriend anymore, like she's someone else im just…with. The only last bit that im holding on to is the memories and that great times we had. She was my friend before all this. If it wasn’t for that I would’ve had her out of my life from all the times she’s caused so much pain.

Im gonna have to move on. Ill need to let her go and tell her im not able to last with her no more. I don’t know how she does it or how she's able to put me through this. I just find it so hard to believe she because this way when In the beginning she was such a good sweet girl. Still is, you wouldn’t guess not even out of a million that she's this promiscuous from her characters and personality traits. Hell! Even from appearance.

Its going to be a long night of thinking things through to end it.

[Paris13]

Yes, you are wise to move on rather than be put through anymore stress... she will never change, this will only get worse... you have had to bear to carry this cross ans all she has done is stick to you every time.. yes, maybe in the beginning all sweetness and sugar but then sh eshowed you in the end what her cookie was cut up of... looks can be deceiving, for sure.. yes, take this time to do some soul searching but with no contact, any blocking and deleting, will help to being the licking of the war wounds. xx

[Asker]

im gonna have to say your metaphors entertain me in your writing. Thanks for your comment. Yes deleting will help instead of keeping her on there.

[Paris13]

lol.. I am glad this at least cheered you up.. I call them fun with the pun... Yes and move on from her, you do deserve better.. you have a lot to give someone. xx

[Blacknailpolish]

Sounds to me like you love her too much to look at her with clear vision and say "this person cheated on me, not once but multiple times. Therefore she does not really care for me and she just likes to keep me around if she gets lonely." There I said it instead of you. And my opinion on all this? Love makes you blind. Sober up a little and dump her cheating ass. What's the point of your so called relationship if she'll keep on cheating cause she's "getting pressured into things"? This may sound cruel but if she did care for you, even a little bit, she never would have cheated on you. That's what love and commitment is all about: trust and care about the other person. So if you care enough for your self worth, respect then you should dump her as soon as possible with no making up. You've to realize that she'll never care for you as much as she cares for herself. May this be your lession for future relationships and keep that head high. You'll find a girl who honestly cares about you.

[MaskedSanity]

No question about it, just dump the slag.

She has literally no respect for you. You're just a convenient thing for her to return to once she's done fucking some other guy.

She is a user, a bitch and a liar. Why would you want to have anything to do with such a disgusting person?

Tell her to sling her hook.

[rjroy3]

I picked B, only for the fact you should break up with her. You can forgive her if you really wanted. You can also choose to give her trust that she doesn't deserve and has already proven not worthy of that trust on more than one occasion. What you do in the end is your choice, but staying with her is a mistake and you'll be right back here if you choose to stay.
What you should of done is added a third option

C. Fuck her twice, then dump her.

[rjroy3]

Might as well have one last good memory with her.
You screwing her... hahah. that's punny

[Asker]

Can't even come to terms on having sex with her no more. It just feels really disturbing many dicks already entered the place Id be going in.

[rjroy3]

I can understand that. But honestly, just to give yourself some closure you should be the one to dump her and dump her soon.

[Booddee]

Fuck her in the the arse then tell the dirty slut to fk off and die

[SuitAndTie]

I didn't even need to read the whole thing. You should dump her. You can do so much better than her. She obviously has no respect for you and doesn't care about you one bit. I know it's hard but the sooner you leave the sooner you can heal. Good luck dude!

[WildRawd]

How the fuck are you still with her? Break up with her, you might love her & all but she definitely doesn't love you. Sorry for being harsh but someone that really loved you wouldn't cheat on you THAT many times! She's a whore, sorry but it's the truth.

[heart_of_gold]

Break up with her dude. I know it's hard to let go, but you seem like a real nice guy, and nobody deserves to be used. Move on to someone who can love, and treat you right. If you want her in your life that bad still, be friends, but make sure it stays that way.

[lovekid123]

Break up is the only thing you can do since you can't seem trust her any more. All she did to you was lie and hurt you. I don't know you but I feel sorry for you, my boyfriend cheated on me before. I'm sorry if I know you don't want to break up with her but you should. Good Luck!

[nimbus24]

You are so weird. Her personality sucks I'm telling you. Can't believe you would take her back again and again. That disloyal bitch should be dump already. A good personality is someone that care about you, never hurt you and respect you and none of those traits your girlfriend has. Find someone that treat you good. Goodluck!

[Mysteriousss]

Why is she not your ex-girlfriend yet?

Trust is like a paper. Once it's damaged, no matter how hard you try to straighten it, it would NEVER be the same again. Once a cheater, always a cheater. People in a fairly long term relationship tend to try to stay together since it's the easiest way, but nobody says the laziest way is the best way. If it never meant to be, let it go. You will find someone who deserves your love instead of cheating on you :)

[Booddee]

Great analogy with the paper!

[Punkbuster107]

Break up. This relationship isn't going to last, and if you somehow got her to marry you one day, you'd be nothing would change.

I'd try to forgive her in time, but forgiving doesn't mean you have to be a fool and stay with the person.

[Virtuous]

Unless you enjoy being cheated on then by all means keep doing what you're doing and stay with her.

In a common sense view many would of ditch your girlfriend and consider her as another "whore."

[Asker]

You dont think she can change. This isn't her at all, she recently started this since the beginning of the year.

[Virtuous]

Yet she fucked "many" guys in your absence, that alone shows that you have 0 value in her life.

[Asker]

not just in my absence but right in front of me. Also makeouts.

[Booddee]

Dump the slut,…. Unless you want to catch Herpes or some other dirty disease from her dirty stinking loose axe-wound that has been getting smashed by every man and his dog.

Total whore

[Heyjessie15]

You seem like a cool dude and ik in still young so I don't know to much of realationship because I've neever been in one but maybe you should find someone who will respect you and love you and treat you right and not hurt you. ❤️😊

[Asker]

Thank you. Other than cheating she does respect me and love me very much. She tells me and shows it all the time by spending a lot of time with one another.

[Asker]

she sometimes gives up time from school and visiting friends to be with me.

[Heyjessie15]

Well that's good but when you commit to a realationship you have to be 100% in it and maybe she's very good but how is she going to give you a 100% while she's doing that that's just my opinion lol I've never been in a realationship or no guy has ever liked me but all I can say is you seem like a good guy. 😊

[meatballs21]

Either you accept this in some way (have an open relationship and start fucking other people yourself) or you let her live wild and free... without you.

[Asker]

No i do not accept. Im just a very forgiving person but i let it get the best of me.

[meatballs21]

She seems to be taking your forgiveness as tacit acceptance to go bang more dudes.

[lovekid123]

I always seem to let people get the best of me.

[Asker]

@lovekid123 is that a correction?

[lovekid123]

Asker what do you mean"is that a correction"

[TheYellowBear]

You need to develop a spinal cord and get rid of this girl. Seriously dude, get some self respect.

[Luv2BRealExotic13]

Nope don't stay with her. You can be friends but not a couple.

[heart_of_gold]

Did not mean to dislike this, just pretend that I hit the top arrow. Lol. Sorry.

[Anonymous]

Leave her you fucking tool. Grow a backbone and a pair of balls holy shit.

[Asker]

wow man apart from being hurt deeply audacity to call me a fucking tool. have some sympathy. Im most likely going to have to break up with my girlfriend now.

[Opinion Owner]

I have no sympathy for male bitches. "Most likely". Even the way you word it suggests there's a possibility that you won't. You have no testicles.

[Asker]

You can go screw yourself if you really think that way. Having no sympathy for anyone is going to make you very lonely person inside and out. And since you more than likely dont know who i am in real life, your "you have no testicles" does nothing make you sound like a total dick behind a screen.

You try to joining your military and fucking fight off insurgents watching your buddies die right next to you as radio operators command you to press on when there's towelheads with aks and rpks ready to shred you to bits. But you know what? no matter if shit hits the fan you fallow through with orders and not cower like a real bitch.

You don't know what balls are until you go through what i went through... kid.

[Opinion Owner]

You didn't go through that you fucking toolbag. You were probably stationed in a little non-combat zone. This isn't call of duty. There hasn't been any crazy war zones in several years. Even the way you describe those events I can tell you are full of shit.

Besides, any guy who actually had a pair of balls and went through that wouldn't be such a pussy and let some tramp make him her bitch. Fuck off.

[CuriousCatbug]

Dump the slutbucket o_o
once a cheat, always a cheat

[Kshppatel]

Lol. Her personality means dick if she keeps cheating. Dump her ass and move on.

[Anonymous]

She has cheated twice. Easy answer is throw her out.

[Asker]

more than twice. Way more than 5 times. I won't be able to see her until she's back from her volunteering job so i haven't told her the news. Its apparent i need her out of my life.

[Cómoestás]

Break up immediately
!!!

[Marilyngiovanna]

How many girls like anal sex?

[Asker]

what?