Feeling lonely but what to do when you hate socializing & people?

[Anonymous]

Seriously what can I do? Any ideas? Please let me know, thank you

[emmabee11]

Watch this very educational video, a lot of us these days feel the same because from watching this it opens to your eyes to how people socialize these days and the reason we are all lonely and most of us don't have a social life any more is because of technology... your on technology now asking this question to people but the problen is people have lost that ability to socialize and make friends in person, technology is both a fad and addiction so your also hated FOR not having this highly addictive mentality.

People post photis of their food wherever they go and post selfies because they are addicted to the rush of gaining "likes" on Facebook or comments on twitter... our whole social lives these days is based around this addictive behavior, all of us these days are addicted to something... if not a computer or a phone then the TV or gaming console. I don't have friends ether... because i can't talk to people any more... i'm a 90s girl so there were no PCs until i was 7 but i wasn't aloud on the internet until i was 10.

My parents bought me educational games like that Muppets learning game or Sammy's Fun House, highly addictive but i learned and i still wish i could play them lol but i was running about outside most of the time, i had a gameboy color but i STILL didn't play it al the time, i read lots of books, and the primary school i went to let me explore myself and taught me in a fun and creative way, so my addiction is no where near as bad... but still have some symptoms like not being able to deal with daily stresses, so do so many people these days and other things. So this is why we are all so alone now...

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HEJ8t0SfTsc

[emmabee11]

As you notice people would rather tell you to get a dog or stay busy instead of offering friendship :P lol

[Asker]

I dont want their friendship anyways lol
But thanks for answering, you're right

[emmabee11]

Well you would like to if people had a much more healthy and intellectual mentality, so would i, i wish i could get everybody in the entire world off techology and off their butts because i'm willing to be their friends, i'm willing to talk to them but the whole time it's like staring at their phone like o_o huh? what did you say? :(, something really needs to be done about it pronto, i don't like it as much as anyone. A lot of people won't admit they have an addiction ether, they will say your trying to "ruin their fun" lol.

[Chick180]

Workout, watch a movie. Keep yourself busy.
Get a dog.

[Asker]

Sometimes those things won't help either :(

[Chick180]

Hmm sorry. Why don't you try going to sleep? Tomorrow will be a better day :D

[Asker]

Im trying to, but somehow i can't sleep. you're right, tomorrow everything will be better

[sp33d]

I peaked in your profile and it made a big smile on my face when I saw your location as Antarctica :D

Seriously, though, you can't and shouldn't avoid people indefinitely. The only way to beat loneliness is to eventually try and overcome your fear. Rewind 8-9 years - I was afraid of socializing, extremely self-aware and afraid of messing up or saying something stupid, being judged.

Surely, you can play video games or tower defense games. Some time ago, I played a game called Kingdom Rush , I forgot about the rest of the world when I was playing that, so maybe it'll work for you, too (or any game you might like), but it's only going to be a temporary solution :(.

[GadzQue]

Find a place where you can volunteer, Start a gratitude practice, Create a vision board, Read, Move, Sing, Sountrippin, Befriend an animal, and lastly.

OWN IT: Own your loneliness. Don’t fear it. Don’t numb it. Acknowledge that it is a part of the human experience. Say it out loud:

I

feel

LONELY!

Then breathe. just because you feel lonely doesn't mean you are lonely. And just because you feel lonely now doesn't mean you always will.

[Asker]

Good advide, thank you

[GadzQue]

you're welcome :)

[TadCurious]

Well you certainly have a dilemma. If you get lonely enough maybe you'll start to re-think just why it is you hate people. (And you didn't just say "some people" you just referred to people, so I can only surmise you meant that categorically.) Maybe you'll get to the point where you really do want some contact with people and you'll give at least some people a chance to be around you.

[Bandit74]

Lol didn't you ask this exact same question on your old account?

[Asker]

Possible, i often feel thatway. So, any tips or?

[Bandit74]

Hmm it's tough you're lonely (desire human interaction) yet you ate socializing and people.

It's kinda contradictory. You can't have both. You either need to become content with loneliness or figure out why you hate people/socializing and then fix the problem at the source.

technically when you post on here you are socializing with people or do you dislike that too?

also what is it specifically that you hate about people and socializing?

[Omar5881]

Well I am the same actually I feel lonely and I don't socialize with people most people don't know me actually, I am surviving by do the most thing I love psyhcics basically in school or out the school and I spend a nice period of time in gym

[Mesonfielde]

You need to find people with whom socializing doesn't suck.

[Ihav2fart]

Find some hobbies to occupy yourself, drawing, painting, workout, read, tv or movies.

[snuggle_bunny88]

I got a dog. So maybe get a dog or two.

[Asker]

I have one, he is sleeping rn

[snuggle_bunny88]

Hmm, read a book. Or write down your thoughts. Oooh you could do a DIY project. Those are fun.

[ihatethiswebsite]

I wish I knew because I feel like that pretty often.

[JSmuve]

Talk to us wonderful people. *pats you on the back*

[Tokana]

Snort coke..

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[Asker]

Uhh yeah...

[smoothninja]

I hate people too. just find a few people that u can acctually bear to talk to and that's all u need...

[Keyspirits]

Baby!!! Im here for u🌹
What can i do for u? Im rdy to pour half of ma heart onto u 😅 so get rdy!

[hypno-trip]

Socialize online. Stop hating people. Enjoy loneliness.

[SurströmmingLover]

I am in the same situation basically... When I feel like that I go for a walk in the forest.

[Anonymous]

My life in a nutshell..

[Asker]

It really sucks, makes me hate myself so much...

[Opinion Owner]

I know, it really sucks. I also have about zero self confidence so even when I'm in the mood for socialising, my confidence holds me back. I find socialising effort and it makes me feel uncomfertable. I'm one of those people who feel like when the conversation stops, it's really awkward, even if we're both just doing our own thing or relaxing.
I'm quite lucky though because me and my sister have pretty close ties and so we both normally just go out with each other.
I spend most of my time indoors which makes my parents think I'm depressed but I'm actually happy because I'm comfertable and doing my own thing!
Whenever I'm in the house alone i'll put music on really loud and party alone in the house dancing with my dog aha ;)
But you just got to find ways to entertain yourself, go and subscribe to netflix! You don't necessarily need friends (although it is good for the soul) but yeah, sorry I don't really have advice for myself so it's difficult writing it for someone else :3

[Asker]

You sound like me, it helped knowing im not that abnormal and not the only one feeling this way

[Opinion Owner]

You're welcome, I feel as though I've just told someone my whole life story ;) and I don't have any hobbies either, I go running and go to school, that's about it. There's things that I want to do like fencing, rowing, dance, but again my confidence holds me back, and I can't just 'ignore' it.

[Asker]

Yeah, the confidence thing really holds me back so much too, i just can't enjoy life like other people do. That shit always holds me back but i can't just get rid of it

[apexalpha]

why do you hate people bv people are what makes life fun.

[BertMacklinFBI]

ride a motorcycle.

#Trust

[Asker]

Great...

[BertMacklinFBI]

okay I guess that wasn't a very ideal suggestion.

d00d you must have some hobbies right?

[Asker]

Nope

[BertMacklinFBI]

wait until tomorrow, then get back to me. you're just in a slump.

[Asker]

Yeah you're right

[Anonymous]

I feel the exact same way. :(

[YazanAA]

You have to leave Antarctica :P

[justanotherguy445]

Try doing something you like to do

[jmmmfi]

We're in the same boat