American men: Do you prefer foreign women or American women?

[Tiger288]

For me, I prefer foreign women because they are nicer and won't mind to date me. They don't care what color I am. I DON'T have good relationships with certain american women. Most of them care about how much I pay and the race factor annoys me.

Updates

+1 y

The reason why I prefer foreign women is most American women prefer white men or Latina and Asian men more than black men. That why I stopped looking for American women.

Updates

+1 y

Wow I didn't realize a lot of america men prefer foreign girls

[Azara]

#poster.

i can understand not wanting to be with racist people but in 'america' there are all kinds of people from all locations so..

i also find it comical that men will often say they like foreign women--as if foreign women means one thing. way to respect people lol.

so western men being inconveniently blocked by equal rights laws, will search for foreign women bc (they think) foreign women will kiss their ass for not being abusive. or cheating--as if no men in the west are abusive or cheat. 200,000 women end in hospitals bc of bfs and husbands they will say western women are entitled bc they won't kiss a guys ass for not beating them...

western men dont kiss womens ass for not beating them, yet they search for the behavior elsewhere.. entitlement.

they talk about receiving treatment that they themselves would not give western women. so its a joke. they are in search of treatment they are not willing to give. and in certain places people dont have to stand for hypocrisy. they go to places where there is less choice-- usually due to western imperialism in the first place-- which is really sleazy.

#heavensgift

Me - I want to be appreciated for treating my woman well.
American woman - So, American women are supposed to be thrilled and congratulate American men for not being sexist assfucks?

not being sexist does not mean treating someone well, it just means not intruding upon their -equal- right to be. . not being sexist is the basic common denominator. bc women are treated subhuman, does not mean you're special if you dont see them as slaves, which if you didn't think women should be slaves , you would not think its exceptional to not see a woman as sl;ave.

for example,. no. you dont dont get to act like you're heroic for not raping a woman. just like she doesn't get points for not raping you. your attitude is why you're having problems with women.

when is the last time you were especially kind or gentle or respectful or went down on a woman or did the dishes or washed the clothing , not bc she served you but bc bc she did not treat you like an inferior sex? im doubting ever. you're expecting treatment from women you dont give.

[BrunetteNYC]

I think that white women unfairly get so much hate from non-white/non-American men because we like to sleep mostly with our own kind. I wish people would stop obsessing and start liking their own kind. Not a racist just curious why most of the time they only date their own kind AFTER they've been rejected by white women. I have some lovely non-white/non-American girlfriends who don't deserve to be second choice.

[Tiger288]

Cuz with their own kind is boring. I like to learn different cultures and exciting what wrong with prefer other races?

[Transigence]

No, white women don't generally have a preference. But you seem to think white American women do. Suspicion point number one.

You wish people would start liking their own kind. Why? (Suspicion point number 2)

"Not a racist.." (Suspicion point number 3)

You sound an awful lot like a racist.

But seriously, why do you care who other people date? Why is it important to you that people stay withing the confines of their race? Are you a race purist?

And I got news for ya. Nobody is with their first choice. Nobody.

[loofah]

Wow this was an interesting post. Thanks for sharing You don't sound racist. There is nothing wrong with preferring one's own kind. A lot of cultures of men really put white women on the pedestal and though usually it may be praise, sometimes it is unfairly insulting them. White women are like any other kind of woman, human beings trying to get by in life.

[BrunetteNYC]

@loofah WELL SAID!!

[BelleGirl21]

I'm American, married to a non American and if I date again I'd try to date American guys. I want someone who understands and appreciates my culture. It wouldn't matter what race.
Dating someone from another culture is educational but can be very difficult.

Also I can't believe how much hate there is for American women on this post.

[Tiger288]

Yes culture is difficult but much worth it. Yea I'm surprise American have much hate for American women but I don't blame them for feeling underappreciated by American women. I'm sorry :(

[BelleGirl21]

It's not something I see irl, just here.

[AleDeEurope]

What about a foreigner who loves your culture, and wants to understand it more and more? :P

[BelleGirl21]

@aledeeurope I'd still be very cautious because I don't know if his family would accept me fully. I've been too hurt by this kind of situation in the past.

[AleDeEurope]

Really? Was it with your husband's family or also with other boyfriend's families?
I think it also depends where they're from, and how conservative and/or open minded they are. Even in America, there are families that wouldn't accept you if you're from a different race than them.

[BelleGirl21]

@aledeeurope yes it's my husbands family.

[AleDeEurope]

I don't plan on bugging you but do you think many other American women think that way, like staying away from foreigners because of fear of not being accepted by hus family? Have you heard other women say this?

[truthhammer]

I've seen you around and you're not what people hate in American women. Ur warm, gentle and is humble... and lacking entitlement.

Western women in general are becoming undateable due to feminism and it's influences.

[BelleGirl21]

@aledeeurope I'm not sure about that. Honestly it wasn't until I was married that it even became an issue. Just for me personally, I wouldn't do it again. But like you said it depends on the culture. I'm sure Europeans would be much more accepting than tge Asians I've dealt with.
@truthhammer thank you! I agree with what you're saying too.

[truthhammer]

you're welcome! can you accept my follow request? I've known you from my other account before I left. Beleive it or not I m a bit distraught you're having some issues in your marriage... and if you'd rant about it, I'd love to listen as I've only been dating outside of my race in the last couple years and habe an opinion of my own id like to compare/confirm wth your experiences. I grew up in North America since elementary so this would be a huge factor in relating myself to your husnband if your husband is eastern raised. I m in the middle of cultures. I'd like t think I've taken the goods from both as I understood it. Anyways, pls accept and pm me! I don't have enough xpoints lolol

[Rawrzz]

Well, America is 76% white. It shouldn't be surprising that the standard of beauty is white and that most white people prefer most white people. (though, even then, the standard of beauty in America really isn't completely white: Denzel Washington. President Obama. Rhianna. Beyonce. Case proven.) That said, I've known plenty of white chicks who've dated black guys. And not just the ones who just date black to say they've dated black. Real love, really close. Of course, I grew up in an area that was like 30% white.

But. According to a couple dating websites and apps like okcupid, most races prefer to date within their own race. That shouldn't be surprising, either. It's not like it's racism or anything, even if you could argue it's a type of discrimination--a discrimination that can't be settled any way except forcing someone to fuck someone they don't want to fuck. I say because people have actually said that it's racist to have a sexual preference. Sigh.

Anyway. Black guys are pretty much the only exception, even though black women are 3 times more likely to respond to a black guy. Black guys, according to okcupid, were most interested in Latinas.

Why do you think it's race that is driving this factor and not other variables? So is this something where white chicks go "I don't date black guys." Or are you just inferring that it's because of your skin color? But yeah. Like I said, I believe American women do tend to have very, very, very high self-worth and lots of requirements. Even the ones with self-esteem issues. But that's a difficult thing to really generalize effectively.

So how do you know it's 'cause of your skin color?

[Tiger288]

It not that I blame races. I just wish they look at me as individual person instead of stereotype u know what I mean? Well foreign women are more open minded and fearless from backlash. Most Americans are scared of parents disown that why race in factor in American

[Rawrzz]

I had a lot of black friends growing up. I never heard them say anything like that. Like I said, I knew a lot of black dudes who dated white chicks. Yes, there are the stereotypes, but like I said how do you know that's relative to the white women you've tried to get with? Are you just thinking that's the case, or have you actually experienced it?

[Tiger288]

Yes I experience it. Plus I live in the south

[Rawrzz]

I live in Texas, pretty much as dirty South as you can get. Dallas is 28% white, Houston is 23% white. Every one gets along fine. I don't know how rural areas are, but if you live in a rural area, perhaps you should consider moving to a city. Or like TN or Alabama or something would be worse, I guess. I really don't know. But in Texas cities, no one cares much. Here and there, I guess. Or in the country. Anyway. Maybe it's not American women, but just the women in your state?

[heavensgift2girls]

I would have to say that I strongly prefer foreign women. Most of the ones I have talked to actually claim they would never date a man from their own country, because American men treat women so much better. Whereas American women clearly don't value the traits most American men offer.

American don't understand what it is like to grow up in a culture that actually is sexist, where the men are expected to cheat in order to prove they are real men. I think it is because of this appreciation that the foreign women I have met, have been the sweetest kindest women I have ever met.

That isn't to say that if I met an American woman with a good outlook of us American guys I wouldn't love to date her, but overall, that is less likely than finding a foreign woman that will appreciate us.

[RachelBrigs]

So, American women are supposed to be thrilled and congratulate American men for not being sexist assfucks?

I agree that American women don't really tend to understand what real sexism is, but your expectation of being praised for not being sexist is wrong

[Dionysius]

@RachelBrigs I'm pretty sure you took him out of context, he said that American women don't appreciate the progress made and demand more. Never did he imply that he was seeking praise for it.

[heavensgift2girls]

@Dionysius Exactly. Thank you.

[heavensgift2girls]

For anyone not sure about what my point was then listen to what just happened.

Me - I want to be appreciated for treating my woman well.
American woman - So, American women are supposed to be thrilled and congratulate American men for not being sexist assfucks?

Don't all men and women want to feel appreciated by their partner for treating them well? As demonstrated American women generally don't appreciate the traits American men have to offer, and take it for granted. As a result they continue to demand more and more. This is why I have started to prefer foreign women.

[Cookies_AndMilk]

Lol, you had the most perfect example for this. xD

[Rawrzz]

American women are entitled, that's for sure. But pretty much most women are picky, regardless of nationality. American women might even be less picky than a lot of nationalities. They grow up in a diverse culture, a lot of 'em. Naturally, they would be more receptive than, say, Chinese women who have only been around Chinese guys.

Though, I don't know much about race in dating. I've dated mostly Hispanic/Latina chicks along with white chicks, but for the Latina chicks, we were both American culture-wise, so race really wasn't an issue. I suppose it might be different white/black, though. There might be more of a culture gap, along with the whole pervasive racism thing. Though, I think most women aren't racist, in that regard. Simply that black Americans have a bad reputation? Stereotypical reputation*. But. People do prefer to date within their own race, for the most part. A matter of culture and comfortability. The known. More instinctual than rational.

[Botchie]

I'm American and dating an American but Foreign girls are so much better cuz of the society they were raised in. They aren't afraid to actually compliment you, show affection, and actually say what's on their mind rather than playing mind games. I lucked out in that my girl doesn't play mind games.

[Tiger288]

Exactly that what I love about foreign women

[dartmaul15]

norwegian here, and the problem isn't the women, but america itself. But the problem seems to be greater among the white American population.

Narcissism, egocentrism... you name it. It's like usa wnt from "the land of the free" to "the land of me".

[heavensgift2girls]

I think you are on to something. Independence is valued too highly here. If someone else is getting your help, then they can't be that independent, and if you are getting help, it is because you have failed to be independent and therefore have failed as an adult.

Doing something nice for your partner here, is often seen as a sign of weakness. Which is why foreign women are commonly mislabeled as being weak and submissive, even though they clearly stronger than most people I know. At least they aren't so insecure that they think giving help, or receiving help will make them a lesser person.

[dartmaul15]

@heavensgift2girls not to mention a certain attitude, and superficiallness that seem to plague america. Independancy doesn't mean you have to block out others XD

[heavensgift2girls]

You can take any idea too far, and in America the idea of being Independent has gone too far. I think the superficiallness you are talking about is true. If you have no real value for other people because you are totally independent, then you can afford to be more superficial.

[dartmaul15]

@heavensgift2girls yup. and that there makes it very hard to work with a partner.

And it seems so many think they deserve more than they actually do. So they end up ditcinh the person for completely stupid reason that's either minor, or something that could've been solved if they did a bare minimum of talking

[Transigence]

I would rather date foreign women. I pretty much can't stand Americans at all -- men or women.

American men are the biggest simps in any universe, and it has made American women the biggest, most entitled cunts, also in any universe. And everyone here is FUCKING STUPID. UNBELIEVABLY STUPID. You've heard of adults who can't read, right? Well I work with some people who CAN'T COUNT. I didn't say can't do math, can't add, subtract, etc... CAN'T COUNT. ADULTS. FAT ADULTS.

It's really not our fault, though, we have been engineered that way. But I don't care. I'm prepared to stay single forever.

[loofah]

I'm American, and I would say I prefer American or maybe British men, because I relate to them better. But at the end of the day, it's not a deal-breaker preference, I treat people as individuals. Never really heard American men complain about American women before... we vary so much, it's hard to generalize. Like, I'm American but of a South Asian cultural background so I would say my lifestyle is best of east and west... independent but feminine.

The only complaint I might say with Americans is we are too fixated on physical perfection and material things, and sometimes that can be overwhelming. I am surprised that you think American women value your ethnicity less... I would say Americans are more open to other races than most other countries. It makes sense, we're so diverse. I think black men are very handsome. I'd marry one if he was Muslim (my family is fixated on the muslim thing at least)

[Anonymous]

Thats funny because I am white and American women dont date me either... is it my color? No I can't blame it on my color like you can, although I'd imagine color has nothing to do with it and we both have a problem not related to race, the difference is you blame this problem on race, and I dont. That being said I like foreign women as well because they approach me, show interest, and talk to me, American women dont, and I dont care if they seem desperate or want my American citizenship, I like women talking to me.

[Fugue]

It's about the status of money, race and even exoticism. Certain overall attitudes come with certain socioeconomic standards. It can't be helped. Of course women from poor societies tend to be more willing to date non-natives with more money, since money is status. Japan is not a poor nation, but you go to Japan and attractive girls are drawn to even dorky white guys, because white is a status symbol. Many guys in those countries probably complain in the same way about their native women. Many American women are also probably more attracted to exotic, all else being equal.

[Dragonblood21]

There are women I'd never want to date from whichever country you name. Likewise the opposite can also be said, there are women from any said country I'd love to date. This is what is nice about women, there are beautiful ones everywhere across the globe. Ethnicity just changes their looks, but they still stay beautiful, pretty cool.

Personality comes from the individual. While ethnicity can certainly play a factor in it, ultimately, we are all different people, have different values, interests, personalities, etc.

So I'm sure there are American women I'd love to date. Along with Russian, Spanish, Asian, and all the like. And I'm sure there are some I'd be sooner to fall of a cliff than want to date.

[AleDeEurope]

I don't understand why so many American men (at least online) prefer foreign women. I'm a foreigner and would looove to date and marry an American woman.
You know what? I don't know why I complain, less men = more women to choose from :P

[Tiger288]

Until u in American u will see why we don't prefer American women.

[AleDeEurope]

I've been living in America for 2 years and still prefer American women.

[Tiger288]

I bet they love ur accent lol. I love foreign women. They are nicer to me. I used to live in Michigan beside Canada I went there.

[AleDeEurope]

Yeah they do dig my accent hahaha and I live in Chicago.

[RachelBrigs]

They have no luck with women so they find every possible reason to blame the women and not themselves

[AleDeEurope]

@RachelBrigs I'll have to agree with that. I bet if there were a German version of GAG (for example) they'd say hey dislike German women.
It's easier to blame others than to accept the blame, after all, what guy wants to admit he's a loser with women?

[RachelBrigs]

Any reasonable guy would admit his shortcomings rather than blame millions of people.

[AleDeEurope]

@RachelBrigs I agree, but this post is clear prove that they are not reasonable xD

[Transigence]

As fucked as Americans' conception of other countries are, so others' conceptions of Americans. This is a shitty place. Yeah, we have lots of electricity, clean water, cheap gas, etc. But we have no humanity. And more poverty right down the middle here than in most other places in the world.

[QveenSlayyy]

My parents are from the Caribbean. I was born and raised in America but I don't really like the guys here unless they're foreign. Plus foreign people are so different and sexy than what you usually see. My current boyfriend is Haitian and Jamaican ❤

[QveenSlayyy]

Oh yah and I don't really feel anything towards this country or that i am even American like I've been living here all my life yet I knowand act more like my motherland

[elew4too]

Many of the questions asked by guys seem to converge on the fact that American girls suck. I reserve my opinion on the matter.

[Bandit74]

I want an attractive, intelligent, non-promiscuous woman. I don't care what country she's from provided that she speaks English at a conversational level. Accents are fine.

[DaddyRollingStone]

So basically you want a mythical woman

[RachelBrigs]

@DaddyRollingStone talk about jaded? I'm intelligent, I'm 19 and a virgin, and according to my fair share of guys, I'm attractive.
Similarly, most of my female friends if not all fit that mold as well. I'm the only virgin but I only have one friend I think of as promiscuous. And I am generally drawn to intelligent people. So yeah there's plenty.

[DaddyRollingStone]

@RachelBrigs lol, give it 3 years

[RachelBrigs]

@DaddyRollingStone if smart non-promiscuous girls don't exist then nor do guys who won't cheat and fuck everything that moves

[DaddyRollingStone]

@RachelBrigs maybe you're right

[OrdinaryGentleman]

Foreign Women ALL THE WAY>_>
A majority of American women are seriously fucked up. Some are nice but a majority are not relationship material.

[SilenRose]

That's funny. Most black men from my experience prefer dating latinas, whites, and Asians because of their ethnicity.

I don't care about the persons ethnicity but I do enjoy Spainish men (the ones actually from Spain).

[ItsMrs]

My husband is from Costa Rica. Amazing people, but watch out for the charm lol! That's with every guy, but they're REALLY good at it, it seems haha.

[SilenRose]

@ItsMrs Lol, I don't doubt that. That's one of the things that won me over with Spanish men.

[EvilPimp]

Most black men are with other black women trust me.

[ItsMrs]

That's how I'm married lol! He's still great after the honeymoon stage, but I know plenty of women who got screwed over by charm lol.

[ConsultantIsBack]

I'm American and i prefer Hot girls. Regardless if they come from America, or Mexico, or Mars, or Jupiter.

[sean1234]

I heard women are from Venus, lol

[ConsultantIsBack]

@sean1234 Are they single? lmao

[sean1234]

Yeah, but the only single men they can date ore on mars... alas i.kinja-img.com/.../fl8pr9idqt0zliiv2rcu.gif

[sean1234]

are on mars

[ConsultantIsBack]

@sean1234 I am willing to leave this galaxy for a good wife

[sean1234]

or at least leave the area.

[lanagirl]

I'm American and in the past could never imagine myself with anyone besides another American. Now my boyfriend is Iraqi and I couldn't be happier with him. I feel like making assumptions and generalizations only holds us back from people that could be good for us.

[Tiger288]

Yea that true

[abundantlyrich]

Hmm the women getting defective in your country.. I don't blame you. Narcissism seems to be common among spoilt princesses there.

[GreatnessPersonified]

I prefer hot women.
I live in NY, where everyone is a foreigner, or have foreign parents.

Also, I think this is super funny!!

www.quickmeme.com/.../...1d28d146df3efc1cf1af7.jpg

[jchv88]

I agree with the PO... American girls are to self absorbed that wouldn't give an American guy a chance to date them, regardless of your race, unless you look like one of the hottest Hollywood movie actors or have a really high income... Unfortunately, is not only black guys who have bad luck when it comes to dating American girls but also other guys of different ethnicities including whites.

[meatballs21]

I am Canadian and have to say that ‘foreign’ is too broad. It depends on WHERE and if their country’s values (and their personal values) are compatible with yours. The same goes for ‘domestic’ women, some will be compatible with you, some won’t. I like Canadian girls but have had relationships with foreign ones too.

[Anonymous]

Foreign! American girls are cruel hell. Not all for the people that will claim generalization! But enough to make me know foreign women are a lot nicer.

No set factor Like lookwise, or personality. But just overall foreign is better. For me anyway lol. Less confusing, and emotional vampires that blame and use men for everything.