Ladies, have you ever reconsidered a guy you rejected in the past?

Question

Let's say, one of your male friends asked you out or even confessed his feelings to you and you rejected him. First of all, how did you feel after doing so?
After the rejection, the guy cuts all contact. Do you miss that guy/ friendship? How do you feel when that happens. Are there any thoughts that you might have made the wrong decision?

Let's say after that, a considerable amount of time has passed and you have date a couple of guys in between, would you reconsidered a guy you rejected? If so, what would make you change your mind?

Finally, after you have rejected the guy and he starts dating another girl, how do you feel? Do you feel jealous?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I have this friend in highschool who likes me, he never really confessed or courted me but he sent me a stuff toy and a necklace that'ß a bit pricey for a highschool student to give and everyone else around me is telling me he really likes me. I think I felt awkward around him. When we got into college (different colleges and long distanced) I never got over my awkwardness for him and whenever he tried to talk to me through chat and text I always rejected it or I'll just reply in one liner. I think it was really cruel of me considering that we're friends. But just this June I met him and I didn't feel the awkwardness I felt for him before, in fact it was really comfortable hanging around with him and it feels very natural that sometimes we do things in sync. This is probably the first time I considered I truly wanted someone to be my boyfriend. Unfortunately, he has a girlfriend at the moment, so even though he told me he's trying not to be sweet whenever he's with me because he might treat me as something more than friends we can't really be more than that. I probably reconsidered him because he's more sure and confident of himself. I can also see that he can now handle my stubborn nature and that he's reliable and gentleman. I never saw those things before possibly because I was blinded by the awkwardness I felt or just that he was really shy and gloomy before which isn't the case now. Regarding if I feel jealous, let's just say that this is also the first time I sincerely wished for a relationship to break off (I don't know how to quantify how jealous I am with that).

Oshosh01 · Accepted Answer

One of my guy friends I have known for years asked me on a date and I said no. It was because I wasn't attracted to him. He would of been great to me, but I just didn't feel it. I felt so sick rejecting him because I loved him as my friend. I didn't want to hurt him. I didn't feel jealous when he dated others. I wanted him to find love. I was only hurt that he stopped talking to me because he just couldn't after the rejection which I get.

Now... There was another guyfriend I had. I only knew him for a year and I didn't like him like that at first, but that was because he was seeing my friend, but then stopped, then he was gone to Texas, then work, but we texted almost everyday after being friends for 6 months. I realized I really loved him when he left for deployment. Before we left we talked had massive feelings, then he basically said "too bad should of liked me at first" I Tried getting him back for a year. He was going with other girls which killed me inside but that's my fault. I went with guys because he basically said it wasn't going to happen. All I have to say is leave and if she comes back wanting to work it out with you and realizing what she's lost then she really likes you. I mean I tried for a damn year to get this guy back! I really liked him and realized a lot. If she does want more make her beg for it :)

Moral of the story is... Sometimes the connection is there and other times it's not. Sometimes leaving makes people realize things...

fauchelevent · Accepted Answer

Nope. One of my male friends did confess his feelings for me and I did reject him. I felt super bad for doing it but I also didn't wanna be in a relationship because I felt too guilty to say no. We soon lost contact after that which was sad since I'd known him from about 7 years old and it was sad that he couldn't still be my friend but I understood that it was hard for him. I don't miss him anymore seeing as it's been a long time since I last spoke to him but I did for a little afterwards. I don't feel like I made the wrong decision though.

I suppose that I would reconsider it if I ever interacted with him again whilst not in a relationship and felt like I had any romantic interest in him at all but ehh. I can't see that happening. I have no idea whether he has a girlfriend or not but I can't imagine feeling jealous about that.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Depends if circumstances change...

My college is in the same I still live in. I have become what's considered to be successful. I have a high income job, wearing 2 thousand dollar suits, and an expensive watch.

A pretty good number of girls that dumped me, or rejected my invitation to a date prior to me becoming successful have asked me out. i do not accept their invitation

Pacificblue62 · Accepted Answer

Circumstances always change. If I were to see someone who rejected me ten years ago in high school the dynamic will have changed completely from then because I'm not who I was back then. Even someone a few years ago. Its a brand new ball game. Like we're strangers. People change as time goes on.

Christine888 · Answer

I've had this happen a few times and though I've missed the friendship it is rare that i regret my decision. Especially when they don't grow up and still hold that decision against me. The only thing that may make me look at things differently is if they have grown and matured. Sometimes your not at the same place and find later you are but to get there you both need to let go and live your lives. Don't hold on and wait because you could be waiting forever for someone who won't see you the way you want and need and the way someone else might one day.

Anonymous · Answer

If we were just friends or better yet we weren't together then no I've never reconsidered it. I almost did once but I realized I was making the decision out of fear of losing him for good and not because I was really interested in him, I figured that out in time before I really hurt us both though. If he found someone else but that would be more because I wouldn't want to share him but that is unfair and I would pull my head out of my butt quickly and be really happy for him. If he was a a very close friend then I love him (even if I'm not in love with him) and him happy makes me happy.

TayTay21 · Answer

Yes, if he's changed or circumstances are different. I have a male friend who used to be fat but got himself in really good shape. He's now on my radar, though he may not know it lol. There have been other guys I wouldn't date because we would've been long distance.

kittykatbrat · Answer

a1. How do I feel rejecting men = I always see it as their happiness vs my misery.
a2. Men aren't my friends and sadly none who "try" ever cut contact with me.
a3. I never second guess men I reject, I just wish they would leave me alone
a4. I feel relieved when I see the men I reject with other women. Its like FINALLY!

--kate · Answer

It depends, because in my experience my friend conveyed his feelings right after my break up with my ex. I rejected him because I wasn't ready plus the wounds were still fresh. But he's really a great guy! A good catch.. I told him not to wait for me anymore because I wasn't even sure if I can move on for a couple of months cuz it might take years. I feel so bad after telling that, but I don't want to give a false hope. Maybe the timing was the problem. And then I've found out that he's seeing someone new and I'm so happy for him because he's found a girl who can love him back. So it really depends on the situation.

Shorty1991 · Answer

The last guy I rejected, I had a good reason to do so and no. I would not reconsider going out with him now.
A guy that had a crush on me years ago and never acted on it. I've pretty much written him off too.

Smmyskittles · Answer

No. I remember WHY I rejected him. Unless something has changed, the reason usually still stands.

hannaxx · Answer

Yeah, a friend of mine confessed to me around 2 years ago and I rejected him for a couple of reasons. Last year I was thinking about him and I wondered if I should have gone out with him but I wasn't ready to commit in a relationship at the time.

OleMissMiss · Answer

No, if I rejected him it's for a very good reason. I've no interest in repeating past mistakes.

desidoll · Answer

Yes but it didn't work well. My first decision is always right though.

WillowTree · Answer

I'd feel bad that I lost a friend but I respect his feelings and give him space.

Anonymous · Answer

If I rejected him simply because I do not have any feeling in him I don't think I'll get jealous/regret even if he starts dating other girls

ElissaDido · Answer

🤔🤔🤔 Not really...

Blueeyes81 · Answer

You have a better chance at winning the lottery.

datgirl · Answer

Not one single one lol.

anonman32 · Answer

im interested in this. i want to know too.

Ladies, have you ever reconsidered a guy you rejected in the past?

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