My boyfriend "playfully" slapped me on my face it stung and Im worried. Is this a bad sign?

[Anonymous]

We wre being playful (not sexual) and we were just tickling eachother and goofing around, suddenly he slapped me on my face and it hurt. It wasent a hard bitch slap but it stung and it was so random. I was upset and he apologized and kept saying he was just being funny and playful. I forgave him but i keep thinking about it and am worried that this is a bad sign of who he is. I'm sad thinking about it. What do I do? Should I be worried?

[mwin2030]

What does your instincts tell you? Look in the mirror and ask yourself if you feel he was being serious or do you feel he was genuinely sorry for what he did to you and you don't get that vibe he's dangerous or a danger to you. It could be that he took your playing too far and he really is sorry he scared you. Talk to him, tell him how you felt when it happened, and how you feel now. See how he reacts. If you don't feel safer after the discussion, then I'd say you have a right to be worried and you'll have an important decision to make on whether or not this guy is right for you. Give him the benefit of the doubt and have a very open and honest conversation with him, and then depending on how he responds to you make your choice from there. Do what you feel is best... BEST... for you. That's the bottom line.

[Oram52]

Sometimes guys don't realize how strong they are. He probably thought it was just light harmless slap. What was his mood like when he slapped? Was it just fun and games or he became serious? What about his apologies did he seem sincere.

One of mishap is not something to look too much into. I would just leave it as joke gone bad and forget about it. Unless he shows any other signs in foreseeable future I wouldn't worry about it.

[Asker]

His mood was really playful he felt bad but he kept trying to make excuses saying it didn't hurt that bad and he was just being playful. He said sorry when he knew I was beginning to be really pissed off and he kissed me and all that... but still I don't know.

[Oram52]

You know see how things go if he seemed remourseful and apologetic I would at least try give him benefit of the doubt.

[Asker]

I will thank you

[nala_rawr]

if you tell him u didn't like it, and he continues to do it, then yes worry. if not, then he was maybe just testing boundaries. to see if its soemthing ur into. hubby slaps me all the time and i love it. some girls like it, some dont. maybe he just wants to see which category u are in. but definitely speak up and say something if you dont like it.

[Anonymous]

Maybe he's just aggressive when it comes to playing but isn't abusive. But he can be too. Usually abusers start off being charming and gentle while still dating, they won't show who they really are until theyre married. You should tell your boyfriend not to ever do that again to you, it is disrespectful.

[selmo93]

Well what happened before? Was it playfull? As maybe he didn't realise his own strength.
how was he when he apologised?
Has he got a temper? Cause if so that is a red flag

[AynonOMouse]

Sometimes a guy might not realize how fragile the woman is. He wasn't trying to hurt you. Just tell him that it hurt and please don't do that again.

Guys roughhouse normally sometimes and don't realize what is a light tap to us may hurt someone else.

[worldscolide]

If he said he was sorry, Was the apology genuine? did he look sorry? Here is the rub on this. My wife and i horse play all the time, I have accidentally elbowed her in the face... I was so embarrassed that i nearly cried (yes go ahead and laugh) cause the last thing i want to do is hurt her. Talk to him, if he is genuinely sorry, then let it go.

[Levin]

Did you try talking with him about it again? Was he apologetic, or still a bit stupid? If the latter, I'd say that's a bad sign. I don't think slapping someone can be considered playful. Like if it was an accident, maybe, but that's not something playful. TBH, why did he bother to apologise if he's still justifying it by saying it's playful and funny. That's not taking it seriously, nor your concerns. There's your red flag.

[peterjones]

I wouldn't worry over one accidental slap if in the context it was an accident. But then I'm not a girl so can't tell you more.

[TesticleMonster]

everything will be okay if you just shut up and make him a sandwich

[Asker]

😩😒

[TesticleMonster]

bitch why you still don't have any sandwich? get the damn sandwich already

[AdvicePLZ]

Weird. If that's his reflexes when playing... what happens when arguing? Arguing happens in any relationship.

[Asker]

We haven't argued intensely yet. Its been a year and we have disagreements. We agree to disagree or we just sit down and talk about it and try and resolve it. haven't argued yet. So im worried.

[AdvicePLZ]

Tough one to pin down. I mean, if you wait for that intense argument, it might be too late, then you'll forgive him cos of the morphine the doctors gave you to ease up the pain from his right hook.
I say investigate, ref check with his ex or people that experienced arguments with him, guys included, not just ex GFs. - You have to kind of background check people to some extent these days.

[AdvicePLZ]

... ;) please check if you can advise me on my question. :P

[Asker]

Yea I am going to be highly observant now more than ever. Thanks for the advice!

[Asker]

He left his ex cause they fought too much so i can't talk to her.

[AdvicePLZ]

Now if you ask me again, I'd say there's your clue/flag or whatever turns the Amber light on for you. - CAUTION AHEAD my dear.

[takumii]

He's a bee. Stay away from him.

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