Amazing personality but he's too short. Should I still date him?

[Anonymous]

Hello,

So i met this guy on a dating website and he isn't shorter than me, he is around the same height however as I'm fairly short too I always tend to go for taller guys. We got on so well and really connected. Afterwards we both admitted it felt like we had known each other a long time. We met up several times after that and I really like his personality. He makes me laugh, is really kind and always notices the small things about me. Something I've never experienced with a guy before. However, physically, he doesn't do it for me. He has tried to kiss me a few times, and I've told him I'm not ready. The truth is I just don't want him to kiss me. I just want to have long conversations with him about life, the world, everything.

I realised I couldn't lead him on saying I'm not ready when deep down I knew that wasn't the reason. I broke things off with him and hoped he would still want to be friends. Unfortunately, he did not and said he wasn't looking to gain anymore friends. I feel sad and really miss him and wonder if I jumped the gun and should have been more patient and hoped romantic feelings would come.


Do you think I can tell him I made a mistake? I really want him in my life.

[worldscolide]

So first the bad. If you are going to base weather or not you date him on the fact that he is short, You aren't mature enough, or ready for a real mature relationship. Its an incredibly shallow thing, because he has no control over it.. I could see your side if he were over weight and you weren't in to that, because that is something that is able to be changed. Its like a man saying. "I love your personality, and everything about you, but your breasts are just too small for me, so i just dont want you"

Ok now for the advice part. Most guys will recognize when a mistake has been made, If you're honest with him and tell him the truth, Tell him you want to give it another chance, he might go for it. I would especially if i liked the girl. If i had to give you % chance it would be closer to 75% that he will be ok with it.

[JohnDoe3000]

Is it just his height or do you not like his face and his body type either? If it's just his height I suggest you have some growing up to do before you return to the dating market, if it's more then you shouldn't be with him, you'll just resent it.

[Anonymous]

He deserves to be with someone who wants to kiss him and vice versa.

[Anonymous]

No, don't date him. You're clearly not attracted to him physically and he's not interested in being "just friends," so why waste each other's time? Both of you need to move on.