Is my girlfriend too controlling?

[Anonymous]

I am not sure if my girlfriend is too controlling or such behaviour is normal in a relationship.
- we have to meet everyday.
- If I want to go out with friends ( male friends) -she will USUALLY go with me everywhere, she tells me it's because she loves me and wants to spend all the time with me
- If I want to do something with a friend , without her, It's ok but I have to tell her where exactly we are going, which friend is it,, and she will call me to check what I am doing
- she wants to know all of my friends
- I can't meet with any female friend, without her
- She calls me very often generally, just to check where I am, what I am doing...
- She often comes to my apartment not expected, and If I am not home she asks me to explain her where exactly I was, with who - I can't even go for a walk without telling her
- If I would just turn off the phone and won't reply at all -she will get angry.
- she wants to know everything about me ( I mean all my day, what exactly I am doing , with who, where)

Is this something normal and usual in a relationship?

[MysteriousDarkness]

Having to know every who, what, where, when, why and how of each day of your life is super controlling. You need to talk to her tell her what she is doing and how it makes you feel. If she does not care or does care but continues on being the way she is then it is time to go your separate ways.

[Anonymous]

She sounds annoying. I wouldn't want a girlfriend like that, bugging me all the time and not trusting me. I mean, I would be fine having the girl be in control/in charge, but not bugging me all the time like that, or not trusting me when she isn't there.

[Kit_Kat88]

She has serious trust issues and seems possessive. I don't blame her though because I can be quite possessive myself but there is always a certain limit. Show her that she can trust you. She's just afraid of unfaithfulness because so many cheat.

[Relentless_Hippie]

Some of what she's doing is crazy and obsessive other things are normal.

Like the female friend thing, personally I don't think you should be hanging out with them at all so if you are then I'd definitely want to be there.

[Asker]

which other things are normal to you?

[Hscwwcwx]

He can't hang out with his female friends that's something you'd have a problem with? I do feel sorry for your boyfriend if u have one

[Relentless_Hippie]

@Hscwwcwx I do have one and he has no problem with it. I show him the same respect he shows me. Our relationship is top priority, everyone else comes second. If that's not how your relationships function then that's your problem not mine. We're happy and what we ha e works. That's all that matters.

[SarahsSummer]

Omg your girlfriend needs a life. some friends and hobbies could help.
Not normal OR healthy.

[ekc8295]

Yes, this is controlling, abnormal behavior and shows that you do not have a good, healthy relationship.

[MargaritaPeach]

No... that's not normal. She's got major trust issues. Being that controlling is almost always a huge red flag that points towards deep insecurity.

[Unit1]

What are you, her property?
It's alright to check from time to time and accompany because she loves you.

But if it's basically hitting on your private zone, that's where things go too far.

Yes, she is controlling. Have a break.

[ShaunaM95]

That to me sounds like really controlling girlfriend.

[DoubleUtf]

the fact that you can't meet a girl 1:1 is okay to me. It's not manipulative, but the others are indeed a bit extreme.

[vonasaurus]

uh, no. not normal.
kick crazy to the curb immediately.

[kingkapoor]

I dealt with an ex like this. I liked her though and I really wasn't up to anything wrong, so I just let her track me. Nothing bothered me. But yes she is controlling.

[helloitsme2000]

Um.. yes she is quite controlling. If i were you i would definitely ask her to be more trusting.

[Theodorable]

Sounds like good wife material. She'll make sure the kids are safe and that you don't screw anything up. Sounds like a keeper.

[YourName123]

you should consider getting some BALLS!

Yeah, do what you want and let her get pissed. Let her leave you if she likes, you will survive, thing is she won't.

this will get worse with time

[Anonymous]

Clingy and controlling. Did all her exes cheat or something? Because she obviously doesn't have an ounce of trust for you.

[yuki_ibanez]

I think she cares a lot about you, it sounds annoying. It's really weird when someone is too clingy.

[singlebee]

She is super controlling. I would dump her if I was you... her behavior will freak me out totally!!

[Anonymous]

That's definitely way too controlling!!! And crazy behavior! run before it's too late

[Wonderer89]

She sounds really insecure ☹️️

[Anonymous]

she is a psycho. and you are a beta pussy for giving her all that space to step on you... .

[nolookingbackx]

I think she is too controlling.

[sterah]

I think it's lack of trust.

[I_am_imPaulsive]

She needs to put a leash on you

[Chico_brah]

Drop here boyo. She sounds cray.