Why would a guy start avoiding a girl he likes? I am VERY Confused
OK, there is this guy...it was like instant attraction when we met. He started pursuing me (flirting, wanting me to see him, and trying to get my attention). Well, I like him too. The flirting and signaling went on for months. He did little things to see how I would react, which I reacted to let him know I like him. Then I did little things and got reaction back as well. The talking kind of stopped though and when we saw each other we would just stare into each others eyes not saying a word, as nothing needed to be said, since the looks said it all. So even most recently I did something to let him know I like him, and got a mutual response back. So now we know we like each other, and now he is avoiding me. At least it feels that way, since he use to go out of his way to at least say hi or something. Why would a guy start avoiding a girl he likes (or at least acted like he does) that he knows likes him back? I don't understand it, as now of course I feel like he doesn't like me as I would expect things to move forward...not backward or stop. I am so confused now.
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I can relate. My crush did this to me since last summer. The flirting was so intense that at times I wanted to just scream, "either s*** or get off the pot"...lol. Then recently, the ignoring started and I saw him more and more with his ex (they have kids together). So, I've basically given up on this. I was hurt because he did all the same things that your crush is doing and then just dropped me. I am happy for him if they are back together. I don't wish any bad things on him. I just wish that he wouldn't have started flirting with me if he still had her on his mind. Hopefully, your guy is just shy or unsure and will eventually come around. It sucks that even older guys still play these games. Good luck!
What Guys Said 4
only reason i would start avoiding my crush after i already established myself with her its either cause i saw something that was a red flag or i felt like she wasn't reciprocating my feelings for her so i would fall back to it won't hurt as much which is my current situation LOL
Hes testing you out and...guess what is working. Its a little immature but that's what he's doing. If it bugs you, then why don't you get him back with his own medicine, lets see if it bugs him the same way its bugging you. Then you will see if he really did like you for the long run. Nevertheless, good luck with everything, so be it.
There are some guys who think that ignoring a girl and making her feel like a scumbag will increase their value in that girl's eye. Believe me, it works for some girls. But relations are not bound by laws because every person is different but some guys do follow the same techniqu for all girls. Probably that's what is happening with you. I would suggest, either completely ignore him or tell him that you like him. When I say completely ignore, that means that even when he tries to get you to talk again by making you feel good still ignore him. Because the guy will try to make it an on off situation until you propose him yourself. all the best
some times the mutual feelings are due to infatuations and personal likings but all the responsibilities of family life , social accepatablity and otehr issues play dominant part. i also liked married lady about 40 years and flirting went on for months. neither did i say a word nor did she as our eyes said it all. after many months i still could not say any word due to fear of rejection and with passage of time, she ignored and avoided and later on things went beyond issues. every attraction has an expiry date. the fond memories always remain in heart. in case u are bold enough, straight encounter would be best option as otherwise feelings will reamin in heart therby adding to your woes. this is my personal opinion. i did not have the courage to say to friendship due to my marital status and thinking whetehr it would be right path or not and was always having conflict in my mind and due to fear of rejection.
What Girls Said 1
Okay maybe he afraid? Are you his first relationship? He might not no how to deal with his own feelings and yours. I think the best way to find out what's going on is to actually confront him and ask, your not going to get any answers by not doing that because only he can tell you what's going on. But honestly I think he does have feelings for you why would someone go out there way to make a conversation with you if he didn't have any feelings for you? But I do think you reallly need to speak 2 him because then at least you know where you stand with him! If he was just playing you along then at least you know what type of person he is now before you got in to a relationship with him and it would be his loss. Goooodluck!