Make your break...NOW.
If he really does love you, then he'll return to you when he is legally DIVORCED. You're allowing him to have his cake and eat it too. Whatever needs his wife is not fulfilling in their marriage, you are managing to provide. You're very convenient (at the moment, until he gets tired of you)...great for him, bad for you. Because, though you think you're "loving" him and being a good woman to him...(perhaps you think you're being an even better woman than his wife?)...what you're really showing him through your actions is that you DO NOT value or love yourself enough to know that accepting his crumbs is unacceptable. Let that man take care of his business. And while he's doing that tell him that you intend on seeing other men and moving your life FORWARD while he works on his own life. Do NOT agree to wait for him (even if in your heart you will secretly long for him.) Love yourself enough to know that your life is worth more than being someone's mistress. Don't think that because you're 50 that love still won't happen for you. I'm being firm with you because I found myself propositioned by a married male friend..."great guy", but at the end of the day...I had to let my friend know, that while he is married...I REFUSE to be romantically involved. I wished him the best and I told him to do whatever it is he needs to do to work on the survival of his marriage...I don't want bad karma following me for being the one who ruined his family. That is of course, if I believed for even one second that he would ever leave his wife for me. The majority of married men don't leave their wives and even if they do, they rarely leave their wives for their mistresses. So do you want to be his convenient excuse for ending his marriage because he doesn't have the cojones to do it himself and leave on his own merit? And if he does leave his wife, what makes you think that one day he won't be cheating on you with another willing participant? What makes you think you're his only mistress? Perhaps he has one for every different part of the world he visits on business. How will you ever be able to trust a man like that...and how will he be able to trust and respect you, knowing that you lack character, that you're willing to lower your standards to involve yourself in an adulterous relationship with him? If he really loved you, would he allow you to be kept hidden in the basement only to be brought into the light during business trips and meetings? Don't you deserve better than that? What advice would you give to your daughter, sister or best friend if they were the ones asking you this question?
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Are you kidding me? Don't be a home wrecker. You should know better. He's using you & you know it. But you deserve it for committing adultry. You know better than that. Don't you know what you're doing? To the wife? To the kids? Why don't you think about someone other than yourself for a change? Cheating with a married man is the easiest thing in the world to do. finding a man of your own takes some effort. But that's what you need to do.
How dare you do this to another woman and family!
He'll never leave her for you. You'll end up alone. Looking for someone else's husband to steal.
Watch out for karma!
What?
HE IS MARRIED AND HAVE KIDS,get over him and walk away,dont be a home wreaker.
Oh, you are making such a mistake! He needs to be divorced before you even think about having anything to do with him! Even after he leaves his wife, he is not going to want to jump right into a marriage or LTR with you.
At 50, you don't have a lot of time left to find a good man, if that is what you really want in your life. If you waste 5 or 6 years waiting around for him, and it doesn't work out, you are going to be in a very difficult position.
Get out of this situation, and fast! Don't waste any more time on men that are not truly available.
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i say he needs a divorce before any further happens
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