Why does height matter so much?

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I'm pretty short being only 5'7 but have a nice face. Yet most girls won't even look at me and they will look at tall guys with average faces. It makes no sense whatsoever...

Odysseas · Accepted Answer

It depends on where you live. I'll try to answer from the prospective of a man who's 183cm ( for Greek standards that's tall). I've moved and currently live in a country in which huge differences in height between couples are not celebrated. There is a tendency (I am using the word tendency, because there're always exceptions to the rules), for men and women to date close to their heights (+/-10 cm). That means that I would date a girl who is probably 170-173 min and 193 max, of course I've never met a girl who's that tall but I would date her if I liked her. The same goes for women too. I've met many women here who don't have any complex dating a man who's shorter than them, but within those close limits. That tendency makes people to date within their height range more often so everyone is happy, tall guys date tall girls average guys date some tall-ish or short-ish girls and short guys (who are a little bit rare here) date some average or short/super short girls. On the other hand it seems that in US there is a tendency, or a trend if you like, for tall guys to celebrate huge differences (aka dating short/super short girls). That makes some of the short/super short girls to adopt that "height obsessed mentality" and turn to as many call them "size queens". You see, everyone can be superficial or shallow, but only because other people allow it..

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I'm 5'8 and never had a problem having many girls telling me how attractive I am. Most girls like taller guys but aren't so shallow they reject shorter guys. Some are, but that's rather a minority. I'd guess it's your lack of confidence is your problem.

Tamikaze · Accepted Answer

First off, I date men your height and my fiance is probably somewhere around 5'7".

So, are you actually 5'7"? Have you measured yourself? I noticed that short men (those under 6') totally add 3 inches or so to their height. I cannot tell you how confused I have been when dating guys from online. I do date men who are short but when they were not truthful with their height and Mr. 5'7" was actually shorter than me (I am 5'4"), that is not cool. I am not attracted to a man who is obviously so uncomfortable with his height that he would not be honest about it.

Overall I believe that your lack of confidence about your height is the biggest problem, not your height. And, girls honestly care only so much about men's faces. We don't think like guys. If I had to prioritize what was most important to me it would be 1. Confidence 2. fit body 3. Clearly attracted to me and 4. Average looks or above. Most women are not going to hold out for a cute guy but they will hold out for a confident guy. And, yes, some women definitely want a guy who is taller than them. Hey, we want what we want. I doubt you are attracted to all women. I am sure you have physical deal breakers.

udolipixie · Accepted Answer

Why does height matter so much? Attraction.

Sort of like when youth matters so much for guys. Just like short girls want tall guys & old guys want younger/much younger girls.

I'd give my face a 7 or 8

^ most guys say that and they're just average...I seriously wonder if there's a discrepancy in what guys think girls find attractive

moonlightdream17 · Accepted Answer

I'm 5'1/5'2, so I don't think 5'7 is too short.  It really depends on the height of the girl in question.  If she's 5'9, she might want someone taller than her but if she's under 5'5, then I don't see the big deal.  Girls like guys who are taller than them, so as long as you're taller then them...

decentusername · Answer

if most girls won't look at you for your height then you are hanging around in the wrong places.

and tall guys probably get acknowledged by everyone, not just females- for some reason people tend to notice taller people simply because, well, they're tall.

lafeeverte · Answer

i think it's something subconscious, girls just want to feel smaller, and a taller guy immediately gives that sense of protection.  I feel more feminine when I'm with a tall guy rather than one my own height, just because it's nice being the smaller one in the relationship.  I know it's not fair, but hey girls can't choose their body type either.  so I'd suggest you go for short girls :)

Anonymous · Answer

I don't think height should matter.I got teased a lot for being short at school,I'm 5'4''.My ex boyfriends were fairly average height wise,one of them was 5'7'' and the other 5'9''.My current boyfriend is 6'2'' but the fact is height has nothing to do with weather I'm attracted to somebody.

Chrissy1986 · Answer

i don't notice tall people more my husband is 5'4" and I'm 5'5" and he is very attractive, he still get hit on from random people around town

ShootingStar5 · Answer

Not all girls are into tall guys. My boyfriend is shorter than you are. And most girls don't seem to mind what height a guy is, as long as he's taller than she is. Maybe it's something else?

girlfriday86 · Answer

My husband is 5'4".  Of course, I'm only 5'2"...  I like the way my head fits perfectly onto his shoulder.  Tall guys make me feel...well, short, and I don't like it much.

Habakkuk · Answer

it shouldn't be that big of a deal, but height isn't everything, personality, confidence, good looks in general, etc

DontGivaaFock · Answer

Well I'd prefer a taller guy because I am 5'6, but I bet plenty of shorter girls look at you. There are loads of girls who like 5'4 and under who wouldn't care about height at all.

Hades · Answer

Women are more shallow man, that's the way it goes. Good thing there's so much more to life than them.

Anonymous · Answer

the guy still has to approach the woman no matter if he's tall or short. I'M 6'1'' and I've only been approach by a girl once.

dIO_oIb · Answer

Maybe you're ugly, link?

Ezmotts · Answer

Sorry man, but most girls like tall dudes.

moviedude714 · Answer

security reasons, girls are paranoid like that

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