Guys only - Can you have a long term sexual relationship, (just sex, not dating or hanging out) without developing feelings for the woman? I'm talking about 18 months, of having sex with her and only her.
Well apparently you can go 2 1/2 years without feeling a thing or at least that's what he told me the other night, that it meant nothing to him, so we are done! thanks to everyone for there comments and votes.
Well.... I couldn't. Not for 18 months, I start to get attached after about 3 months. See, that's the big secret we (good) guys don't like to let on... it's not so easy to keep having good sex with the same woman and not fall in love with her.
Now, like many guys, when I was younger, I used to have sex with women maybe just once or twice, where it would be purely physical. I used to call this "getting work done" (since back then girls used to just do "jobs" - handjobs, blowjobs, etc.). At my age sex isn't just F---ing, it's about sharing physical and emotional intimacy with my wife, since we see so little of each other during the day...
So, to answer your question? No. I don't think it's possible for a (real) man to carry on a healthy, long term sexual relationship with a woman for 18 months, and feel nothing for her -- unless he's some sort of truly vacant guy....
Well when I was younger (about 3 years ago) I would have meaningless sex all the time and there was a point in my life where I had this girl who was the only one I had sex with (it stayed this way for about a year) and I enjoyed it but every time I started to think we could be more she just tell me all I was to her was a booty call and I'd stop caring.
So having some experience in this scenario no I would start to have some feelings but why ruin a good thing if she doesn't want anything more then why do I (that girl really hurt me bad relationship and bad idea to base one on just sex) did that should bitter? Yeah well that girl was a heartless b****
Honestly I cannot do that. I will develop feelings for them over the course of time. Other guys may say differently, however subconsciously they will develop feelings. Or else why would he just sleep with you in that year and a half span?
Probably not. If the sex is really good, and we've been doing it for a year and a half, I think I surely would develop feelings for her. But, I've never tried that situation, so, I don't know for sure.
Dang Girl sorry to hear that, best of luck with it anyways
I don't think it's possible to not have any type of feelings for the woman whatsoever after sleeping with her for a year and a half. However, sometimes I have been in relationships where the longer I was with her, the more I started to dislike her even though we were strongly attracted to each other for a long time at first. I'm in a relationship right now where we have played cat and mouse games for 3 years and only slept together once. We keep playing those games though.
I couldn't, but some men could. That's why it's a bad idea to have sex in an uncommitted relationship. If one partner eventually wants commitment, the relationship will probably end.
If you really wanted something more, you should have been up-front as soon as those feelings became apparent. It couldn't hurt to be straightforward with him now. Even if the relationship ends, at least you had 18 months of physical attraction.
I am in the same boat as you. He leaves in 5-6 months, and he has yet to say a thing about what has happened between us over the past 19 months. I know I am hooked, and every time I get up the nerve to say no and end it, I cave in, every single time. I am starting to believe he has a heart made of stone...
what if you are currently in a relationship and this guy comes around and tries to hit on you.then on and off you talk to each other!and you become frustrated and don't know what to do about your current boyfriend?do you mess with the guy that you you are attracted to or do try and forget every thing and keep your relationship on track?
Yes, I think he can. Obviously you are asking this question because he has not shown any feelings towards to you. He is getting what he wants and than leaving you. Let me ask you something. If you found a guy you loved how would he feel about this relationship? You are hurting your longterm happiness here. You are attached to a guy who uses you. Get out of this relationship now, and try and find one with a guy who will love you. Anything else is just not worth it.
I am in a similar situation. I have been sleeping with a man for 3 years recently sent an email to him telling him I couldn't take what he was doing anymore. The vanishing acts etc. For extended periods of time. He writes back and tells after 3 years that he isn't looking for love, or a "relationship" he just wants a friend that's all he can handle. So after 3 years all he wants is f***buddy and yet he knows feelings are involved. Sad but a true story.