What's worse, unrequited love or impossible love?

[CatholicVirginia]

By impossible love I mean when you two know you love each other, but for some reason, you cannot be together. It's not a Romeo and Juliet story; there is no chance you can be together.

I'm wondering what your opinion is. I actually think impossible love would be harder. Unrequited love is hard, but you can and will eventually get over it and move on. But can you move on from someone you know loves you?

What do you think?

Unrequited Love

Impossible Love

Other (see below)

[Anonymous]

I agree with you, the impossible love is harder.

I loved 2 boys, the first one I loved him unrequited love. He was in the same age as mine and he was attending some of my classes in the university. I have never missed any class he attended it with me. The other classes I missed them sometimes. I was looking at him when he doesn't notice and when I hear him talking in the class, it was like my heart beats rapidly. But now, just by transferring to another university, I decided to move on and that's it.

The second boy, I loved him and he loved me too but we know it's impossible for us to be together for many reasons (impossible love). He is someone who I just met him in real life for a short period of time and then I started talking with him online. I still talk with him and I can't give up on him or move on, although we both know this will hurt us more in future. And it really hurts now too.. I feel I need him and I can't leave him because I know he loves me too and I'm afraid of not just hurting myself but hurting the person I love.

[curiouschica]

That's a tough one! I keep going back and forth in my mind between the two. At first I was thinking unrequited but you're right, I would get over it with time because I would have no choice otherwise. Impossible love, on the other hand, knowing we both loved each other and would never be able to be together would be torture. At least you have the satisfaction of knowing the love is mutual but the inability to see that love visualize would make for an awful situation...

[AmberChick]

I don't think any love is impossible, how? I would think unrequited love is worse.

[CatholicVirginia]

Maybe he's in another country, or married to another woman. Maybe your jobs won't allow for fraternization. Whatever it is, you have no reason to think that you can ever be together. But at the same time, how do you quash hope? I'd be just like you, thinking nothing is impossible - but does that mean I wait for him for years? Decades?

[AmberChick]

Hm, that's never happened to me before and I hope it doesn't lol

[CatholicVirginia]

lol it's never happened to me before either. This thought just hit me. I think that would be harder than unrequited love (which everyone seems to talk about as though it is the hardest thing). That's the point in this question, for me.

[AmberChick]

I went through unrequited love and it is really hard because you love someone who doesn't love you back and have to see them treat you as if they don't care while you are head over heels. It hurts your self esteem a lot too. At least in impossible love, you both still love each other and I think that would make it a little bit easier that you can't be together.

[CatholicVirginia]

I know there are few things harder than unrequited love, but at the same time, you can move on from it. You can get over it. I'm an optimistic person - I don't think I could ever get over a love that is requited. And if we can't be together, can't see each other, can't even talk necessarily, I think that would be torture. I'd spend my life missing him and never moving on, because I'd know he felt the same way. It just seems harder to me.

[CatholicVirginia]

I am also one of those people who sees a problem and tries to solve it, so I think I would put all of my energy and hopes into making the impossible love work, only to be constantly rebuked. That would be exhausting and clinically depressing. It seems to me like unrequited love you CAN get over, even though it's extremely painful - but impossible love would overtake your life.

Or maybe I'm just being dramatic. This is really all hypothesis.

[martyfellow]

Unrequited love is worse, because usually you will never understand why. Usually the reason involves a third person and secrets...that you wil lnormally never discover!

Maybe an old flame they still remember, maybe a current person they ca't or won't talk about, or some emotional state that coldn't be explained to you, even if the person WANTED to!

I've fantasized about stealng their diarty to find out what's going on, but few people keep diaries these days--

[martyfellow]

Hey, best answer, right?

[CatholicVirginia]

LOL there's no such thing as BA in an opinionated question!

[Iamnobody]

Impossible love can be made possible if both people really loved each other. Unrequited love on the other hand... well that's a sad situation. But the worst, most painful kind of love in my opinion is once requited love.

[CatholicVirginia]

I disagree with the first line but I appreciate your opinion!

[yopyopyop]

I think it's on the same level, because in the end, you don't get what you wish for, and you know nothing will make it happen.

[TheGodEmperorLeto]

There is no impossible love. Only fools who think it's impossible -_q

[CatholicVirginia]

What would you do if you were truly in love with a woman who was married? She has a friendly relationship with her husband, but does not love him - but for that reason, she refuses to cheat on him. They have children and her husband is a political elite. She won't leave him, she won't cheat on him. She is in love with you, she'll admit that, but she will NEVER act on it. She puts her own emotions second to her family. How do you make that possible?

[TheGodEmperorLeto]

It's not impossible, it's just stupidity. Sounds like she doesn't REALLY love more than she just wants security.

It's been proven that "staying together for the kids" isn't actually beneficial TO the kids (kids are pretty resilient, as long as you make sure they understand what's going on, they'll get over it fine).

Would seem more she just doesn't want to leave the guy due to his power or wealth.

And no, I'd never want to be with someone who cheats. And, tbh, I doubt it'd be true love.

[TheGodEmperorLeto]

Not on my part anyways. I guess it's possible, but I just never have nor see myself falling for a married woman.

[CatholicVirginia]

I agree, I'd never associate with a married person. I just think it's possible that this would be a type of impossible love.

[TheGodEmperorLeto]

I guess, I just wouldn't really consider it true love if they aren't willing to ever make it work out or go through hardships for it.

[Anonymous]

Unrequited love is harder, not knowing if the other party is aware of your love .