Aww...I would just love him all the more for trying to defend me. Him losing the fight wouldn't bother me, because there's always someone bigger and stronger out there. He'd get an "A" for effort, as they say.
I would happy to know that my guy stood up for me, that means a lot. And I would do whatever I could to not make him feel like less than a guy just because he it didn't turn out how he might have wanted it to.
I'll understand that he's most likely embarrassed , and tend to his ego. Let him know that I appreciate him trying to "protect" his lady. It's instinctual for them. At some point, I might make a little joke about it, but then give him some extra loving to let him know it's okay.
well my boyfriend can't fight (I told him) and its a shame cuase I'm about 5' 1 and he's 5'7 and he hid from this kid cause he made out with that kids girlfriend like 2 years ago. if he almost got beat up I would have kickd that kids ass. but I couldn't imagine him get into a fight cause he's everyone's best friend.
First off let me say this. I am military trained and boxed for 8 years I know how to hold my own. But in any situation you have to learn to Pick your battles, it does not matter how big a guy is to you. You got to pick them carefully life never happens the way you expect it too.
Now that being said. In that situation you have to understand what he did is what he thought he was supposed to do. What usually works is talking. Not talking sh*t but talking. Words is the most powerful weapon and if that don't work... Kick him in the balls and run lol. sorry had to say that. Fighting only brings on more problems. But I will say he may have lost the fight but he gained respect from every single female he knows. Most guys would not stand up for there girl. They all say they would but all they would do is say like "YO You WANNA F***ING START?" stuff like that. you can tell he really cares for you and what I would do if I was a female would stick by him because he probably knew he was going to loose but did it without thinking its all reaction.. Keep on to him most guys won't toss down when needed..
I think we're dealing with a "Mars/Venus" thing here. Many of us guys have convinced ourselves that getting our butts kicked in front of your girlfriends and/or other girls would be the end of the world and the end of our manhood. Judging by my own experience and by these answers, most girls/women just don't see it that way. Lucky for us, they are much more forgiving and much more interested in helping us feel better after something like that. They're not out to emasculate us. They like us.
There are SOME very few chicks out there that are shallow enough to dump a guy if he gets beat up. However, even those girls usually do things like that in casual relationships. When it comes to girls who are really in love with a guy, I would bet that the likelihood that she'd leave him because he got beaten up in front of her (and yes, even by a smaller guy) is virtually non-existent. If she lost respect for him, it probably wouldn't be for long.
Give the ladies some credit. They're not a bunch of water buffalo waiting for the alpha buck to mate with them. Am I right, ladies?