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I'm gonna be perfectly honest...
I LOVE jerks. Maybe it's because I'm young, I dunno. I just do. But being a jerk is NOT the same thing as being an asshole. I think it kind of stems from the idea that males are supposed to be the most raw of the sexes, and being a jerk sometimes gives a man the air of dominance. Girls get asked out SO often, every day, by men who try way too hard. It's sickly sweet, and it's boring. Being a bit of a jerk sometimes adds spice. It brings out the catty determination of women and that can cause a lot of sparks to fly. Girls enjoy a bit of a chase too. Like once, I was out with a group of friends and two pretty good looking guys came over. Guy 1 looks at my girlfriend and says something along the lines of; "That's a hot dress. You look amazing.", Guy 2 looked her up and down, obviously liked what he saw, smirked, and then said; "It would have looked hotter in red." That was it.
Guess which guy she went for. Yeah. A lot of girls have very extroverted and outgoing personalities. They can pretty much get their way with anything, anyone, and not really have to try too hard to do it. So it's really thrilling when someone comes around and isn't afraid to roll his eyes at you and ignore you.
What to do? When/if she tries to kiss you, pull away. That almost NEVER happens that a guy pulls away, and it will make her want to kiss you more. Poke fun at her intelligence. Women have a tendency to let their IQ drop a few points while flirting. If she says something silly, call her out on it. Don't ask. Just do. If you want to dance, don't ask her. Just take her hand and lead the way. She will follow. Be disinterested for a while. Allow yourself to notice other women while in her presence "discretely". It'll make her work even harder for your undivided attention. Basically, just turn it around so that she will end up doing most of the work to get you, that you would have done to get her.
Now, the line is drawn when cocky or jerk becomes downright abuse or disrespect. Name calling of any kind, or touching a girl inappropriately is where the hotness becomes rude and intolerable.
It's not that girls like jerks. We don't... This is the trick you need...
Girls sometimes say "This guy is such a jerk, and I don't know why I like him. There's just something about him."
The thing they're talking about is respect. If a guy can pick on a girl (playful way, not hurtful), yet still know how to treat her with respect, THAT'S what will get her attention. Most guys are either sweet or sour, like you worded it. The trick is to be both. That's how the guy I'm interested in right now is keeping my attention. He pick on me and teases me and is the most annoying kid I've ever known... He's always acting flirty and sexual with most of the other girls, but just picks on me, but there's still something else about him that's so attractive... He shows me respect by not treating me like a slut or someone he just wants to have sex with. Because of this, most people who know us think he is interested in me, because he's more serious with me and respects me by not making constant sexual advances.
Get it? You need to be both sweet AND sour. That'll get your girl's attention, and make her wonder why she finds you so irresistible. Once you've got her, it's okay to still pick on her a little, but really... try to let your sweet side as much as you can. We girls really dig it. I seriously wish that this guy would do something sweet for me. Haha. Just have confidence and be willing to go after what you want. If you do it in a sweet way, she'll be weak in the knees for you. The most important thing... just be yourself. There are too many fake people out there. If you want a girl to be real with you, you need to be real with her as well. Always be open and honest.
Good luck!
We don't like jerks, we like aggressive guys. We like guys who will walk right up to us and start a conversation, guys who carry themselves with confidence and have opinions and beliefs. The problem with the typical "nice guy" is that he isn't stubborn in his beliefs at all. He will do anything for a girl he likes (such as change his opinions, passions, or beliefs to match hers). I am not saying to purposely disagree with a girl, but don't just change your mind because of what we think. And if you eventually come to share our opinions, that is fine, we can tell the difference.
The problem with nice guys is that their biggest passion is the girl. How boring is that? Yes, it is flattering at first, but after a while it is just way to predictable. It is possible to love a girl without becoming obsessed. Girls tend to like guys who make us a part of their life, not the whole thing. Think about it, would you want to date a girl who was obsessed with you? A girl who just did everything you wanted her to without having her own thoughts? It would get boring after a while, and you would crave a real relationship.
It isn't about being a jerk. It is about being yourself, always. Have your own life, be confident in yourself, and don't worry if girls like you or not. Just live your life. Have your own values, opinions, and passions. When you meet a girl you like, talk to her, flirt with her, make her feel like she is special. If you start to really like her, ask her out. Just do what you want to do and be confident that you can do it.
I know what you mean. I think the perception of being a nice guy is just enough to put most women off.
This guy was annoying me and a few of my friends at a party, so I choked him out then threw my drink on his crotch, and waited till he woke up and sat back and watch everyone laugh at him. All the girls who have previously ignored me for the last hour who saw me do that, suddenly wanted to talk to me. I usually don't do things like that, my usually self would have just walk away, but I had ironically been thinking about this exact topic, and just was in a foul mood.
I get the feeling sometimes, that if girls did not have the sexual freedom they have now, and they would only have sex with guys they want to go out with, I think I would still be a virgin.
I tried being a jerk for a while, but it's just not in my nature. I just feel bad for people I've wronged. I guess I'll have to wait till the girls have had enough f***ing all the jerks they can find... by then I don't know if I would want to be with someone I know has been used that many time. I not sure if I want to deal with the emotional baggage that will come with that.
This situation is very depressing for me, because as I've become older, the idea of having a beautiful loving wife who treats me as well as I would treat her and raising 2 or 3 beautiful children to be good loving people is something I really want to do now. The way things are going, I don't think that dream will become reality for me.
-Act like you're not into her
-Disagree with her for the sake of conversation
-When she asks you a question about yourself, respond with the same question with answering her question. Chances are, she'll proceed with answering your question prior to realizing or caring that you never answered.
-Find new and creative ways to be a Hypocrite.
-Never sugarcoat your opinion on something because you think the way you feel with offend her standpoint. You're the devil's advocate.
-When she starts talking about her morals, it's a good time to make her feel guilty.
-She should never have any reason to believe she's number one in your mind
-She should never have any reason to believe she's not easily replaced.
-Condescend whenever the opportunity presents itself.
-Don't do any "favors"
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Wow, you are clearly missing the point. WOMEN DO NOT LIKE JERKS. Women's attractions to men have nothing to do with good vs. bad, if anything, women prefer nicer guys. The reason bad boys or jerks get any play at all is because edgy men have a tendency to be more assertive and confident. They don't make excuses, blame their inability to nab girls on other guys, twiddle their thumbs in the background and wait for someone to move in on their target, and they stand up for themselves and their women. A lot of people who describe themselves as 'nice' or 'shy' are really just trying to find nice words for fearful. If you like a girl, don't procrastinate. Don't try to be the best friend right off the bat. ASK HER OUT. If you decide she'd make a better friend, you can discuss that after a few dates. 'Jerks' aren't afraid to make eye contact, have open body language, protect women, and stand up for themselves. If you want to turn more sour and still have the same behavior you must presently have, you aren't going to have any more luck getting women. Women are attracted to confident and assertive guys who aren't afraid to approach them or look them in the eye and are more than happy to defend themselves of their girls when a situation calls for it. Period.
Well lots of people say don't be a jerk, hmm wonder why, I bet that the women who say that are either dating a jerk, have dated a jerk, or have never dated anyone at all. I bet the guys who say don't be a jerk are probably single and are in the same boat as you are my friend. So do girls like jerks, yes they do, hell if they didn't why are jerks reeling them in left and right? And if they all wanted a nice guy why are you single?
I'm a jerk simple as that, so how is my dating life, well I dated like 5 girls at one time, all them were on the Deans list, wanted to be Drs, lawyers, scientists, teachers, so ya your typical dumb girl as the women say. Self asteem issues, well none, they were sweet, kind, caring, women, who came from g reat families, and didn't have any issues they weren't emo or crazy. I didn't have to wonder if they were going to call me, hell they texted me and called me all the damn time. Well if one didn't work out I would get another so I would always have at least one girl to take on dates. As of right now I have a girlfriend and in a great relationship with her. Oh by the way she wants to be a Dr.
Well for one start a good exercise routine. Build up some muscle and pretend like you don't know you have it. Stand up for yourself instead of letting others walk all over you. Girls really like a confident guy that won't back down. Women don't want some asshole they just want the guy that other girls wish they could have. (When they are young anyway) Be that guy. I did this very thing when I was going through school. During middle school I was picked on for being weak and short. The summer before I went to high school I worked out A LOT. When I showed up for high school I saw a few of the guys that used to make fun of me, but didn't do anything. Until one of them couldn't resist the urge and pushed me on the ground. I got up and slammed him into the door which ended him ever messing with me again and I got a lot of looks from the girls. I'm like you a really nice guy so in a little while I got a slip of paper during class that was anonymous from a girl saying she liked me. I find out it was from one of the girls that is short and flat chested, but I started to like her back.
Really it's natural animal attraction. Females like the male that the other males won't mess with. They however don't want an asshole they want a nice guy to. You could definitely pull it off man! Just start working out and build up confidence then prove you're no push over!
Honestly I think you should just be yourself. Then you will attract the right girl who appreciates you for you and loves the sweetness in you.
What are you looking for out of relationships? Are you looking to hook up or do you want a girlfriend? If you're trying to hook up then you just need game and not to be so clingy to the girl. If you want a relationship then keep being yourself. Quantity is not always quality. A real woman is not going to tolerate a man who acts like a jerk so you could be pushing away a great thing by acting like a jerk. If you just want to hook up with some bimbos then I guess it doesn't really matter how you treat them, just do whatever works.
If you are not a true jerk, people will be able to sense that you're being fake and that's unattractive. Most real jerks have issues and many relationships they are in are abusive. If you can't seriously see yourself abusing a girl and treating her like dirt (I hope not!) then you're not a jerk. You don't need to stop being nice, just don't put every girl on a pedestal until you know that she's worth it. Be more assertive and stop worrying about if you're "nice" or not, do what is best for you.
The only kind of girls that jerks get are the ones with self esteem problems. Personally I'm looking for guys who AREN'T jerks but they seem like they are are so few and far between. I recently ran into an old friend that I've known for years. He was always known as sort of a nice guy and that's what made me give him a chance. Apparently he changed over the years and I saw his jerky side. So yeah technically he got my attention for a little bit but I had to check his ass after he disrespected me and now we don't speak anymore. So yeah jerkiness works for some girls but not all. And I never gave him any either so his loss!
man that's stupid, you are over 25 yo and you are letting younger naive bad girls change you? you want to change yourself for those unworthy ones? man come on! did you read what Emilymarie77 wrote? why are you lowering yourself to these levels, if you are being sweet and behaved this means you are not a match for the bad girls that don't know what they want from life yet and will just keep fooling around until they reach their mid twenties or something, believe me even if you change yourself for a immature, bad girl you'll have to keep lowering yourself after and you won't ever win with her and in the end she will find another jerk! she wants a jerk and you therefore want to be a jerk?!?!?!
you know what you are doing is like, a nice girl got stuck with an asshole, and she she changes the way she looks (even if that was painful) to make him happy and to win him over, and you know what? he'll get rid of her once it gets anything near serious!
look for real women, that's the way to go, and you know where and how to find real women, steer clear of immature young girls below your age, if you want to be really happy.
No you don't. What you need to do is find a girl who has some sense in her head, and some self respect. Girls date jerks because they're stupid. They don't want to wait and see if there's a nicer guy out there, or they just don't believe that nice guys exist. Don't fall for some dumb trick that society wants to play on you. I know I'm young and everything, but I am NOT an idiot. I've seen this a million times over, and it p*sses me off that you think you need to be a jerk to get girls. The only thing you need to be is who you really are. Don't act like a jerk. Acting is the same thing as pretending, and pretending is the same thing as being fake. If you don't want to date a fake girl, I'd suggest you don't act fake either. If you don't want to wait around for a girl who's nice and wants a nice guy, fine. I can't change your mind, but don't sell yourself short because you think you'll never find someone. Don't be a jerk, and don't settle for a girl who only dates jerks. Settling is a one way ticket to failure.
Just express how you feel about everything and don't think about how it effects people around you. Everything you do must benefit you in some sort of way, otherwise it's a waste of time. Constantly make crude, vulgar and sexual innuendo jokes to women and be very persistant on trying to get them to have sex with you.
Also you'll have to lie to them about how you feel. Say stuff like "i've never met someone like you before, you are so gorgeous and sexy," But as soon as you have sex with them. You have to go after their best friend. After sleeping with her, make sure they both know so that they lose a friendship over a jerky guy.
i think I just described the super douche..
Okay, nothing wrong with a little roughness, just so long as you retain that awesome good-guy core. So. Be just a little standoffish, like you are glad they are around but equally glad if they are not... Be a little dominant/disciplinarian (like a dad figure kinda-girls are kinkier than most of us realize.) And definitely poke fun at them a little but not all the time, if you think you can pull it off. Be very slightly critical but not in a way they will take too personally. Let me know how that goes for ya. :)
You don't need to be a jerk, you just need to be less nice..
Uhh.. It's like this. Two guys are talking and one takes the other guys side. I'm instantly attracted to the winner of the debate because he has established dominance and I want the dominate one. I want someone strong that doesn't show a lot of emotion until AFTER we are in a relationship. I want to work for his affection. You have to know how to do it.. Here's an example. I was hanging with a couple of friends and this one guy was so hot, but he would call me retarded and bitch and it really made me think was a creep. (He would say it in a joking way, but I still didn't appreciate it.) Next thing I know he gives me his hoodie because he noticed I was shivering. Instant win over, but he didn't say anything nice or lame. He just took care of me.
Girl's attraction to the 'jerk' is that we feel like we can change him, that we can make him nice, or that we can bring out his other side and have him be nice to us and nobody else, giving us a special feeling that we're important because he's only nice to us. Being confident and assertive are great qualities, but when it comes to being a complete jerk to girls, we really hate that. Naive girls will be more attracted to a guy who is rude and brushes her off, when most smart girls will forget the guy. It's much like when girls think guy's like 'the chase' when really, most guys don't. No advice for you on becoming a jerk, but I would say becoming more confident and outgoing would be a definite plus ;)
Yes, your finally coming to your senses.
It took me a while to figure it out by after I changed my life has gotten
so much better you don't even know.
1. first off have backbone if a girl p*sses you off call her out on it
2. never give a girl what she wants unless she deserves it
3. always keep her on her toes
4. don't be too available
5. always have another girl that is interested in you so she has to compete.
6. have that idgaf attitude,
7. confidence and blah blah...blah
8. don't kiss ass
9. work out and get buff
10. be aggresive
not in order but whatever
trust me I know what you mean. Jerks act like they don't care and girls flock to them. they want what they can't have and that asshole quality makes the guy ;hot;...but wanna know a secret? They DONT marry or end up with the girls, nice guys do. If you want to be a bit more jerkish without being too nice cause you don't want anyone to take advantage, just don't seem to care sooo much in the beginning of a relationship to get the girl to come to you...but after that you can let go and be yourself. Don't be too mean or too nice, that's the way to go.
dont do that ! the world needs sweet guys, there a dying breed! stay true to your self and the right girls will be drawn to you ! Only girls with low self esteem go for jerks cos they don't love them selfs so they put up with being treated sh*t... you want a girl who likes her self is happy fun nice and cute, so if you keep putting your confident energy out there and like yourself you will meet people in no time...
As if youd want to change your self to be like guys that aren't happy in them selfs and treat people bad ! Come on ... that is so NOT good !
dont be a jerk. seriously. I'm just saying the same thing all of these other people have but ill reiterate it again just to get the point across. the girls who go for jerks are girls, not women. you don't want to attract that type and you don't want to be someone you're not.
as a rule of thumb, don't make anybody a priority until they show you they'll return it & apreciate it. otherwise you just come off as needy. keep yourself busy, spend time with your friends & family, do things you enjoy, and find actvities that would be catalysts for meeting women.
and I hope I don't insult you by saying that everybody needs to work on their physical appearance so hitting the gym, and taking care of yourself would help also. physical attraction is the first step to sparking interest, although it doesn't keep the interest if the person is an idiot
You don't need to be a jerk I am not a jerk and I get pretty much any girl I want. Be the edgy guy that treats women well. It maybe something you are doing even though being confident. Are you self defeating yourself instantly assuming girls like jerks so putting it in the back of your head when going after a girl? Check out the artofcharm.com they are friends of mine and the free stuff they have on there site is more then enough to help a confident guy figure out what he might be doing wrong.
Don't, that's my advice, I too have tried all that (failing) and realise that all you are doing is making it harder to find true love, being a jerk attracts the jerk girls who just mess around and don't take you seriously as a long term boyfriend.
If someone doesn't love you for who you are then that's there loss because any right minded girl would want a nice guy over a bad guy, there's not many but by hell they are better then the idiot slappers who think a d***head with a can in his hand is any good for her.
I was dumbfounded at what some of the females were saying except for the 31 year old on here. The keyword is girls they don't usually know what they want and when a guy mistreats them they cry why do you do this stuff to me and why is he like that. It is because that is what you wanted someone that treat you like sh*t. You need a WOMAN because we want a guy who is kind, hardworking,loving, and sincere who don't have to put on a act so we can want them. I don't have time for drama only girls do. Not all females are immature but maybe you should date someone 25 years of age and older if you don't like head games. Again date a woman not a girl. Because I like men not little boys.
i know what you mean dude but please don't let the so call bitches and hos to destroy us nice guys and good decent men and our reputations for being nice and good men let them be single mothers it's their fault not yours keep trying and if they reject you just once because you are nice then forget them let them get pregnant with jerks you are better then this.While those bitches and hos pardon my french date jerks and she lives on the street being single mothers with nothing at all no money no house no thing if you know what I mean and you get a life,a wife loves you for who you are and you have a job and a nice car and a nice house/a nice apartment I hope this helps a fellow nice guy/a good decent man and good luck dude and let's see who have the last laughs and if you got anything to ask me or if you got any questions you like to ask me feel free to ask me and I will see if I can answer your question.
Don't be a jerk, be nice but aggressive. The jerk's may get the girls, but their relationships rarely last long; and when they do, they are usually abusive.
When I mean nice but aggressive, have respect for her, but be your own person. Don't let people push you around and go by the beat of your own drum; but have some respect for the girls too. From my experience, girls like a confident guy, but not someone who is really pushy. Yes, I have lost girls to jerks, but in the end, the girl regrets getting with the jerk, and the vicious cycle continues.
learn to smack a girls ass in a club...as soon as she reaCHES for a slap to your face..dodge it...the more you treat a girl like she's less then you...the more she'll learn to respect you...please don't go out and shouting your intentions...its just a mindset that you must learn to master in order to get a girl's respect...please don't actually go around and slap girl's asses...lol..the idea is to learn your place as a man. The man guides and is stronger...when you picture yourself like this, then everything else will fall into place...
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