What it's Like to be Mixed: My Experience Growing Up as a Mixed Person

[lovelyhoneybones]

Disclaimer: Since I feel people might get offended over this, because everyone gets butt hurt over everything now a days, this was in no way made to offend, attack or victimize anyone. These are observations that I have noticed and encountered over the years.

What are you?

Growing up I constantly was asked what I was. Whether it was Are you Asian? White? Blah. Blah. Blah. I constantly get mistaken for other than my ethnicity. But don't get me wrong, it's something I enjoy. Especially when it's something new.

You're not fully black, you're not fully white

One of the most difficult things about being of multiple ethnic backgrounds is not only deciding what to call yourself, but what to be classified as by other people. When you get forced to choose what side you identify with, it can get pretty nasty. Even though my mother is mixed herself, she's very adamant on my siblings and I referring to ourselves as black.

I've come to use whatever best fits the situation that I am in.

You're black becomes an insult

The same people who constantly refer to you as mixed, will refer to you as black to be insulting. I've experienced it quite a few times. I've had people who've gotten upset with me call me black out of anger. Obviously that isn't an insult and it falls down to that person's ignorance and not me, but you can't help but to feel...some kind of way about the way they chose to use it.

The great N word debate

A lot of black people who don't agree that white people can say the n word, do not like it when mixed or light skin people choose to use it as well. I've never been told not to use it, since I don't use it any way, but I've heard this argument come up a few times. It's something even your white friends get in on.

Do you say the N word? Do you feel comfortable with me saying it around you? Do you only say half of the word since you're half black?

Constantly wishing you were fully one of your sides

I'm not saying all mixed people do this, but I most certainly know I have and sometimes still do. I grew up in a predominantly white area, went to a school where most of the people were white including the teachers, which meant most of my friends were white. Somewhere along the way I got it into my head that the way that I was and the way that I looked, was wrong. Thus began my many years of hating what I was. I kept wishing that I was more white than black, or that I was not black at all. For a good bit I envied the way my cousins looked, they all have white skin and light hair. I questioned so many times why I hadn't come out that way.

I don't date black girls, but I have no problem dating you

Something that I have constantly seen when entering the dating world were men of all sorts of different backgrounds who didn't date black girls, having no problem dating me. I went from being this girl that hated what she was to this girl who fascinated males with her beauty and her "exotic" looks.

Being mixed gives you a status among other black people

One of the main things I noticed growing up was how I was treated by other black people because of my hair and my skin tone. It was almost as if being mixed was godly. Everyone talked about you, your hair length and texture. My sisters and I would constantly have black females awing over our hair. Every time I was with my best friend at the time, she would refer to me as white. Or a white girl. She talked about the way that I talked and said how much I talked like a white person. It was almost like she thrived off of other people being light skin or white.

Thank you for taking the time out to read my VERY first mytake! If you have any similar experiences, feel free to share them.

[madhatters4]

great take. my daughter is mixed and i do wonder and worry about the issues she'll deal with growing up. this will help me understand the perspective of a person growing up being of mixed racial backgrounds

Thanks!

[lovelyhoneybones]

I'm glad my mytake could help!

[applesandbannanas22]

dont worry mad, times are a bit different than they were in previous generations. Im mixed, and usually am treated differently than others like put on a pedestal. its weird, but im not complaining.

[HOAAH]

both my kids are mixed too. my son looks more white so I label him as white when I put him in day cares and school/dental/medical, my daughter looks Asian so I label her as such but they are both mixed. I get a lot of "he doesn't look like your son" comments, and "are you the nanny" when I was a new mom... it was really weird to say the least.

[applesandbannanas22]

@HOAAH they should just be labeled what they are, mixed

[HOAAH]

@applesandbannanas22 they don't have that option yet

[applesandbannanas22]

@HOAAH The option? they are mixed, their DNA doesn't lie

[HOAAH]

@applesandbannanas22 I know. I think there is a option to mark other or skip the question. I guess I could do that too. But I have not seen an option for mixed.

[lovelyhoneybones]

@HOAAH I typically mark other when I'm filling out forms.

[applesandbannanas22]

@HOAAH yeah like she said, I mark other. sometimes you may even get a scholarship for that (not sure why though)

[madhatters4]

@HOAAH my wife has gotten the "is that your daughter thing a lot" seems unfair since i don't get the same question. people have asked my daughter if she is adopted, a step-child, etc. seems like an unfair assumption but such is life

[madhatters4]

thanks for MHO

[Elarra]

I'm not mixed, but I'm light skinned and literally like all of these things have happened to me simply because someone assumed I was mixed. Annoying af

[lovelyhoneybones]

It does get really annoying, I'm glad other people can relate though. :)

[SmartButBroke]

See--and, like you said, I don't want to trigger people, but--I feel like it's a mixed bag with black people when you're mixed as far as how they treat you, especially black females if you're also a female. I've had the stuff with my hair happen, definitely, from other black females. But I'd have to say my most common experience with black females is being disliked "for no reason." Does not happen with white females. Does not happen with Asian females. Only black females, but especially when I was younger. I experienced tons of just unnecessary drama with black girls from, like Kindergarten until my mother and I made a conscious effort to enroll me in a predominantly white high school (my mother is black, white and American Indian, my dad is French/Italian). The status thing has almost actually been more of a thing with non-black women, for me, though certainly not all the time. I have definitely had many white girls fascinated with me, though, lol, like I get more "positive" attention from black men and white women than anyone else.

One day, my mother and my two sisters were sitting around talking about our experiences in school growing up, I guess, and I made some comment about how black women seem not to like light-skinned and mixed black women and everyone else agreed. My sisters and I have never talked about this, really, but my mother and I have. My mother is darker and looks more black and American Indian, not like she's mixed with white, and she identifies as black. She agrees that black women seem to dislike light-skinned black/mixed women. Note that we're not saying they're "jealous" because I think with women "dislike" is too quickly linked to jealousy. I just think we get dislike of a perception of how other people treat us taken out on us by black women, like how you were talking about black men act like we're trophies--not my fault, but the anger is directed at me, not black men like it should be.

I also have to point out, though, that I'm usually very quiet and more of a loner and have always been, and that definitely causes a lot of people to dislike you and are things that aren't understood in the black community. So, I don't know if maybe that has something to do with a difference in how black women treat you vs me.

Oh, and mixed blacks aren't the default "mixed" people, lol. There are mixed Asians and Hispanics, and their experiences are kind of different from ours.

Good job on your first myTake--I appreciate it.

[lovelyhoneybones]

Oh yes, I understand that people mixed between black and white are not the default mix. I'm more than just black and white, those are just the sides I chose to write about.

I completely understand what you mean by black females not liking you for no reason other than your skin and hair. Most of my life, I've gotten on better with females who weren't black because of that. I do think it's a type of jealousy thing because of the whole self hatred within a lot of black communities. A lot of dark skinned women, at least in the West growing up hating their skin color. It's sad, but true.

Thank you! I'm glad it's getting positive feedback. I was a little afraid of writing it at first.

[FýrdracaDócincel]

When it comes to the subject of being mixed race, I really am sheepish with regards to my opinions about it. Not because my opinion on mixed race people are bad, in fact they're the opposite, but I imagine that any mixed individual who hears them wouldn't know if they should feel offended or patronized. Either way, I'm gonna get slapped upside the head at some point in my life because of it. That'll be fun..

Personally, I think mixed race people are really cool. They're kind of like the half-blooded creatures of certain folklores, mythologies and fictions. With the strengths of both, weaknesses of none... often considered outsiders in their societies, yet not outside the bounds of society ((a bit like in those pulp detective stories, or the Witcher games)).

I understand how what I just said may make me seem ignorant of the hardships regarding not being fully accepted by any one group, which is why I usually keep those opinions to myself. Trust me, I do realize it's not as glorious as I had described. Yet when I look at it in a certain light, there's a kind of badassery to be found in the concept.

[lovelyhoneybones]

That's a very interesting way to look at it. You shouldn't ever feel afraid or intimidated to share your opinion or input on topics though. Whether your view is correct or not, people will still disagree with you. And just because it's incorrect or wrong, people may still agree with you.

[FýrdracaDócincel]

I thank you.

[Machiavelli]

Same, even though both my parents could be considered black, my dad's family side has green eyed, light skinned people, so he looks mixed. I came out looking mostly Asian. People also mistake me for Latino or half white, but the most popular one is Asian. And I experienced the same things as you do. I really don't talk to anyone or keep friends and don't really date because it's either jealousy or I am being used like a trophy.

[lovelyhoneybones]

Aw man. That sucks, I didn't have to stop dating due to that. I just know who to avoid and stuff.

[Machiavelli]

Yeh it's because of the country I live in, I am not American. I plan to find a guy who looks like me and see if that works, but I have to go uptown, or just leave Jamaica.

[uknaked]

Over the years I have dated mixed race guys and girls, in fact I think that there are very few fully 'black' people in so called developed countries. Fortunately there has been a lot of breeding between races, colours and cultures.
In my view everybody should be required to interbreed different skin colours, they would produce beautiful people like you.
I really prefer to be tanned, I am biologically white! I much prefer a partner who has a darker skin.
I understand what you mean about darker skinned peoples attitude to lighter skins, I have had a number of 'black' girlfriends who wanted me to give them lighter skinned children, because, and they are, sadly, seen as having more opportunities in life.
I do hope that as the years go on, discrimination will become history, and everybody on earth will be treated equally!
For that to happen, the most bigoted religious idiots will need to change their attitudes!

[Rainie_]

I'm mixed and I always get the question "what are you?", I do like hearing where people might think I'm from, it's entertaining.

But the most annoying issue is people say naaa you a "white girl", then I have people being like no you ain't a white girl... is it really that hard to just agree that I'm just mixed cause that's what I am 🙄
And then the issue with people only talking to me in English in my home country because I look like a foreigner...

Another issue is people like to touch my hair, white, black Asians, everyone is fascinated, gets real annoying after a while.

Really agree on your last point, but especially when it comes to black guys in my case.

[lovelyhoneybones]

Yes! Some black males look at us as if we're a trophy or something. It makes them feel accomplished if they get us.

I do like hearing where people think I'm from as well. It's hilarious when people tell you you're not what you actually are.

[applesandbannanas22]

I dont know you looked hispanic to me but then again they are mixed too. people often assume I dont speak English

[JDavid25]

Shoo, well I mean when you stuck in the hood, and bombarded with "every group of women except "Black" dark skinned women are beautiful" what do you expect? LOL..

[Bvroon]

This was a very interesting take. You are who you are and it is that person that is beautiful. Life is far too short to have to worry about these sorts of things. Granted I know it doesn't stop people from being, well... people. It sounds to me like you have made peace with yourself, which is really the most important thing. Good for you. :)

[lovelyhoneybones]

Everyday I'm getting closer and closer to finding peace within myself. Thank you. I'm glad you enjoyed the mytake.

[Bvroon]

I'm really happy that you are moving closer to that point, you might find that the closer you get, the more you will also find people who accept you for who you are rather than what your racial composition is.

[lovelyhoneybones]

I think I already found that. :)

[Bvroon]

Good deal. :)

[passingby123]

I'm half black, half while born in Mexico (pf course with any Latinx features) and I do relate to many things here. Not the N word thing bc I speak Spanish but with all of the others. This is a great My Take. I also found a comic about this addressing the same and other things about being mixed, I'll comment it if I find it.

[lovelyhoneybones]

I would love to read it if you do find it. I'm glad you enjoyed this and could relate! :)

[lord_chilled]

Tbh , the us either needs to get rid of all the race classifications or needs to add mixed/biracial to their list. I mean there is a significant population of mixed people there isn't it?

Besides, since the definition of race isn't very clear cut, arguably, pretty much everyone in the is is kinda mixed. I mean i always hear how people are part British, italian, german, french, etc... Even if they are white, they are from different places, same with Asian and black, latin americans are basically all mixed (european and native).
For a country thats basically already mixed in nature, there sure is a whole lot of weird obsessions with race..

[naraku]

Excellent post !

I am Euro-Asian mixed. I find that people always find it is cool that I am mixed. They always say I have a great look.

BUT

When it comes to dating, I find most of the times Asian girls don't want to date me because I am not full. I can't speak Chinese, or Korean or Thai etc so for some reason it becomes a problem. In the end I find Japanese girls don't care about me been mixed, seems they kind of adore it. So it seems I need to keep dating Japanese girls ( not necessarily a bad thing ! )

Any other race doesn't seem to mind until I say I'm part Asian and then it's like " you don't want to date Asian girls ? " * d'oh ! *

Sometimes, I do feel isolated and an outcast from both sides.

Sometimes, I feel like I am the greatest thing in the room because of it.

In the end I find it hard sometimes but have learned to deal with it.
Overall, I am not welcome on either side because of the other.
But on the other hand I'm not exactly pushed away.

[HikerDude]

White people really don't care. Most of us just live our lives and try to get along with people. Black and mixed people are a lot more obsessed about race than we are.

[TayTay21]

I totally agree. Black people are tired of racial problems, yet they're the ones constantly trying to make race the number 1 issue. It's tiresome.

[lovelyhoneybones]

@TayTay21 That is true. It's called internalized racism and it goes all the way back to slavery times. Back then, the lighter you were, the better you got treated and a lot of black people still keep that mindset til this day.

It's really sad.

[HikerDude]

My thing is, white people care a lot less about race than you think. Now, you may think that's bad, but think back to a time when white people obsessed over race, ethnicity, and religion. My dad grew up in a neighborhood that was segregated between Poles, Serbs, Slovaks, and Italian families. Most black people have never even heard of these groups, yet back in the day, it was a major deal where your ancestors were from and what religion you were. Today we're all tossed into the catch-all of "white people."

[DizzyAster]

No, that's not Black people, that's niggas.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f3PJF0YE-x4
It's the equivalent of whites and trailer-trash
Black people, like me, don't care. Hell, mixed kids are cute, especially the adult female ones. :P
Niggas do care.
I know this one chick who's ok with her son dating a snow white Hispanic girl, but not a white girl. What a stupid motherfucker.

[JDavid25]

"White" people don't seem to care because they're around mostly other "White" people.. LOL.. It's called "White" privilege where you don't have to care, or never thought about it as much so it doesn't affect you like that.. LOL..

[HikerDude]

@JDavid25 It's everyone's "privilege" not to care about things they don't care about. Most black people don't give a shot about white people, so it's A two-way street.

[TeaMoney]

We have to care about white people, because white people are our teachers, employers, lawmakers, the cops. White people have power over us. The same cannot be said for white people pertaining to black people as a collective.

[HikerDude]

@TeaMoney What do you have to learn about a white teacher that you don't have to learn about a black one? We just had 8 years with a black President who had power over us all, but that didn't make me think anymore about black people. I just went about my business because I've got all I can handle with my own life.

[TeaMoney]

I'm almost convinced the only reason Obama eon was so he could be used to pretend racism is over. The president alone has no power over the public. That's why I said black people as a collective. Maybe if over half of congress was black people, you'd have a point.

[lovelyhoneybones]

@TeaMoney Black people don't have to care about white people anymore than any one else does. We don't live back in the 1940s where white people dominated everything.

[HikerDude]

@TeaMoney Racism will never end. People hate other people by nature. And it isn't just a white issue. Black people harbor their own racist notions.

[TeaMoney]

@lovelyhoneybones dont get me wrong, it would be really cool if you weren't wrong AF, BUT

@HikerDude OK but it doesn't matter if someone hates you if they don't have the power to do anything about it, which white people do, so...

[lovelyhoneybones]

@TeaMoney The only reason you feel white people are above black people because that's your mindset. Don't try to push YOUR outlook on everyone else.

[TeaMoney]

@lovelyhoneybones

Nah, the only reason I think white people are "above" black people is because I'm well-versed in economics and I know that in a capitalist system, money is power. White people have majority of the wealth in the US, so they have majority of the power.

I don't make the rules, I'm just aware of them.

[HikerDude]

@TeaMoney Remember, though, that among white people, it's a tiny percentage of us who hold the majority of the wealth. Most of us are just trying to make it.

[JDavid25]

I ain't talkin about people caring about people.. Although BLM did protest the police shootin of a "White" guy.. And it's not like "White" people ever showed enough care for us to start concern over them.. Many don't even have a positive view of us.. Soooo don't expect "Black" people to be ready to care about a group that can't even sympathize with us many times.. It's not a two way street.. LOL. Wake up bro..

[JDavid25]

Well, the fact that most of those wealthy people are "White" should tell you enough.. Also, the national median income for "White" people is much higher than it is for "Black" households.. LOL..

[HikerDude]

@JDavid25 You didn't read what I wrote. I never said black people should care about anyone on the basis of race. In fact, I wrote the opposite. Black people need to stop putting so much stock into race, as though that has so much bearing on people's lives. It's just playing the victim to do so. And no, I don't sympathize with any racial groups. I sympathize with individuals, maybe, but not entire groups.

White people have higher a median income level because we have a higher median level of academic attainment, not because of our race. Preferences in hiring actually go to minorities, not to white men, so educated blacks have the advantage in the job market.

[JDavid25]

You've never lived life as a "Black" person so I don't think you can say we should stop puttin so much stock into something that does affect us.. It does have bearing in peoples lives.. LOL..
You think that all ended in the 60's? LOL.. In hiring procedures they throw away applicants resumes and applications with more "Black" sounding names..
Housing discrimination among minorities mainly "Black" people still exist.. Young "Black" males [under 35] as a group have higher unemployment, lower graduation rates, less access to healthcare and higher incarceration rates than other racial, age and gender groups in the U. S.”
"Black" males were asked what can be done to improve the status of the "Black" community.. They been sayin the same thing they always say... More Jobs.. And why do you think "White" people have a higher level of education? Oh could it be, better education opportunities for "White" people? LOL..

[JDavid25]

Also, hiring preferences don't go to minorities. Otherwise why would the unemployment rate still be higher amoung "Black" and Latinos? Like I said.. It's "White" privilege for you to say what you say.. You don't have to worry about race since yours in the majority.. LOL.. And they don't have to think about it as much..

[HikerDude]

@JDavid25 If you think white people are going to slit our wrists to make black people happy, you're crazy. You accuse me of living in the past, but you're the one talking about racial issues like it's 1963. Jim Crow is dead. Black people have plenty of opportunities in this country. The key is, you have to *take* the opportunities that are there. Black people have to try to excel in school, they can't just blame teachers and the system when they aren't making it. Asians come here and do very well even though they're socially awkward and have zero charisma. They do it by working hard in school, which they see as their only way out of poverty. Black people can do the same if they want.

[JDavid25]

Nobody cares about "White" people making us happy.. LOL.. And these issues are happening TODAY, by back in 1963, and is proven by studies and data.. Not perception... Get a grip guy.. LOL.. I'm trynna to tell you that you are living in yo own little world.. If it was as easy as you sayin then crime, and poverty wouldn't persist in the "Black" community.. This isn't suppose to make you feel sorry for us or anything.. This is to show you the "White" people do indeed think about race when they aren't around mainly or only "White" people.. Also "Asian" people don't come here in poverty.. And they don't have the same history "Black" people do in America.. Plus, you're clearly generalizing them.. LOL.. It doesn't take away from the fact that this stuff exist.. If opportunities where flying at us then the "Black" community would be better off.. But they ain't.. Sure there are opportunities there, and times are better than they were back in the 60's. But, it's still not the best..

[JDavid25]

Like I keep saying.. It's "White" privilege that you get to say what you're saying.. LOL.. Also, there was an experiment done on Oprah a long while ago, addressing the attitude you have.. LOL..

[TeaMoney]

@JDavid25 your patience is impressive

@HikerDude School performance is directly linked to the schools budget, which is directly linked to the median income of the neighborhood, and black people have been historically kept out of wealthy neighborhoods via mortgage discrimination. Please Google this shit.

Also white women benefit from affirmative action the most.

[JDavid25]

@TeaMoney.. LOL.. Aw thanks.. It's best to just give informative to show people they are wrong.. LOL..

[HikerDude]

@JDavid25 @TeaMoney It's sad that people like y'all would prefer to wallow in victimhood and blame magical roadblocks like "white privilege" for your failures. There are Asians who come to this country with no money and no understanding of the English language who have kids who are doctors and engineers. Somehow they manage to advance even though the world isn't handing them anything. They're not given any special treatment at all, and they certainly don't get to attend Phillips Exeter. But hey, whatever gets you through the night. If you want to tell yourself that white people are to blame for all your problems, I'm sure that's what you'll do. No one outside of a small group of condescending rich people are going to give you the pity you crave, though. It's just not going to happen.

[JDavid25]

Ain't nobody calmin victim-hood.. Though, and I definitely don't blame "White-privilege" for my failures.. Although it's tellin you think that just because a minority is acknowledging "White" privilege we had to have failed at life.. LOL.. But, my failures are on me though.. So, he can get that outta the picture.. Like I said, I'm just acknowledging that it exist, and that "White" people ain't the little post racial angels you are tryin to paint them as.. Like I said it's y'alls "White" privilege not to think about it as much because stuff that affects us doesn't affect y'all..

[TeaMoney]

@HikerDude lol stop trying to hide behind Asian immigrants as if you don't have to have money to legally come to the US. The ones you speak of were already doctors The poorer immigrants aren't doing so hot.

I'm not 'victimizing' myself, I'm just keeping it real. You must be very delusional to think there is any advantage or value to being a victim.

[HikerDude]

@JDavid25 You really think you're telling me something by asserting that white people aren't angels? I've had more fights with white dudes than I ever have with black guys. Look, privilege is privilege, but that's related to green, not black or white. That's why Denzel Washington's kids are more privileged than most white kids. They're privileged because they have money. There is no special privilege in being white, none. A poor white person has no more of a shot in this world than a poor black or poor Hispanic.

And no, most white people don't give a shit about black people, but that doesn't mean we hate you. We're just indifferent. We have enough to worry about in our own lives, just like black people have enough to worry over without bothering about white people. So don't expect white people to care about saving any other race. We're doing well if we're saviors of our own lives.

[HikerDude]

@TeaMoney No, that's patently false. The Vietnamese who've immigrated have come with nothing. So have the Koreans, a group that has taken tons of abuse from black people for daring to open businesses in black neighborhoods. You can believe you have it worse than anyone, but that false. You all are native to the United States, which is more "privilege" than that given to any Asian born in history.

[JDavid25]

I know you don't think they are angels in the fact that they don't do anything.. I meant in the fact that they don't "see" race.. LOL.. And guess what.. There were always poor "White" people.. When race was made into a social label even the poor "White" people were taught they were better than "Black" people giving them the privilege being "White".. So, it's not about being rich, or having an easy life.. It's more about having certain privileges that minorities simply don't have.. Even simple things.. So yes it exist.. And it's very real.. Simply for the fact that Dylan Roof can shoot up a 9 people, get burger king, and strongly be hinted at as being a "trouble" individual instead of a racist thug who is a "discredit" to their race, and makes them look bad.. LOL.. Or how BLM is painted as this rioting hate group full of thugs when most of it has been peaceful protest.. While a bunch of "White" people rioting over a sports game is just a protest full of delinquents..

[JDavid25]

Or the fact that Even though "White" people make up 62% of graduating students.. They get 69% of scholarships.. LOL.. So, yeah "White" privilege totally doesn't exist.. LOL xD..

[TeaMoney]

@HikerDude Actually, the two largest groups of Asian immigrants, Indian and Chinese people, already have a bachelor's degree or higher in much larger numbers than native-born citizens (76% of Indian immigrants age 25+ and 47% of Chinese immigrants age 25+ as opposed to 30% of native born citizens 25+)

You need money to go to school

And honestly, the Korean beauty supply thing is way more complicated than "the blacks r mean" so please, stop talking about shit you know nothing of and GOOGLE THINGS FOR THE LOVE OF GOD

[TeaMoney]

On the one hand, I find it disgusting that you admit to playing both sides and modifying what you identify as to best fit the situation, on the other hand, I appreciate your honesty and I wish lighter skinned people would quit lying about wishing they were darker.

by the way I don't think it makes any sense to name one section "constantly wishing you were fully one of your sides" when what you actually mean is "wishing you were white".

[Anonymous]

Mulattos should have there own race in my opinion. I'm black, so I know mulattos "aren't" black. They shouldn't even be allowed to claim black or white - Period. And of course white people see you as something besides white as well. So it's not just me. I'm very attractive to mulattos from a physical standpoint but that's about it. I can't relate to them in any way. It's an insult to me as well when they are called black. They are not. But sometimes people can't tell the difference so how do we judge? Those who are biracial but take more after the "black side" how is it fair for them? No matter what they will never be seen as mulatto. They will still be called black. Don't even get me started on the mulattos that can pass for white (being able to receive white privilege). Those two races shouldn't have ever mixed to begin with.

[Opinion Owner]

Sorry not "attractive" but "attracted".

[zagor]

"Mulatto" is an archaic term, about like "negro".

[Opinion Owner]

@zagor This is correct. The word mulatto emphasizes the way that I feel about black white race mixing. The black race as a whole (because debatable circumstances) finish dead last. It's only natural for the so called "biracial Afro-American" to sell out their blackness in order to appear more white. "For the most part" we have nothing in common. So I get offended when they are referred to as "black". Those who are biracial and acknowledge their blackness with pride - I mean no disrespect.

[JDavid25]

Well, true.. I remember when I ignorantly thought that some kid I used to play with was "White".. LOL.. He name was Justin, and he wasn't mixed but he was really light skinned, and he talked really proper.. I asked him how is he "White" and his mother dark skinned ("Black").. And he got mad (understandably).. And his grandma had a talk with me.. But Hispanic-Cool-Guy is right.. Slavery effed our perception up.. LOL..

[DizzyAster]

Did you grow up in the US?
I ask because I find it dumb how people are weird about mixed black/white children, when I don't see the same weirdness when it's mixed black with Asian/Hispanic/indian/etc. It's fucking stupid.
It's crazier when Hispanic are historically white, but mixed so much no one cares anymore.
Personally, I don't care as long as everyone's healthy.

[lovelyhoneybones]

Yep! Born and raised in the US.

[BaileyisDarcy]

My cousin is half Asian.

she's also 5 ft, Larps and is a lesbian.

You have never seen someone role with being an "outcast" until youve seen my cousin role.

Seriously.

[Anonymous]

"You're not fully black, you're not fully white"

Okay why does this matter? Why should your ethnicity define you? Like for real.
Even if you were fully black, you could still be white or something else in every sense of the word in terms of culture and interests

[lovelyhoneybones]

It shouldn't be, and for a good bit it isn't but it does come up.

[Opinion Owner]

My advice, don't let it bother you. It doesn't matter what you are. You can do whatever you want.

[lovelyhoneybones]

Thank you!

[menina]

This is very interesting.

I'm not mixed myself, but my mother is and I've noticed some black people treat her differently. They're always mentioning her skin tone and her hair.
It's annoying and sad at the same time.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Slavery crippled black people's mind really bad if blacks are arguing over silliness like hair and skin. Smh. I always said love and stick to your own people. I see to many blacks kissing the cacausians butt like they are God.

[DizzyAster]

"I always said love and stick to your own people"

Of course a Hispanic would say that.
If there is a Hispanic boss, ALL of his employees are Hispanic. It's crazy. lol

[TheCougarMan]

I am mixed, My parents are mixed, their parents are mixed, my great great great grand parents were white and black, British and Dutch colonies in South Africa. South Africa has a very diverse multi racial backgrounds

[lovelyhoneybones]

My parents are both mixed as well. My grandparents from both of their sides were white.

[lovelyhoneybones]

And also Native American and something else.

[TheCougarMan]

yeah, both sides white also, my moms grandfather was white British,, my father's grandfather was white dutch

[Anonymous]

I have questions to you tragiclly mixed people. Why do you ALWAYS come for Black people and not for your other side? Black people are ALWAYS THE FIRST ONES TO ACCEPT YOU. Ask Asian or White or anyone else to raise your asses I bet they will treat you like you have disease.

[lovelyhoneybones]

Tragically mixed people?

[Opinion Owner]

Well aren't you?

[lovelyhoneybones]

No. I am not.

[lovelyhoneybones]

There's nothing tragic about it.

[Opinion Owner]

You haven't answered my question tho.

[lovelyhoneybones]

Why mixed people always come for black people?

[Opinion Owner]

Yes.

[lovelyhoneybones]

I talked about more than just black people in mytake. Please go back and reread it.

[Opinion Owner]

I read it and I have my own questions. Hows the identity crisis going?

[lovelyhoneybones]

If you would like questions answered, I would be glad to but don't be a bitch about it. There's no need for that

[Opinion Owner]

Answer them or dont answer them.

[lovelyhoneybones]

I'm actually fairing pretty well with it.