I don't want to be submissive anymore, but how do I get him to quit being a jerk... we have a family.

[ringflower]

i know it takes two to fight... but I am always one to say hey lets cuddle , or I'm sorry, or lets work on this... I feel I am not entitled to my opinion or feelings... even before I open my mouth it is like he has his mind made up...i feel like I'm starving for him to show he cares by not having to be the "winner" and just love me... I don't want to have a winner or a looser... I know I am difficult sometimes, but who isn't... why is he so mean... how do I get back to being confident me who didn't let anyone treat me like that... he could ignore me for a month... I can't go one night

[dollme777]

omg I know exactly how you feel and you know I bet you when you need him there emotionally he probably doesn't attempt to catch you when you fall. How long have you guys been together , has he alway been like this?...does he have issues showing his emotions...does he talk down to you like his opinion is always the best and the smartest? Does it hurt for the fact that he would go a month with out you due to him want to be the winner and being to good to care to get you back because he is so arragont that he knows you will come running.

[miss_sda]

Oh wow..

Maybe you should work more on your foundation..

It seems like you guys lack confinement. Assure him that he can open up to you, and when he does start doing that I'm sure in return you can open up to him as well. It takes also 2 for a relationship to work.

Have patience with him for "love is patient"

:] you'll get there... it takes some couples a life time to fully understand each other

[miss_sda]

Sorry. I had confinement on my head. lol didn't mean to say that. meant to say the opposite

[miss_sda]

Oh wow..

Maybe you should work more on your foundation..

It seems like you guys lack open-ness. Assure him that he can open up to you, and when he does start doing that I'm sure in return you can open up to him as well. It takes also 2 for a relationship to work.

Have patience with him for "love is patient"

:] you'll get there... it takes some couples a life time to fully understand each other

[socalgamehater2006]

weird, I thought girls always want their "man", boyfriend to be dominant, girls enjoy being submissive, they want the guy to be the leader and make all the decisions, be head of the house-hold.

[azzhole725]

If he doesn't want to change, it's hard to get him to change. Many guys aren't emotional. The fact that he's with you should be enough. If you aren't satisfied, let him know.