Well thanksgiving's coming up and this girl I like invited me to have dinner with her family. It'll be me, her, her mom, along with her older sister and boyfriend. I'm not seeing my family so I figured why not. Thing is I don't know if should stick with it or cancel (she asked me yesterday) She was like ''normally I'd do this with john-her ex-but I'm not gonna do that now and I don't know who else that'd go''. We are however just good friends (unlike how her and her ex started). I figured it'd be a good chance to make a good impression and be better than her ex--but now I'm thinking its not such a good idea--since I want her to see me as more than a friend--not just a fill-in, yknow. She keeps saying 'if you want' when its brought up about me going, so its like on me if I go--although I know she wants company to go w/. Plus she and her fam are vegetarians and I'm not--so I'm really puttin myself out there on this one if I go. I guess I need insight from both sides. Would going... Show More
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Hm, well. First off, canceling with some excuse is lame. If she's known you long enough she'll see right through it and it won't help you at all. That being said, I don't think going is going to help you in the way you are hoping it will. I don't know how long ago mr. ex left the picture but she certainly doesn't seem over it...which makes you rebound cuddle buddy if you try anything at this point. If it's a mixed bag for you and you are that confused I'd say get the dirty laundry out in the open. Tell her that you'd like to go but it seems like she's not really that interested in you coming and that you feel more like a seat warmer than an actual friend being invited over. She is acting wishy washy which usually means one of three things. Either she's interested but too confused and or hurt right now to put herself out there or she's a flake who is stringing you along or my personal favorite...she isn't really interested but she has no clue she's sending you mixed signals. That happens more often than you might think.