So I like this girl she's a bit younger than me she's 24 and I am 37. We have been out to dinner she offered to pay in exchange for a favor I did for her.
I know she is into architecture so I when I was working ( programmer ) at a modern mansion I invited her to come and she did and stayed over night ( separate room). she seemd to have a good time.
And finally I invited her to Thanksgiving at a friends home. She seemd to enjoy all of it. I am very shy and unsure where to go from here. we do some playful touching, we get a long well and text ~ daily. She said to one of my friends that she is concerned about our age difference there is not much I can do about that. Thoughts what do I do next?
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We have some friends in common
We have a sort of fun ongoing work out related bet which makes for a good excuse for her to send me photos of her at the gym.
I have rarely dated just 2 girls and I have never made the first move but I kinda think it may be required in this instance.
oh we also went bowling with some other friends of mine and out to dinner and again insisted on paying me back for her portion.
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seems like you’re doing well, thing is there’s not any one specific thing we can tell you to do as far as a next step. one thing i can tell you is that you just need to assess the situation and respond accordingly, say y'all have another good time out and there's a point where y'all are close in proximity and looking in each others eyes, this is a moment where a kiss could be the appropriate thing to do. its all about what’s happening and what the vibe is. is she also shy, or is she more outgoing and verbal? have you two spoken privately, on a more serious note, about having feelings that exceed the realm of friendship? possibly start with “regardless of our difference in age, i feel like you & I sort of level each other out in a sense. sometimes we get in sync and i like how the vibe is when we’re together. its like i know im shy but im starting to feel more and more comfortable around you.” and then just see how she responds and pick it up from there! that’s how it goes, just gotta read the room so to speak
I understand what you mean but I am terrible at "reading the room"
What next? Ask her out. Don't worry about the age difference. She's old enough to know what she wants and she has her own life. If the age difference doesn't bother her, don't worry about it. Treat her as an equal and it could be great.
wait none of what I listed counted?
What else do you imagine you could possibly do at this point?
if I had that answer I would not have asked?
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