My boyfriend of five years treats me like a dog

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He breaks up with me once every two weeks. One time it was because the cat liter wasn't done... Another time he said your so f***ing gross we're not having sex with you for a long time ... A year and a half into our relationship he asked me if he could f*** my friend and I cried an said please don't... He sent me home that night ..f***ed my friend and then called me the next day and said hey wanna get back together...he makes me feel like I'm not good enough for anyone else. So I stay with him...how should I get out.?

jay5431 · Accepted Answer

Ok here is what you do.  Get up pack your things put them in your car and drive away.  Do not ever look back and don't ever call this guy again.  Hell, this guy sounds like a complete tool who is just messing with your mind.  He is going to mess you up so bad that you can never be in a truly functioning relationship.  I dated a girl like you for 6 months after she got out of this type of relationship and she could never accept the compliments I gave her or get excited about her accomplishments because this guy had made her feel worthless.  The sooner you leave the better and you need to spend time on making yourself feel good and worthy of a serious relationship.  The worst thing you can do is move on from this tool and go right into another relationship.  In the end the girl and I broke up because she was always waiting for me to tear her down and wanted to get out of the relationship before I did.  We are still friends and she said it was the worst mistake she ever made.

SlipKid75 · Accepted Answer

what exactly is so attractive with this guy that you have been with him for 5 years? he sounds like a complete d-bag. does he know something seriously bad about you and is blackmailing you with it? like he saw you kill someone 5 years ago? in any event, you could probably have plea bargained it down to under 10 years if it was a first offense, and still it would be better than wasting time on this pr*ck. he's a sponge and you two are co-dependent. it'll only get worse, and never actually better. erase him from your life and move on.

tammymac · Accepted Answer

Why would you stay with someone who f***ed your friend and helllloo what kind of friend is THAT!

You need out and I know you know that. It didn't 15 faceless nameless people on this site to tell you that. NOW what you need to decide is that you deserve to be treated better, and you do. That's the first step. The next step is to figure out that this guy is not worth YOUR time. It might take some counseling for you to come to these conclusions. Then once you have decided you can do without his sh*t, leave and change your number and change your address and NEVER look back because men like that will try and keep you subservient and abused forever preying on your self worth and self esteem until you have none. GET OUT as fast as you can, but be prepared to stay out and not go back for more. And for that you will need some support from real friends and some counseling

Good luck

fascination_streak · Accepted Answer

I suggest you go back and read your own question again. Look at it like me, this is a post from a lady who is utterly miserable, has no happiness in her relationship, is treated badly and her boyfriend isn't motivated to work on things. Now, if this lady was your sister or best female friend, what would you tell her to do? I'd tell her to make a decision to leave, start over and not be afraid to be alone awhile until a new routine is established. You're wasting time, energy and love on someone who is only going to drag you down.

DebiPie · Accepted Answer

Look, you are only 19, right? Cut this loser loose. You KNOW he is a loser. You KNOW what to do.
You do not need this in your life. Do you really want to have this kind of life on a daily basis? Is this making you happy?

If you answered no to these two questions, then you need to break up with him. And do not look back. I know that sounds harsh, but it isn't. What he is doing to you is harsh.

BTW, he is NOT treating you like a dog...Dogs get treated MUCH better than you do.

Anonymous · Answer

How should you get out? As fast as you can and however you need to. Making you feel like sh*t and lowering your self-esteem so much that you think you don't deserve any better is f***ed up, and you know that. No one deserves that. A relationship is meant to be a bonus in life, not something that brings you down, especially not this much. Free yourself.

kmhco · Answer

Don't put up with his crap anymore. Break up with him, there are millions of guys out there who would treat you right. Don't take him back, no matter how much he tries. He is not worth your time or energy. You are so much better than him.

Anonymous · Answer

He's lacking control over very fundamental things in his life and feels like sh*t enough to subject you to his frustrations. He's not happy with himself, probably hates himself, how could he possibly be happy with someone else if he can't stand his own self? He needs time to work on himself before he continues any more relationships.

Phoenix1991 · Answer

how about you just grab your sh*t and walk out, No one needs to be in that living environment. you don't need him, ,you can do so much better.  Trust me, you can do it.

LoveBambi · Answer

Ok so why are you still with him? Soon enough all that verbal/emotional abuse will become physical. If you haven't left after the cat litter situation or what happened with your best friend you'll probably never move on from him.

horsecraziedkatie · Answer

im sorry uve had to live like this for years but he's and jackass! LEAVE HIM GIRL!

HoneySummer · Answer

He def sounds like an a**. Just dump him, he's not worthy of you.

Xx_DRE_xX · Answer

Your so dumb, you should of just left when he f***ed your friend.

Longshot · Answer

Clue for you -- he's not a boyfriend or even close to it.

iXenomorph · Answer

Why is this even a question? Dump his ass and don't look back.

Anonymous · Answer

Break up with him. Just do it. He's an ass. Get out of there and don't look back.

Moloch · Answer

And yet, you're still dating him.

dudeman · Answer

i call shinanigans, nobody can be this pathetic

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