Hey everyone, hope you had a lovely Christmas and a happy new year!
This is going to be a take that will sort of have some heart-felt moment's and legitimate advice. A change to my sometimes mean-spirited nature. I have sort of changed and don't see the point in being nasty and mean anymore. Maybe God is working in my life? I don't know.
I haven't been on here a lot as I have been in a relationship and surprise surprise, it didn't work out. It didn't work out because something horrible happened to me and I had to spend a fair amount of time and energy trying to fix it, only sparing once a week to see him for an hour or so. Poor dear couldn't handle it anymore and therefore understandably, took to finding a new mate online. I couldn't even spend New Years and Christmas with him.
So I had to work on myself to try and get over him, set my feelings aside, disintegrate my feelings, and move on.
So here is how I move on to salvage my sanity.
1) Cry every single tear. Just let it all out.
I don't want others to see my emotions therefore I just used the shower to cry. I cried in the car on my way to work, in bed. I used any opportunity to have a good sob where I can't be seen.
2) Block and delete them everywhere.
Block them on FB, instagram, every app you have them and if they still find some way to get in contact with you, ask them nicely to please cease to talk to you. He asked if we could try again but I was extremely hurt that he gave up on me so easily when a little downfall became apparent. I mean it only lasted for a few weeks. Believe me had he waited everything would have gone back to normal and I want a mate to not give up easily. But it is understandable. Who knows, I might have done the same thing. So take some time to delete their photos (this process will be so darn painful, but worth it in the end), and block them everywhere. MIB that ISH!
3) Make yourself extremely busy.
Become engrossed in your work. Date someone else. Watch something funny. Do something that will make you not think about them. Because believe me, they are having a good time NOT thinking about you.
4) Time will always heal.
I cannot TELL you how many times my heart has been dragged through spikes, stomped on, beaten towards an inch of its life. But what happened even a month ago really doesn't matter now. You have to tell yourself when you are in a moment of distress the following words "A month from now, this won't matter".
5) Do your best to look amazing.
I have lost 5 kilos ever since the breakup (11 pounds). I have lost it through diet and exercise. I have gotten a new hair colour (got some more highlights in my hair), got some new clothes and just tried my best to look good each day. If you look good, you will feel good.
6) Lastly, please please please don't harden your heart.
For the sake of everything good in the world, don't harden your heart. Someone will love you, just give it time. But please don't punish them. My advice is for you to purify your heart and leave room for the right person to come along. Good luck in the pursuit of love, everyone :).