To the Guy That Broke My Heart

[Anonymous]

I met you two days after moving here, just after summer. I didn't know anybody but somehow we happened to start something. You made me feel amazing, you cared about me and you always were there to help me. I started trusting you, something that is really difficult for me when it comes to guys. I met your family, you stayed over, you cooked me dinner and you brought me medicines when I got sick. I started falling for you, but I didn't know what to do cause I was panicking a bit. I tried to organise my feelings and thoughts before talking with you and when I finally did it, it was amazing. You wanted to try to be in a relationship, even if you were also scared and I was leaving in a year. So I put all my barriers down and I fell totally for you.

And then you cheated. You kissed the girl that was "your stalker", the one you hated and kept "annoying" you with texts and texts. And you cried and said you were sorry, but you broke my heart. But stupid me was more worried about you crying that my poor heart. And I wanted to forgive you, and I tried, but you kept talking with her "as friends" while swearing you only wanted to be with me. And I was done, and with all the pain in my heart I told you everything that I felt. And you blocked me. And that was it.

So I cried and cried and cried, Didn't eat anything for weeks. Lost so much weight that I was a ghost of myself when I went back home for Christmas. And meanwhile you were partying, getting wasted and having the time of your life. As if I didn't give you any freedom. As if you got rid a burden. And then you decided to wish me Merry Christmas! You broke my heart two weeks ago and you thought it was a good idea? I cried the whole Christmas night, thanks. So I kindly asked you to leave me alone to heal, that I was hurt.

And my heart kept hurting. And you moved on with her. Fair enough for you to move on. But was it necessary to send a picture with her to one of my best friends? Telling her

she is your girlfriend? Just a few days before Valentine's? Didn't you have enough with breaking my heart? I guess not... So I went home, again. And when I came back, you decided to make my life a hell. You would come to the events I was going. You would interrupt me when I was talking with mutual friends, in the middle of my sentences. You would sit next to me when I'd be talking with other guys. You'd bring her to the events I was in. You'd flirt with my friends in front of me, when I was casually talking to a guy. So I wasn't allowed to move on? Why?

Now you seem to have disappeared. My friends get me away from wherever you are and I am better. I am finally happy again, despite your efforts to bring me down. Despite you rubbing your happiness in my face. I am being happy on my own, with my amazing friends and family. Maybe you broke my heart, but now it's stronger than before. And maybe now, the right person will come, and not break my heart. Meanwhile, I'm gonna enjoy my happiness again.

[ilovelegs]

It's so heartbreaking - so terribly hard to get over a breakup when you're the one that had put your heart and soul into a guy. But unfortunately there are guys out there like that that find it hard to be honest... to be a real man and be able to see that a girl is falling in love with him. I don't know why he was being so extra nice and sweet to you, and why he was such an ass after he cheated on you. The least he could have done is leave you alone. Some people have very strange behavior and it looks like he was one of those. If you were moving in a year it might have made him feel he'd be losing you some day and maybe this other girl was bent on taking away what you had and gave him the sex of his life. I don't really know. But one thing you have to do is move on. If you try to keep yourself busy and move forward and not be dwelling on the past and how it used t be, you'll make a new life for yourself that will be as good or better if you let it. Open your mind and your heart to what's good and fun with your friends or in doing the things you like. Refuse to be going over and over and trying to figure out what went wrong. Walk in a new light and you'll find out that day by day you'll think less of the past and more of the future until the world will beautiful for you again. You learned something really big in the past that you'll be able to use... maybe for the rest of your life. Remember that the world did not end nor did your world end. You have a chance to start a new beginning. Good luck!.

[Joker8]

"Despite rubbing your happiness in my face", please that he is anything but happy, he lives in a fake world that is built on his ego, he would rather be with the girl that stalks rather than the girl he cares for, he strokes his ego and makes himself feel wanted when in fact he is living in a glass house, the tiniest pebble can destroy him, whereas you my strong lady have built an impenetrable fortress which you are the queen of, no canons can wreck it. You are now stronger than any other time and you will not feel such severe heartbreak again, so both thank him and fuck him.

[Janieyu]

What a genuine girl ! you seem very kind and genuine and i salute you for that. I really liked it , i even red it outloud, i felt my self in a moovie where the scenarist handed me a script and asked me to play my "broken girl" part, i was in tears indeed , that was wreaten in such a beautiful and honest way i can even say that its the best "my take" so far. <3 i still think he cared about you though, not any guy would do what he did, he even tried to make you jealous and he might of did that because he suffered from low self esteem. You'll find love again, you are amazing <3

[coachTanthony]

Yeah that was a heart breaking read. Sorry that you had to go through that but in my experience IT WILL MAKE YOU STRONGER.

"Sometimes when you pray for rain... you got to deal with the mud too"

[NineBreaker]

I'm glad you're happy in the end and all, but what I'm wondering is: Have you actually learned a lesson that will benefit you when the next guy shows up in your life? Do you know what you need to do if you are faced with an identical or similar situation?

I think that you have made more than one mistake, but not against him, but rather against your own interest and well-being. For example (and most importantly), a guy cheats on you, WHY WOULD YOU TAKE HIM BACK? That's not even rational. I don't know how old you are, but based on what you're saying you don't have a lot of experience in such relationships, which is OK for now. I was once young and naive, and because of that I've suffered unnecessarily painful consequences of my choices in my first serious relationship.

Think about it this way:
He cheats on you.
He apologizes and you take him back.
He stays "friends" with the same girl he cheated on you with.
He leaves you for her.
He torments you with his relationship, and you literally waste away because of that.

While based on what you said, you are at no fault, you weren't able to help yourself. I believe that you have been suffering from clinical depression. That is the most logical explanation to how your experience transpired. I don't know if you realized that or not, but I think you definitely did the right thing by seeking the help and emotional support of family and friends, so that is definitely a good lesson on how to deal with immense heartbreak. However, I advise you to be pragmatic when you are faced with challenges like the one you mentioned. It won't protect you from the heartbreak, but it will lessen the emotional trauma and torment.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Sorry to hear but cheating is just really common. It's everywhere, we just have to accept and that's one thing we should be prepared of in every relationship. Just because it's everywhere, it doesn't mean we should just stop looking for love. Love has benefits and it feels good. I know it still hurts but not knowing what to do after a break up hurts more. That's why it has something to do with self love. If you love yourself, you know who you are and you know what you do before you even met your SO. Just remember what positive things you do as a single person but don't forget him. I suggest empty your tears remembering him till you get used to it. You'll move on faster that way instead of trying to forget him and distracting yourself because at some point, there's always something that reminds you of him that can give you emotional break down. Loving someone more than themselves is a mistake in relationships. Suicide happens because of that. And by the way, it's not just men who cheat. We regret more when cheated. It's his loss not yours..

[Elaine_17]

To all the guys who ask "Why did she take him back?", honestly, if I was in her situation, I would have wanted to try to give the person THAT I LOVE a second chance because I LOVE them. It's more about hoping that things will work out, hoping that they changed or something. If the second chance doesn't work out, we would be through.

[cherryphi82]

I really feel you on some level but... something about this take rings wrong. What guy tells a girl he has a stalker? That would get my flags going. Not just that, it just doesn't seem fair to call a girl a stalker who is simply expressing strong desire for a guy. By all means, elaborate on this, but seems like the girl who fought harder got the guy. You need to fight for the guy you love just as much as a guy is expected to fight for you. Did you guys even have sex?

[somewheresomeway]

Only guys can be stalkers. Not girls. Nope.

[cherryphi82]

@somewheresomeway Did I say anything about guys being stalkers?

[somewheresomeway]

Just in my experience women are quicker to label a guy a “creep” or “stalker” with little or no concrete reason beyond not liking a guy who likes them.

[Alan180188]

first of all never trust a guy who cries, and a cheater would always cheat..
second you're a woman, it's sooo much easier for you to find a replacement or date and get over him, you gave him the time and space to torture you and revenge his previous emotional fails through you !
and at last talk more in future, relationships are about conversations and understanding, when you talk more you'll know more and prevent heartbreaks in time !

[Browneye57]

Yup. NEXT!!
Just shows that guys are susceptible to the one that pursues him most. And why I say body type, hair, whatever, is never as important as your level of attraction and desire. That's what a guy falls for. And it non-negotiable - you can't bargain for or fabricate attraction or desire in another.

[Deukalion]

Just saying for both genders the only 100% trust you can give only to your self but again not fully , so hold some of you defenses up don;t trust no one completely, i saw many couples after 30+ years they go to the divorce , look at it like a lesson of life , hold some back ups.

[fueledbythc]

Lol. I don't know if im mean for laughing at this because it showed how weak you were for falling so fast.

[ScaryCool]

When life sets the hurdles up, you just run and jump and keep going, even if you stumbled over it, keep going.

[Mikey_Ramone]

:( I wish sometimes I could say that all out like you did. But no all I could do two weeks ago when it happened I just cried secretly in the midnight on my dorm bed.

[vald9inches]

Your story is sad but remember
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[xButterflyKisses87x]

Never revenge

[vald9inches]

@xButterflyKisses87x Thats what they all say

[xButterflyKisses87x]

I don’t do it myself. Actually don’t believe in it

[Blümchen]

I find this funny and childish ahah i cringed so hard so couldn't read till the end

[LegateLanius]

Good that you are happy in the end. Have you learned? Are you going to take back someone like him in the future?

[AlwaysBelieving]

Sorry to hear this happened. Thank you for sharing your experience

[Anonymous]

come on.. many girls don't get a boyfriend the minute they move in. be thankful at least...

[Anonymous]

you've been played by the player. noone cares. its your fault. i've never even once been played by a player. if i can avoid it, you could have avoided it too.

[myTake Owner]

Why shaming her? She is only sharing her experience. Good for you for not getting played but never day never

[Opinion Owner]

because she is a dumb immature girlie who falls for bad boys. never feed the bad ones is my motto.

[Joker8]

Well you definitely learned that motto from experience I guess so you made mistakes and learned from them and she is the same so don't blame her

[NYCQuestions1976]

This is why people should just have sex.

[cherryphi82]

Upvote

[NYCQuestions1976]

@cherryphi82 Thanks! 👍

[lazermazer]

Is it true? Felt like reading a satire.

[CT_CD]

I'm sorry I broke your heart