Breakup is so painful and hard even when you were in the toxic relationship. But you have to do what is RIGHT.

[Anonymous]

Please, give me your suggestions to help me in moving on. I hope that my story relieves other's pain who are facing the same.

Why lie and play with me?

I have been with this toxic manipulator, liar and selfish maniac who wanted me because nobody else loved him.

When I caught him, he acted so well and said "he will die without me or he will be the best man for me" but never admitted or corrected his fault genuinely.

I was so UNHAPPY with him when he was FORCING ME TO STAY BUT NEVER CORRECTED HIS MISTAKE. I transformed from a loyal, loving, caring and devoted girlfriend to the angry, critical, secretive and emotionally detached girlfriend.

Finally, I FORCED the breakup and avoided him like hell. He showed his REAL COLORS. He used to sugercoat me a lot but after breakup he said me to get lost. It's been a week and I'm finding it hard to let go of hate, emotional pain and resentment.

[nonratracereality]

It's about what's best for you. You were able to come to the conclusion that you were not in a good place and had to see for yourself the toxicity and the pain and energy of maintaining a relationship that was going no where. Start developing your standards get them higher feel good about yourself so when people come around you they will feel good and want to share almost your goodness knowledge and spirit for a well balanced and better life. Its hard to let go because eventhough it's bad you knew it you lived it you were used to it. Now tga its gone you're left with withdrawal which is normal. I use a series of checks and balances throughout my life and I have been fortunate. When relating with people use the AIDS acronym a for attitude good yes bad no then issues they tend to wreck havoc on any union drama whi needs it drama free you are in control have peace are content and can love not only yourself but others and last we won't leave the last s off its fir SHIT. Now you got it. Next is the three your name example Phoebe. Your someone's daughter friend lover ex relative. Next Treat everything as if it's yours if I let you hold my 2020 Maybach you'd treat it better than your own and last no one has a brain update no one has a working brain update if I don't know you you're dumb. It works because if you dont know the person you can't expect anything done right you have nothing to go on do whatever is to be done protocol routine procedure you know how it's to be done no assuming this way you are satisfied no anger and you see that it works with everyone. If you want further info on human interaction or any subject you want clarification on message me this works provided that you work too. Life is work and know leaving remember the basic statement life; live, accept and understand.

[myTake Owner]

Thank you so much. This will help a lot..

[Samtheman_]

That's tough, really tough, and I probably can't fathom just the amount of pain you went through. You are right, you have to do what is right, even if it is the hardest decision. Moving on... I won't lie, the first stage will be hard likely, but all things come to an end. People will heal differently, some find new activities to replace what was left behind, some just need time and they grow like a hedge, growing thicker and more resilient after being pruned. Try to find what makes you happy, and brings you peace. What did you miss that you couldnt do before? What goals can you finally persue? Little bit of self reflection is always healthy

[myTake Owner]

Thank you and yes I'm trying to work on my goals.

[jennifer_bloom]

Yes - building the self isn't from the outside but from within - you have to find strengthening ideas either with positive affirmation CD's or with self taught words you say to yourself or with free youtube videos in a religious context praising God or with meditation or prayer or positive thoughts - My dad is a very bad person because my mom has been trying to abuse him and corrupt him for 35 years - He's so messed up now but I know God can change him just like He made me better when my parents corrupted and hurt me with their abuse. Stay away from this person and work on self improvement.

[myTake Owner]

You mean that your mom was wrong and because of her bad behavior and manipulations, your dad turned into a bad person?

[jennifer_bloom]

I don't know what my dad was like before my mom entered the picture cause I wasn't born then but I know a lot of the things I don't like about my dad exist because he is reacting to the way my mom treated him - like my mom preys on his insecurities and my dad is a very insecure person - I think part of the reason he is insecure is my mom keeps trying to magnify his fears and insecurities so he will be easier to control.

[Guy13]

This sure doesn't sound like it is anywhere close to over between you two. Emotional connection in disconnection is flying around everywhere.

[jgokgotit]

I can give you a better answer if you PM me and I can get more details, but here is a more general answer. A week is not enough time to get over a relationship if you loved each other AT ALL. Hate does not exist without love having first existed. It is the loss of love that creates hate. Emotional pain only exists because you invested emotions. Resentment cannot exist without the loss of admiration of something or someone. The deeper you feel hate, emotional pain and resentment, the deeper your love, emotional investment and admiration for him originally was. That is going to take time to get over. There is no magic pill that will make this process easier or faster. However, you can distract yourself from it by taking up a new hobby that you've never done before. Doing so creates a piece of your identity that has nothing to do with life before and with him. It will also bring you some joy and comfort to battle those negative emotions. You will get through this. I felt the exact same way you did when my girlfriend cheated on me while I was deployed. That's how I know it gets better with time. Keep your head up sweetie

[myTake Owner]

Okay friend thanks a lot. But surprisingly he is more angry when he was the one who lied, used or manipulated me.

[jgokgotit]

That is typical behavior of manipulators. They see no fault in themselves. If they are not at fault, the only one who can be is you. At least in their head that's how it is. Ignore how he feels. When you broke up, you broke your obligation to care for him. All you are required to do is warn him once that you have no desire to see him again and that ANY attempt to reach you will result in legal action. Ensure you get this recorded for extra proof or have people present who can witness what you said. If he ignores your warning, then you start taking legal actions. Either he will quit because the price is not worth paying or he will keep on and dig himself in a deeper hole. If you need extra security, take martial arts (ensure the instructor is legit). This will both give you a means of defending yourself and a new hobby.

[myTake Owner]

Thank you SO much you're right that by breaking up, I broke up my obligation to care for him. He Superficially admitted his fault but then he wanted to blame shift because he made ALMOST 100 attempts I was STILL NOT AGREEING to allow him in my life. So he knew that he lost me forever so he told me "you will get your karma for disrespecting me".

[leftis25]

I feel you.. i was in relationship with a girl like this.. she would lie and even if i told her that i know the truth she would still try to make me look like a fool.. she would never admit anything. And many many many more she did.. she was talking and probably meeting with her ex while she was with me... she was the only girl that i truly loved.. we broke at February 16... first 2-3 months were a lot of pain.. a pain i never felt before in my life.. i was crying my self to sleep.. then dream about her then wake up and cry again.. i was thinking of taking some drugs to make me feel better.. she tried to meet with me.. she used her stuff she left here as an excuse i said ok text me when u wanna meet and she said ok but she never texted me since then.. soo many months has passed and i am still depressed.

[myTake Owner]

Hey don't worry, I can feel your pain. It's EVEN HARDER WHEN YOU truly LOVED THEM. We were the precious people that THEY LOST forever and they will suffer their karma. Liars are WORSE THAN YOUR ENEMIES OR COMPETITORS.

[leftis25]

I know... all i ever wanted to do was to make her happy and be there for her no matter what... but she was always saying to me i am not enougn and my ex did this my ex did that.. and i was trying soo hard with her.. i gave her everything.. in the end she admit it that she treats me bad and i dont deserve her and left me.. then i found out she is back with her ex. She said she will regret it for leaving me for sure.. and she likes all my pics and she wanted to meet for her stuff but she never texted me to meet.

[myTake Owner]

My ex and your ex are no less than a TRASH. If you need to talk we will support each other, BUT PLEASE NEVER FORGIVE THEM. I just hate it that we were the ones genuinely concerned but they blame us and took us for granted. They are selfish, liars and manipulators.

[leftis25]

We can talk sometime yea... it would be good to share this experience. Maybe u can tell me if she was like your ex haha and what to do.. how do u heal from this?

[myTake Owner]

But don't be depressed after many months. She doesn't care and she's happy without you. Try to get involved in new hobbies or your dream job.

[jgokgotit]

Do forgive. Forgiveness is not letting them off. It is getting rid of your own bitterness towards them so you keep yourself joyful and happy. Easier said than done, but it is true. You DO forgive but DON'T forget and let them back in.

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[leftis25]

I dont want her back. Thank you

[ItsTheNephilim]

You gotta do what you gotta do. You did the right thing. Pat yourselves for being so strong and making the right decision. Getting out of such messes is tough. Read this if you want to.

Getting Over An Ex

[myTake Owner]

Thanks dear

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[myTake Owner]

He was a toxic one. I was the one who left him.

[Rowling2364]

Ohhh.. i understand how you feel.. its sucks

[gaygod_19]

SAme dude I don't know what to tell u. Just remain single for a while and do something that you like

[b5fan]

You made the right choice to leave. Your Ex sounds like a classic Narcissist.