My boyfriend jokes about breaking up?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend and I were playing card games and he lost a few times. He jokingly said that we should break up. It made me upset that he would joke about something like that (he repeatedly told me he was just joking) but I feel like that's something you wouldn't joke about with someone you really loved. Is my boyfriend less into me than I think he is?

[jesseray]

I have dated a few women like you and broke up with all of them. I did not break up with them because I thought that my relationship with them was unimportant. I broke up with them because they have no sense of humor and they turned most of my little stupid ass jokes into huge arguments and ordeals. These women started out desirable and systematically made themselves extremely undesirable.

Look, some people find humor in absurdities and this leads them to conjuring up absurdities for the sake of humor. It's kind of like slapstick comedy. When your boyfriend joked about breaking up with you because he lost a few card games, he was not devaluing the relationship. He was doing the opposite. It was because he values the relationship that he was able to magnify the importance of the losses to a degree that seemed utterly absurd to him and it was this absurdity that seemed humorous to him. If he didn't value the relationship, then the importance of the losses wouldn't have been magnified much at all, which takes away all the humor from the joke. The joke was humorous precisely because he values the relationship.

You would do well to develop an appreciation for absurdities as sources of humor. If you do not do this, then you will inevitably create stupid arguments and drama with one man after the next and they will all dump you. People want to be able to express their sense of humor. If you turn these expressions into landmines that blow up in their face, then they will learn that their lives are better to just steer clear of the source of the landmines: you.

[lukasz34]

does your comment also applies to girlfriends who are jokingly wants to break up?

[alolokahi]

I'm okay with joking about breaking up. My boyfriend always does. What bothers me is that he can joke about it and joke about cheating but if I even mention something in those areas it becomes a huge issue. It is a huge double standard.

[parkway]

Yes, he is playing on your fears. Anyone who plays with your feelings will act out in the worst possible way.

[jesseray]

He made a joke about the imagined horribleness of losing a few card games. That doesn't make him an abusive manipulator.

[Eviolet16]

He's just kidding, my bf and I make jokes like that all the time. Don't worry about it, just laugh with him or play along. It's seriously a really common joke between couples.

[Jaron29]

In your case, I think he is genuinely joking. (:
Did you talk to him about your unhappiness with regard to his daft joke?

[Mesonfielde]

I think I've made that joke before, my gf knew it was a joke though and didn't lash out on it. I mean, it's absurd to break up over a card game.

[naughtyoleguy]

That suck braking up its a joke it sounds like he has his eyes on another girl u or guy I know ur in love with him has his attitude dress grooming change hmu if ur interested in a naughty ole guy

[Chappie020]

I think you should not worry. Just tell him your lame humor hurts you!

[Anonymous]

You are asking this? How does he lives with you anyway? 0 sense of humor, I would be serious if I was him.