Personally I would think it creepy as if I knew my ex was wackin it to old pics of us. But then again they are your memories too. I have never really thought of this dilemma from the guys perspective, so I'm glad you brought it up. Maybe try handing over copies, but ask her if she minds, whether she says yes- or- no make the decision YOURS in the end.
Maybe she doesn't understand that digital files can be copied...
If you really want to keep them, she can't stop you from doing it. In the end, it's a morality issue for you to deal with. Another thing that could have helped everyone answer you better, is why did the break up happen?
your kind of a nob for asking this hey. I didn't read everything. but it should be obvious that you should give them back to her. if that is what she wants then you are obligated to do so. unless she cheated on you, and that is why you broke up, in which case I would spread them all over the internet
Yeah this is exactly why girls should not do dumb crap like this. You are not kim kardashian - it's not going to make you famous, you will just end up in situations like this. Actually, you seem like a nice guy for even asking this question, most guys would have had that on the internet right after she left your room
I think you should give her back the pictures. She only did it because you were in the confines of the relationship. She has more to lose than you.
Like people have said, TECHNICALLY they are your photos, but you also need to think about how she feels. Yes, she did put herself at risk by taking them, but if you genuinely cared about her you would respect her wishes and delete them honestly. Don't tell her you deleted them and save them -- DELETE them. At least then you can be happy knowing you were honest with her and did as she asked of you.
I have a similar sitituation, where I have some nude pics of an Ex-girlfriend. she was absolutely beautiful, intelligent, caring, and just absolutely amazing. I was there form every moment, when she was in the hospital( spent the whole night with her in the hospital) when her grandma became sick, when her cat died, things that grew a person closer to another. She was incredible, up until when we broke-up. She lost the "Motivation" to be with me. A little after that she started dating a 30yr old dude. . .
I gatta say, I'm frustrated, furious! Angry! And those nude pics are looking closer and closer to becoming Wrold Wide. . so I guess my answer isn't the best, from my perspective id say keep them, if someone gets a hold of them its a shame, but in the first place, why take pics if there not meant to be seen!?. . lol. .
If she's really hot then definitely keep them. There's no harm in being sentimental. Tell her she should be flattered that you want to hang on to them in the first place.
If she trusted you enough to let you take the photos when you were together, if you won't give her them back now she will be crushed and regret trusting you.
Recently I went through the same stuff your going through and believe me your better off giving her some copies or the original files and keep those if you hold dear as mementos as long as your not even thinking about sharing those mementos I think there's no problem right?
Its plain simple, if you are still good friends, return them to her its the right thing to do. This way you will still maintain friendship, especially if you value her advice.
I think that because she allowed you to take them that she knew what she was getting into in the first place, and therefore doesn't have the right to ask for them back. More or less its like she gave them to you. A gift is a gift :)
Maybe you don't need to give her back everything. Keep your copies (i would) whether they really are for your own keepsakes or if you may "happen" to show them to someone. But at least give her what she's entitled to.
If you have some that doesn't show her identity ask could you keep those. If you give them back that means she'll private pictures of you. Ask to keep the one's that her face isn't showing in, if you guys are still somewhat cool ask her to take new ones that doesn't identify her.
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Personally I would think it creepy as if I knew my ex was wackin it to old pics of us. But then again they are your memories too. I have never really thought of this dilemma from the guys perspective, so I'm glad you brought it up. Maybe try handing over copies, but ask her if she minds, whether she says yes- or- no make the decision YOURS in the end.
Maybe she doesn't understand that digital files can be copied...
If you really want to keep them, she can't stop you from doing it. In the end, it's a morality issue for you to deal with. Another thing that could have helped everyone answer you better, is why did the break up happen?
your kind of a nob for asking this hey. I didn't read everything. but it should be obvious that you should give them back to her. if that is what she wants then you are obligated to do so. unless she cheated on you, and that is why you broke up, in which case I would spread them all over the internet
Isn't that a snobby thing to do - to spread it all over the internet? I mean your calling him a snob well what about you?
I couldn't care less about someone that has cheated on me.. it had never happened to me.. but when it does that person will be deamed scum!
i obviously would go putting there pictures throughout the internet, but you would be suprised at how many do!
Yeah this is exactly why girls should not do dumb crap like this. You are not kim kardashian - it's not going to make you famous, you will just end up in situations like this. Actually, you seem like a nice guy for even asking this question, most guys would have had that on the internet right after she left your room
I think you should give her back the pictures. She only did it because you were in the confines of the relationship. She has more to lose than you.
Please, give us a bit more credit in regards to the pictures. We'd wait at least until the relationship was over before uploading them. :)
That's big of you lol
Like people have said, TECHNICALLY they are your photos, but you also need to think about how she feels. Yes, she did put herself at risk by taking them, but if you genuinely cared about her you would respect her wishes and delete them honestly. Don't tell her you deleted them and save them -- DELETE them. At least then you can be happy knowing you were honest with her and did as she asked of you.
Maybe legally you can keep them, and I personally think she let you take those photos at her risk.
On the other hand, I'm sure she is asking that because she doesn't want them to be public, not because she doesn't want you to have them.
It's right to erase them, but if you keep them, you NEVER publish them or show them to anyone and tell her you did it, the end is the same.
To be honest, how you respond and what you do just shows what kind of guy you are. Technically they are yours. But what kind of guy do you want to be?
I have a similar sitituation, where I have some nude pics of an Ex-girlfriend. she was absolutely beautiful, intelligent, caring, and just absolutely amazing. I was there form every moment, when she was in the hospital( spent the whole night with her in the hospital) when her grandma became sick, when her cat died, things that grew a person closer to another. She was incredible, up until when we broke-up. She lost the "Motivation" to be with me. A little after that she started dating a 30yr old dude. . .
I gatta say, I'm frustrated, furious! Angry! And those nude pics are looking closer and closer to becoming Wrold Wide. . so I guess my answer isn't the best, from my perspective id say keep them, if someone gets a hold of them its a shame, but in the first place, why take pics if there not meant to be seen!?. . lol. .
If she's really hot then definitely keep them. There's no harm in being sentimental. Tell her she should be flattered that you want to hang on to them in the first place.
Do the right thing, respect her wishes. You want to be able to look yourself in the mirror the next day. But what do I know, I'm Just A Random Guy.
Personal Note: My girl broke up with me, she didn't ask for them back, but I deleted them anyway.
If she trusted you enough to let you take the photos when you were together, if you won't give her them back now she will be crushed and regret trusting you.
Respect her wishes and give her them back.
I agree x
Keep what you want but give here everything. They're yours as much as hers.
Recently I went through the same stuff your going through and believe me your better off giving her some copies or the original files and keep those if you hold dear as mementos as long as your not even thinking about sharing those mementos I think there's no problem right?
Its plain simple, if you are still good friends, return them to her its the right thing to do. This way you will still maintain friendship, especially if you value her advice.
I think that because she allowed you to take them that she knew what she was getting into in the first place, and therefore doesn't have the right to ask for them back. More or less its like she gave them to you. A gift is a gift :)
Maybe you don't need to give her back everything. Keep your copies (i would) whether they really are for your own keepsakes or if you may "happen" to show them to someone. But at least give her what she's entitled to.
If you have some that doesn't show her identity ask could you keep those. If you give them back that means she'll private pictures of you. Ask to keep the one's that her face isn't showing in, if you guys are still somewhat cool ask her to take new ones that doesn't identify her.
whatever happened to this? what did you wind up doing?
I would give her all the photos back, if you respect her as a woman.
if you respect her, as much as you make it sound you do, I would think that you'd respect her, and give her back the pictures...