He told me I was the one. We looked at engagement rings together, talked about a future, where we would live. I introduced him to my family and friends (first serious relationship) and he did the same (for the first time ever). We even went to a wedding together everyone was so happy to meet me, told me I was beautiful and he was a lucky guy. We lived 2hrs apart so it was a struggle sometimes seeing each other but we did the best we could. He told me he loved me and couldn't wait to take our anniversary trip then two days later we had our first major argument and BAM he broke up with me!!
Since then everything has went downhill! He refused to meet me face to face, ignored me, wouldn't return my calls. I just couldn't understand why he didn't fight for us. Was I not good enough in his eyes? Was the long distance really that hard? What about the love and respect we had for one another? Did I not deserve a fair fight after all that? It's even worse my sister is in an amazing relationship with a guy that goes above and beyond for her. I feel so guilty I am actually jealous of her and instead of celebrating with her I feel pain every time I look at them. I'm so upset that this has happened. Not only am I loosing my sister to her potential husband I feel I have also lost my best friend (him) and I am lost!!! I admit I crossed the line and went crazy during post breakup something's I regret but I am still so lost! I want to move on but I don't even know where I went wrong. I can think of a few things but how do I know for sure if he won't talk to me. WHY DID HE GIVE UP ON ME/US?
Most Helpful Guy
The argument you had must have been some sort of deal-breaker. It may well not have seemed a big issue to you, or to any other people, if they knew what it was. But for him, it may well have been. I have a few deal-breakers myself, which on the face of it, seem trivial. But to me, they are important. Thankfully, my lady is perfect, without them ever having to be discussed.
There is a golden rule for making up that my parents were told, and it will always stick with me. Never part, or go to sleep, without making up, no matter who backs down, or how long it takes. You say you crossed the line, but we don't know what line or how far. It may not be our place to know, either. My guess is it could be personal to you.
Two hours apart is nothing in the world of true love. I am suspicious that there has always been some underlying issue that he's come across that has never been discussed. I think he might well be using this argument to end the relationship without it ever having been discussed. It does seem like he's being unreasonable not to be able to give you some idea of what he's thinking and what the problem is. It wouldn't cost him but a short amount of time.1
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Most Helpful Girl
I just went through the same thing. I was in a serious relationship for 9 months with a guy I was 100% committed too. We had our lives planed out. We were going to get married, live in the house he grew up in, we even had our kids names picked out. Then after a really ugly fight he came up to me said "I'm breaking up with you" then walked out. It was really ugly. He didn't return my phone calls then when I finally did hear from him he siad he doesn't think he could ever date me ever again. I dont even know why he broke up! I had the same thoughts you did. Why did he leave me? Was I not good enough? He promised to marry me, how could he just walk out? For over a month I cried over him and mourned my loss. Then one day I woke up and I realized, I didn't need him. If he came back to me I would say no. Now is my chance to find someone who treats me with the upmost respect. So dont fret! You may have thought he was the one, but if he wasn't, imagine how great the actual guy for you will be! You get to do what you want this time. Forget the other guy. If he walked out on you, then he doesn't deserve you. I know it hurts. Trust me I'm hurting too. But I can promise that over time, the first thought you wake up to won't be him, it will be about who the new love of your life will be. Things get better. Its okay to be sad, but also try to be excited for the future!1
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