I have been seeing a guy for the past 3 months and everything has been going fine. 1 month ago he let me know he was going through stress and it affected his sleep etc. it made him depressed. We were getting along fine and he started opening up to me until he shared that with me. The same week I texted him and he replied.. the week after the same. Then for two weeks he didn’t contact me. But I hadn’t seen him since he told me, 1 month. Last week I went on a dating app coz i thought he has ghosted me. He was on there too. (We met on there) it seemed like he was looking for a partner. Anyhow I deleted the app so he couldn’t see me. I thought ok, it’s definitely over and I’m not going to see him again. Yesterday he contacted me out of the blue. I asked him if everything was ok and if I made him feel uncomfortable in anyway because I hadn’t heard from him. He said everything is ok and no I didn’t do anything, he is just bad at replying.
I’m not sure if I should tell him I saw him on the app (it will reveal I was on there too and don’t want him to know) or I should say next time he contacts me.. Hey, I really like you but I feel I’m more into you then you are me and I don’t want us seeing each other stop you from finding someone.. or should I wait a few weeks to say it? Do you think maybe he thought he could find someone better but didn’t?
What should I do? Did he think he could find someone better than me but didn’t?
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If you are this new with eachother there is definitely the possibility that he was looking for "something better", I mean you still can give him a chance and get to know eachother. Plus its not worthy of trying to hide that you went on a dating app because I doubt he thinks of you as his partner, if he was there, then he probably knew there was a possibility of you seeing him there or more so, he probably thought that you were on there still. No need to overthink it. Though I don't know exactly how dating apps work cause I've never downloaded one but is there a chance that he just haven't deleted it without actually using it? I mean u had it and didn't use it so he might've seen you there also of it work like that I don't know
@oldwomanbysoul before we met I told him I was deleting the app. So he would assume that I’m not on it. In regards to him having the app without using it.. when I went on there it said he was online and he had some new pictures up.. he may have went on there out of curiosity like I did. But I didn’t match with anyone or meet anyone. Hopefully that’s the same with him. I doubt he saw me because as soon as I noticed his profile I deleted it. I guess I need to chill, if he is meant to be in my life and has feelings for me then he will stay in my life. If he doesn’t then he will eventually leave.
Ummm dump him , he doesn’t value you he likes the convenience of you period , Do not be fooled from a pos like this , When a guy values a girl he doesn’t disappear on her period , he disappeared because he was weighing his options, when he realized no other girl wanted him , he come running back to you , do yourself a favor and kick him to the curb where he belongs , find yourself someone that truly values you , and focus on yourself , you are just wasting your time being strung along by this douche bag that only cares about himself. You can thank me later , dump him now
@finchie40 it was the first time in 3 months that he disappeared. Maybe he was weighing his options.. maybe he likes me better than the other girl/s.. hence the reason he came back.. who knows. The only way to dump him is by standing my ground and literally say, sorry I don’t want this.. Don’t think I’m ready for that yet.
Yea but he is clearly playing
You girl why waste your time on someone that truly doesn’t value you
Don’t waste your time. You’re obviously not the one. Guys know within a few minutes if they want to take a girl seriously or not. So if he’s still active on a dating app, he’s not interested. Keep dating, don’t settle.
@hearts4u I was active on the dating app too. Why? Because I was curious to know what’s out there. I didn’t find anyone so I deleted it. Maybe he was curious too. Clearly he didn’t find anyone hence not cutting ties with me.
Lol. You think cause he’s still talking to you he’s not talking to someone else? Men are the best liars and manipulators. You’re just an option to him. For him to ghost you for a few weeks and then pop up and his excuse was” I’m bad at texting” no man who is really interested in a girl would do that.
Stop trying to have hope for him it’s okay. There’s men out there that will treat you better. Don’t settle for the bare minimum.
@hearts4u lol maybe he is texting another girl… maybe I’m texting another guy.. two can play at that game..
I mean I feel like you just still want an excuse to talk to talk to him and it’s okay I’ve been in your shoes before. But it doesn’t get better. If you really still wanna keep in contact with him. Play with his feelings, make him feel like you like him and the next few days act cold and distant. Will definitely have him chasing you.