I just blocked my ex, why do I feel sad?

[Anonymous]

He ended our relationship 6 months ago through a text, and it broke my heart but I tried to move on but he would still contact me and confuse me. Just 2 weeks ago he was supposed to come see me and he was texting me and calling me every week. Then all of a sudden he stopped and calling like he usually does and just texted me instead and today he didn't even text or call me. I thought he wanted to work things out because he said he wanted me and that he loves me. I've been putting up with this for 5 months and I'm so sad and hurt so I blocked him. The problem is why do I feel so sad and emotional now. I didn't tell him I was going to stop talking to him I just blocked him.

[juststrollin]

Hi well I think we can get like this because we care and try to be kind to someone and they hurt us in turn or are not even polite with us. I realize that now its human nature that a person keep doing what we allow them to do.

I think you feel sad because you're not used to puting your foot downand saying "No, I deserve better and I treat him better" . What helps me now is that I dont want to waste time with someone who treats me not so nicely when I can have someone who treats me better or focus on improving myself. You should working on being better so you dont fall for this trash again ;/

[Anonymous]

I have been in your shoes before. You are emotional because you are disappointed. One question " when he broke up with you did you move on or you contacted him back?" If not then that is why he stayed contacted you ( insecurity, he wanted to know that he has the power and that you would eventually have you when he wants too) Then when he realized he had you.. he drops you.. I hate that!

[Asker]

After he broke up with me I left him alone but he kept contacting then when I would respond he would ignore me. So about a month after the break up I was fed up with that so I told him I never wanted to talk to him and 1 month went by then I get a call fro him. He acted like a friend for a while then he slowly started telling me he loved me and never wants to lose me. And just 2 weeks ago it seemed we were back together because he said he wanted me but he backed off now.

[Opinion Owner]

then he is an insecure guy who just wants to boost his own ego.. get away from that or else trust me it will crush you..

[amanwalia]

oh if he do like this then you should go off i mean if he keep doing like this that you are responsing him and he is not responsing you then you should get back

[Asker]

You're right he is insecure and needs an ego boost, and I just couldn't take it anymore that's why I had to block him. Also right around the time he started acting distant again he told me his ex showed up at his house at 1 am. Then he told me that his ex fiancé texted him and they talked, she cheated on him 5 years ago and got pregnant by the other man and she is still with that man and has a second child with him. Could he have changed because of the exes contacting him?

[Opinion Owner]

see he enjoys and used to girls being clingy and you werent and that upset him so thats y he talked to you again.. for the self satisfaction.. no the gfs did not change him he is what he is

[Asker]

Thank you so much for taking the time to help me with my question. I just needed to know I made the right choice by blocking him, I put up with him for 6 months because I thought he wanted me back but he obviously doesn't and never will.

[Opinion Owner]

I went through this as well actually weeks ago and even though I know it for a fact that this is the issue I honestly myself still feel like I want to talk to him and unblock him-which I did, up until my friend gave ma an ultimatum and that is either I continue on destroying myself or I we keep our friendship and the friendship was way more important to me than someone who has ego issues. So peace of advise seriously, fight your temptations that are bound to happen. Best :)

[Anonymous]

Hmm... Breaking up is not a sign he wants to work things out. Especially if 6 months passed already. Facts count more than words!
This guy did not have the guts to break up with you in person and cowardly texted you instead... I fear he kept saying those things and called/texted you because he felt guilty over the break up. He used you! And you let him because you love him. He probably found someone else and he does not need you any more...
You did the right thing blocking him, and don't look back. You deserve and you will find a much better guy.

[Anonymous]

Ending all communication is the best way to break up with someone. It's good you blocked him. Don't feed into his games. A good friend once told me, it's not the break up that hurts, it's the disappointment that the person let you down that hurts. Time heals all pain, you just have to give yourself time to get over him. Occupy your time, by focusing on bettering yourself & finding someone new :)

[amanwalia]

If he want to come up again in your life then you should give him last chance try to understand him just go back and get him

[fulloflife]

You miss him