My first relationship; I broke up with him, but immediately regretted it and wanted to undo it. He said we should take a step back and reevaluate. So in an effort to get my emotions in control I said I didn't want to speak to him until he made up his mind whether he wanted to get back together. I didn't talk to him for a few days and proceeded what I needed to before I texted him to share something positive that happened. He said he missed me dearly and was glad I had messaged him because he'd almost called/texted the day before but wanted to respect my wishes.
Since then, he's texted me every day "good morning beautiful"/"how are you?"/"how is your day?" and sent me pictures of stuff he is doing in his life. Yesterday he called and we talked for an hour before I had to go do other things. He's working on the problems he brought to the relationship and volunteered to go to the State Fair with me whenever I want. He doesn't have time to see someone else, and he has said he misses me. But he said that he still needs time to work through stuff and doesn't know if he wants to be in a relationship with me although he says breakups don't need to be permanent and there are always second chances. He also said he knows that I'm not patient and understands if I start dating other people. (Which is the last thing on my mind)
How long do I give him to reasonably figure things out? (I know this is like asking how long is a piece of string, but I have zero relationship experience) Is it positive that we're texting every day and he actually called yesterday? (or is that normal?)
Thank you for any insight. I really appreciate it because I feel so clueless.
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It takes time to recover and time to sort things out. As much as you wouldn't want to be rushed into a relationship, guys don't want to either. The fact that you both want to try again sometime is great and what he could be doing is simply keeping that lane open by being friends. With the exception of my one crazy ex, we are all still close friends. Maybe what he needs right now is a friend not a relationship.0