I feel like my husband hates me after only 5 months of marriage? (Page 3)

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I am very worried about the changes I see in my husband after only 5 months of marriage. 
Before, he used to say marriage was a logical, beautiful thing that united people in a deeply spiritual way. Today he says that it changes nothing, we are still separate humans with separate plans and at any time, something might happen and we might divorce. 
Before, he used to speak about me all the time to his friends, about how we were such a cool couple, so proud of having me next to him... today his marriage ring is gone and last time he invited me to go out with some of his new friends, they didn't even know we lived together. 
But get this - my husband is literally disturbed when I say I love him. He says this shows I'm needy and that every time I say it, "it makes him think hard if he even wants to spend his future with me". My notion of what love is, according to him, is still "high school"-ish.
Before, he would be so happy about making money for us, cleaning the home for us or taking me out. Right now, if I even thank him for cleaning the house, he will say "I did it for myself". He frequently criticizes me for being insecure and once said I look like I am going to "die" all the time. He is also lately struggling to get along with my mother, which is a pain because we are temporarily living in her house. At the beginning mom didn't hesitate to offer us the house, but today she threatened to throw him out because he raised his voice to us both. Because of this, I have been so depressed I considered quitting my job, changing home or even offering to stay at a mental hospital.
The point is, I wish he wasn't angry/bored/irritable all the time next to me. The plans we had before, such as living in another country, have become things I would rather not talk about because his answer will be "don't count on me for anything, plan your life as if things could fail". Please help... the last thing I want is to separate or divorce after 5 months of marriage and at 23 years old!!!

jjesica346 · Answer

It seems as some outside forces (friends/family) have been telling him negative things about either you/marriage. Does he have a weak mind that is easily persuadable?

selmo93 · Answer

Well tried marriage councilling? Somethings changeD in him

bente2 · Answer

It seems like a divorce is the solution here. You do not sound happy.

Anonymous · Answer

Well, better 5 months in than 15 years in.  Has he had any new changes recently? New friend, new job anything like that?  Have you considered marriage therapy?

Djaaaaaay · Answer

Separate humans with separate plans... Really !! Divorce him , that right there is not unity. That guy sound sick in the head. Find someone deserving of you instead.

ProbablyTooMature · Answer

Hurry and get an annulment before the six month mal!

Anonymous · Answer

It sounds like you are failing to perform your wifely duties. he's given up so much for this marriage and is getting nothing out of it.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't know why he's acting that way. I don't understand his change of heart. He is very abusive all of the sudden. You guys should see a marriage therapist.

macix670 · Answer

You married way too young. Perhaps he's just adjusting to his married life now. Maybe it hasn't sink in yet. Give it some time

Paul09 · Answer

Early marriage... From this story, your husband sounds like a D-bag. When you are in a serious realationship, both should respect each other.

foghornleghorn78 · Answer

This sounds like another case where the guy did a cost benefit analysis after the marriage instead of before and realized that there is no benefit for a man to be married.

brewersfan01 · Answer

classic example of why people shouldn't get married so fuckin young!

jacquesvol · Answer

How long did you date before marrying?

Anonymous · Answer

This is why premarital therapy should be required by law...

SovereignessofVamps · Answer

Making $ for us? You don't make any?

BackAgain · Answer

Maybe you've changed and got all clingy

Whaaaaa · Answer

Oh my god... thank god I'm alone

chc0009 · Answer

How did this man impress you in the first place?

Anonymous · Answer

Try talking to him. Young couple usually plan

Anonymous · Answer

Your husband sounds like a douchebag

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